My dear elegant ladies, today,
I'm going to answer the burning question that I know that many of you have been
asking me for so many years,
which is basically the only reason to why I'm doing this video.
But how to have sex, like an elegant lady?
Because how soon should we do it with the guy?
How often is elegant to do it? And last but not least,
what is sex etiquette?
How do we behave like an elegant lady in between the sheets?
Well, ladies, I want to answer all of those questions.
So let's start with topic number one.
So let's start by talking about how soon is to soon or
how long should you wait, basically?
And this is a thing that there is no right and wrong, in my opinion. However,
we do live in a society where there's plenty of right and wrong for women.
So we are going to talk a little bit about that. You see,
one thing that I really want to encourage you all ladies is that it all depends
when you want to have sex. Do you want to have sex soon?
Do you want to wait? If you want to wait,
you have the right to wait and you have the right to wait as long as you want,
until you feel comfortable, until you feel like it.
You should never just be a people pleaser and just do it just because you feel
like there's expectations to do so.
Some ladies might want to have it quite soon and what do we do in that case,
especially since in most cultures, this is not really appropriate.
Because when the woman gives it away too soon,
she is kind of frowned upon. And this is the problem. And, you know,
I wish we could change a lot of things in our patriarchal society.
But unfortunately, ladies, this is the way it currently is.
In some cultures like in Sweden or other Scandinavian countries,
or even some other parts of the Western society,
you will actually have less strict rules for how soon you should be
having sex. For this reason ladies, think about your own culture,
how you feel like, and when you feel like,
and base your own opinion around that. But of course, if you ask me,
my personal opinion is that don't just do it too soon,
because there are a lot of drawbacks.
I do believe that the female species is more vulnerable in terms of
doing it too soon because we can become pregnant.
And then who looks after the child? You. Let's say the man,
you never see him again, but you are going to be kind of stuck there.
So for this reason,
you need to be very cautious of who you let in to water your flower.
I wouldn't just let any gardener into my garden.
I would really be selective of who he is,
what he can do for me if things happen. No, but really,
this is our instinct, ladies. We need to be selfish.
For men, it's easier, but for us, it's a little bit more complicated.
So for this reason,
we can't just let any other Joe into our garden because there might be
consequences after that. By the way,
we need to also quickly touch upon this myth about if a woman gives
it up too soon,
no man will ever marry her because she will forever be
something, something. And I mean, again, it depends on your culture.
You might be in a more conservative culture where indeed the patriarchy
society is ruling strong there and that's the norm.
And that's how people will look at women, unfortunately. But you know,
in modern parts of Western society,
actually, I know many women who have gotten married and had no problems
establishing a long-term relationship with someone that they met and had sex
with, let's say on the first night or on the second day or whatever it is.
So I wouldn't say that this is a strict rule. It doesn't mean that,
let's say, you couldn't hold it back and you did it.
It doesn't necessarily mean it's game over,
but it's definitely not a strategy I would like to promote.
So try and put a lock on the garden until the gardener has showed
himself worthy enough to come and water your little flower.
Let's talk about how often you should be having your sexy time.
How often is elegant? Is it' when you do too much, does it become less elegant?
Well, again,
we go back to the most important point is that you only have
sexy time when you really want to.
This whole thing that if you're in a relationship or if you're dating somebody,
if you're not pleasing him and giving him exactly what he wants,
he's gonna leave you or he's gonna stray and go with somebody else.
And you basically have no choice.
And I personally believe that when you are dealing with men who will cheat on
you or leave you just because you're not doing X, Y, Z in the bed,
or you're not having sex often enough with him,
I do believe that either you're dealing with a sex addict or he's just not that
into you. So I don't want you ladies to be a sexual doormats.
I really want you to only only do it when you really feel
like it, when you really cannot hold it back anymore.
That's the right way, in my opinion,
of having intimate time in your garden.
If you are somebody who wants to have your flower water pretty much every day
and all the time, then of course, again,
reminder that we do live in a patriarchal society where men were frown upon
highly sexual active woman,
especially if she has many gardeners coming and watering
her flower shop.
Sorry, ladies, that was a little bit funny. Okay. Sorry.
Let's say honestly, your libido is very high and that happens.
Not everybody is like this or like that.
Everybody is different and it's okay as a woman to have a high libido.
But the problem is that we cannot let that affect our personal brand.
So my advice is do whatever you want behind closed doors.
That is your personal business, and you have the right to privacy,
but you need to really protect your reputation,
your personal brand in that sense. Because of course,
if everybody around town starts to talking about it. Because let's say,
you're not being discreet enough,
let's say you're doing it too much in the public or you're not necessarily that
you're watering your flowers in public.
But maybe you are making it very obvious.
Okay.
Then that is something that I would really recommend you
to start being mindful about.
It's all about discretion. Elegance is discretion.
I mean, if you look into the affluent community,
there's all kinds of weirdos out there.
But people are discrete and they're elegant on the surface.
And then whatever happens in the bedroom,
stays in the bedroom.
And if rumor starts hitting the town that you're up to all this kind of
business, then you know what?
You need to start thinking about how to repair that damage
because it is repairable.
I wouldn't stress too much about it because
people are always going to be talking.
Rumors are always going to happen,
no matter if you were saints or the devil.
But you need to just be mindful of keeping it discreet and then troubleshoot.
What is it that you're doing right now that might not be discreet that might
create rumors around town.
And also this is for gentlemen as well.
Nobody wants to be Mr. Playboy. I mean, it's just not that elegant anymore.
It's kind of just immature. Now last but not least,
let's talk about the gymnastics of how to actually
do it in the bed as an elegant lady. Okay.
First things first though,
I think the most elegant way of having sex is to really keep
your hygiene fresh because you definitely don't want to be a stinky flower.
You want to be a fresh, elegant, little flower that you are.
And truly, overdo it with your hygiene rather than underdo it.
If you are unsure,
just do a little bit extra like this that it's all good. I mean,
I don't recommend you to have like have three, five showers a day. No,
but try to do something like for sure once per day, but I don't know.
Maybe change your underwear more regularly. Maybe apply hair perfume,
maybe apply a nice body lotion with your perfume as well,
have a really good deodorant, all those types of things.
But those are the basics. This is just a little reminder.
But if we're going to talk a little bit about the actual technicalities,
then I think one thing that you need to really take into account is that
there is no such thing as kind of elegance and etiquette once you are in action.
Because if you start kind of thinking about all these
details or do's and don'ts,
then you're going to start holding yourself back.
And that's really bad because you know, what's going to happen?
You're not going to be present.
And elegance in bed is all about being as present as you
possibly can. It's right there right now. You need to forget your everyday life,
disconnect with the other world and just be there with your partner.
You need to allow yourself to also connect with your own sensuality,
with your most passionate self.
Because only then are you going to really enjoy it but also your partner.
Be yourself. Let loose. Have fun.
Don't overthink it.
And if you start feeling that this is not working for me.
I'm starting to feel bored. Don't ever lay there looking bored,
because then you're forever going to be a bad lay.
Ladies, then just excuse yourself.
The same way you would excuse yourself elegantly somewhere else when it's just
not working out. You politely remove yourself from the situation,
instead of just, you know, stare at the wall or something like that.
And last but not least, don't forget safety first.
I'm not going to give you a little speech like they do in school,
but you know what I'm talking about, always stay safe.
If you haven't been tested for any sexual transmitted diseases,
then make sure you wear a condom.
Ladies, what does elegance in the bed mean for you?
And do you think that I'm right when I say that you should never on the expense
of yourself, become a sexual doormat? Let me know in the comments below.
Now in my next video,
seven things elegant ladies never do in the bedroom.
We're not going to talk sex,
but we surely going to talk about some of the things that you should not be
doing in bed. I will see you in that video.