No matter the personality type, anyone can fall prey to a narcissist. However,
INFJs have a particular set of traits that make them one of the most vulnerable types for
the narcissist to prey upon. INFJ empathy can quickly overrule their intuition and
make it so that it’s nearly impossible to stop giving narcissists the benefit of the doubt
and that’s exactly what the narcissist looks for in a victim.
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Number 1: The fairytale love expectation It’s no secret that INFJs set the bar
high for really anyone they allow into their lives. This introverted personality type
spends a great deal of their time in their own heads thinking about the best possible future
outcomes. They’re constantly questioning when they’re going to get their dream job, find their
purpose in life, and of course, when they’re going to meet their true soulmate. So, when a
narcissist grabs the attention of an INFJ through their compulsive fairytale-like love-bombing,
the INFJ can be easily convinced that this is the true romance they’ve been waiting for.
They feel like they’re finally getting the attention, affection and adoration they haven’t
been able to find elsewhere. And once someone has made it into the inner circle of an INFJs life,
it’s extremely difficult for an INFJ to let go. Number 2: Their strong empathetic nature
INFJs can almost always be roped in by a seemingly genuine emotional conversation, and
narcissists know this as a crucial step getting closer to their victims. With an INFJs strong
empathetic nature, they can easily be tugged at by their heart strings. They’re sensitive to the
emotions and behaviors that come from a narcissist because they can feel the hurt they have inside.
The INFJ personality type is kind, non-judgmental and has a hard time turning people down who grab
their attention through a sob story. In fact, they may ruminate about someone’s situation
for days wondering how they can help in any way. This is the exact sensitivity
narcissists need in order to manipulative someone for their kind hearted-nature.
Number 3: Their habit of always wanting to see the best in people
While there may be quite obvious red-flags within a connection, INFJs have the habit of
looking for the light and lesson within it all. When an INFJ is caught helping a toxic person,
they are continuously convincing themselves that there has been progress made
or that things are going to change for the better. They are naturally attuned to the
heart behind the hurt that may cause the narcissist to do the things they’ve done
and continue to do. While others may be looking in and seeing a different scenario,
an INFJ can easily overlook the distress of a connection and focus on seemingly good qualities
and advantages. However, when an INFJ finally sees the other side of things, they can’t unsee it.
Number 4: They ignore their intuition if the circumstances are right
INFJs rely on their introverted intuition aka gut feelings when making judgemental calls and
decisions in life. However, when it comes to making judgement calls on a narcissist,
it becomes extremely confusing for an INFJ. When they are being flattered, treated,
and pampered with love-bombing, they not only have trouble taking off their rose-colored
glasses to get a sense of reality, but they are flooded by so many emotions that they
take it as a good sign from their intuition. Narcissist can also be extremely convincing,
so even if an INFJ had an intuitive curiosity that they wanted to discuss, a narcissist would
promptly come up with a convincing answer - making the INFJ think they’re just overthinking things.
Number 5: They despise conflict
The INFJ peace-keeper will avoid conflict and disruption to their calm inner world at any cost.
One of the main reasons an INFJ keeps such few people around
is that they require continuous harmony in all connections they have.
They may keep quiet about something that bothers them in order to avoid an argument, and they may
brush some things under the rug to avoid seeming as if they’re blowing things out of proportion.
This may have an INFJ feeling like they’re walking on eggshells around a toxic partner or friend,
and because narcissists hate being challenged, this is how they prefer it to be.
Not only are INFJs more prone to rationalizing and denying the behavior of their abusers but they
also can be convinced that the mistreatment is all in their head. They may speak up for
themselves and then quickly apologize for bringing anything up because of the conflict that arises.
Number 6: They have a tendency to want to fix others
Most INFJs, if not all INFJs, would probably know themselves to be an empath to some degree.
Between their intuitive strengths and their overly compassionate nature, INFJs have a deep desire to
help others. While this allows them to genuinely connect to people who are struggling, it also
means that they can easily be roped in by people who prey upon this empathy. INFJs can easily make
it a personal duty to fix a toxic person who doesn't take accountability for their own healing.
This is especially true when this empathetic personality type considers
the narcissist a close connection, whether it be a spouse, family member, or close friend.
Number 7: They want to be wanted
Like anyone, it’s human nature to want to be wanted. We all want to feel the love and
admiration we think we deserve, and while an INFJ’s independence makes it seem as if they’re
uninterested in all incoming attention, they can easily be flattered just like the rest of
us. The INFJ actually cares about what others think of them more than they’d like to admit,
and when someone shows interest in them, they can easily change their mind about a person.
Since this introverted type isn’t as forthcoming with their advances on possible connections,
they much rather rely on other people showing interest first, which is one thing a narcissist
does best. This means that narcissists can easily charm their way into an INFJs heart
by making them want and understand. And while most shy INFJs won’t show interest right off the bat,
a narcissist who is not easily offended and slightly persistent seem like the perfect match.
Number 8: They struggle with being firm about what they want
Narcissists can easily convince an INFJ that they’re the ones who have something wrong with
them. This is because INFJs have a tendency to finally get to the point of standing up for
themselves, and then backing down and questioning if what they’re trying to communicate is actually
what they’re feeling. INFJs who are stuck in these types of connections are stuck between
their intuition and their logic, which makes them seem indecisive when in reality they know exactly
what they need to do. This second guessing gives a narcissist the upper-hand by convincing the INFJ
that they’re confused in what they want and what they think about the connection.
Deep down, the narcissist is usually fully aware of what they’re trying to communicate to them,
but they keep the INFJ in their grasp by acting as if they are
clueless by rhyming off all the ways they positively contribute to the connection.
Number 9: They are intrigued by human behavior
INFJs are drawn to people of character. They want to dive deep into the minds of
people they meet to fully understand their emotions and reasons for doing things. While
this allows the INFJ to really understand people on a deeper level, this curiosity can
lead to some mentally draining connections. The INFJ - narcissist connection keeps the
INFJ on their toes because it’s difficult to fully get a grasp on what’s really happening,
resulting in the INFJ taking on the connection as some sort of challenge. They can intuitively feel
that something is not right, but they can’t quite put their finger on it. This creates a whirlwind
of inner conflict, inner challenges, and even further encouragement to put the pieces together.
Number 10: They can feel like they’re not good enough
While everyone goes through their times of not feeling good enough,
or maybe even feeling desperate for a connection with someone,
an INFJ has felt misunderstood for the majority of their lives. They carry around a lot of
self-doubt, and uncertainty throughout their lives because they hold such high expectations
for themselves that they can go through periods of feeling like they’re not doing enough. The
unfortunate part is that not only does this insecurity attract uncertain or toxic connections,
but it also contributes to the people-pleasing nature that allows an INFJ to feel a quick
sense of gratification for their accomplishments. Ironically, narcissists prey upon people-pleasing
people because that’s all they’re looking for in their connections.. to be pleased!
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