Heya playa, do you ever feel like life is just statistically working against you? That
no matter how hard you try, you'll never be as successful as other people because of your
race, your height, how much money you make, your status in life, or do you ever feel like
women just use and abuse nice guys? That statistically, you have no chance of succeeding because you're
not excelling at all the other things that I mentioned. If that's the case, if that's
how you feel, then you might have been black pilled and that's something I want to talk
to you about today because I think that there's a solution for this, I think there's a way
to escape the harsh realities that the black pill brings you to. This is The Josh Speaks,
you're watching The Josh Speaks. For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh
and every single week I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to
be your best self so if you want to learn and grow, hit the subscribe button and make
sure to click on the notification bell. Some of you might be wondering what exactly is
the "black pill"? Well if you've ever heard of the movie The Matrix, you might have heard
of this red pill, blue pill concept. Basically to take the blue pill means to live in this
manufactured reality. One that society has dictated for you with norms and traditions
and customs that are set to always work out but really actually don't. And that leads
us to the red pill which is to finally wake up. To see the Matrix. To see the world for
what it really is and how it actually operates. This blue pill, red pill concept tends to
make it's way into other facets of life, like dating for example. By taking the blue pill,
you're assured that by being a nice guy, sweet, caring, and loving all the time, that girls
going to realize how awesome of a person you are and the two of you are going to live happily
ever after. But by taking the red pill, you're realizing that girls like guys with a bit
of edge, girls don't like guys that they can walk all over and you have to kind of be a
bit of a jerk in order to get them to like you. and that's something I've talked about.
Balancing both of those characteristics but the black pill is something totally different.
The black pill is basically telling you, listen. If you are a certain race, if you're not a
certain height, if you're not making a certain amount of money, then you have no chance of
dating, it's not even worth trying. You've given up on even just pursuing people, of
trying to date them because you have no chance. Woah, that's a harsh reality, don't you think?
Well, some people actually believe that. They feel they've been black pilled and there's
no chance of recovery or return for them but in this video, I want to walk you through
what I think you can do to challenge that black pill narrative so you can actually find
a path forward in life that you can be proud of. First off, one of the most common things
I hear is that women and feminism are out to destroy society, destroy the world and
destroy the universe but I think we should actually look deeper into how relationships
have changed over the years because one of the most common black pill arguments is that
women only want guys because of their money, and their success and their fame and their
fortune, and that that's all they crave. But it's just not true. Dating and relationships
have evolved over the years, at some point the assets that a man offered mattered most
and the emotions that came with the connection between the two of them really didn't matter
all that much. But nowadays things have changed. Women are self-sufficient, women can take
care of themselves, they can provide for themselves, they can get jobs and go to school and pursue
the careers that they want so, what they're looking for now is a more deeper, emotional
connection and less so much relying on a man and his assets. Now that concept does depend
on where you live in the world, but I would say primarily here in the US where women have
access to those growth opportunities, they're not as focused so much on what can a man bring
to the table for me, and yes, there is some traditional thinking, people do still carry
over those older ideas but I think we really have to look deeper under the surface to understand
what the root of it is. At the end of the day, what we all want in a relationship is
a partner that cares about us. Someone that's going to ask us how we're doing, that's going
to check in with us, that's gonna make us feel safe and secure in their presence. Now
for some people, that might be financial, for other people that might be more emotionally,
for others it might just be in showing curiosity and a genuine interest in who you are as a
person. There's no standard way to care for someone, each of us are unique in our own
way. But what tends to happen in the black pill community is that they'll study the behavior
of college girls, or 20-something year olds, of people that are in their lives looking
for adventure and excitement and discovery for who they are, they're trying things out,
they're testing things, they're learning about themselves in that process. But for some reason
the black pill community demonizes that, they look at it like it's bad behavior because
they're not ready to settle down in a relationship which is not true because at the end of the
day, all those behaviors are gonna help shape that person and put them on a path to start
to discover what they want and don't want in a relationship. A black pill person might
believe that if a woman has had multiple partners throughout her life, has made bad decisions
or good ones, or maybe even has a kid then she's damaged goods, she's no good. She's
gonna look for a sucker that's gonna take care of her kid and her because that's her
primary goal in life. Well, let me tell you this. If you think in generalities about women,
the specific answer you're looking for to solve your problem is never going to be there.
I've had so many conversations with people who say they've been black pilled who tend
to speak in these general terms without actually getting to their story. And I think the reason
why they do that is because once we actually dive deep into your personal stories, your
shortcomings, your failures, your hardships, the things that you struggle with, then it
actually becomes real. Then it actually becomes something you can work on and aim to solve
but if you stay in these general ideas that all women are bad because all women, most
women, some women think like that, you're setting yourself up to lose. A lot of times
the reasons why a person isn't succeeding seem pretty standard across the board. It
always seems to come down to looks, race, money, status, and height. If you feel like
you lack the necessary criteria to succeed in all of those categories or even some of
those categories then I think you're just really focusing on the things you don't have
control over when you should be focusing on what you actually bring to the table. For
example, in the black pill community, if you're someone that's tall, you're rich, you're good
looking, you're white and you're popular, well then yeah, you're gonna have the cream
of the crop, all the women in the world are going to flock to you because you're the ideal
person and for everyone else that lacks that criteria, you're not gonna get anyone. You're
doomed to suffer forever. And when I hear people speak like that, it makes me feel like
you've taken your own insular little blue pill because just looking around, you see
that people of all ages and races and status' and wealth are with each other. There isn't
a standard across the board that's followed. Yes, maybe there's a Hollywood ideal type
but that's not reality. And if you want to shift the goal post a little and say something
like well maybe not all women are going to flock to guys like that but most women want
guys with some of those characteristics so for me, someone who's Asian and short and
not wealthy and not that good looking or isn't really that popular has a horrible chance
of succeeding. And the thing is, depending on what society you live in, you might be
right. Maybe you do have those disadvantages that are making it harder for you to succeed
but why are you spending all of your time focusing only on your disadvantages and not
trying your best to highlight the things that make you someone worth caring about. Why aren't
you looking at your personality and saying "Hey, I'm a really fun person to talk to,
I'm really funny, I'm really interesting and I'm really caring as an individual. Those
are the positive things I bring to the table and that's what I should highlight first and
foremost. Now granted, your best qualities might not be something that's on full display
as soon as they see you or meet you but, that's where confidence has to kick in. That's where
you have to be confident about what you bring to the table so that they can believe in you
to bring you in for a round 2 to learn more about you.Not to mention the fact that as
humans, we tend to highlight our own negative aspects more than other people actually recognize
them so here's an example of that. Let's say you're talking to a girl, she rejects you
because you're short and she wants someone who's really really tall. Well you'll tend
to believe that every girl you interact with moving forward wants a tall guy. Every single
girl thinks that you're too short to date and this is the problem with human psychology
and just humans in general. We tend to take the negative opinion of one and we broadcast
it on to everyone else. Think about making a YouTube video and getting one negative comment,
you may get 100 positive ones but you'll hone in on that negative one because you feel like
that person see's the truth and everyone else is just there to stroke your ego. What this
ultimately comes down to is practicing some semblance of self-love. Of caring about yourself
and what you bring to the table. Recognizing that yeah, certain things are out of your
control but you do have certain things within your control. You can work on your personality,
you can work on your ambition and drive and your focus in life. You can work on what you're
passionate about and how you aspire to be in this world, who you aspire to help and
care for. Those are all things that are within your power and if you put those skills at
the top and you make those your priorities, yeah, that way when a girl tells you you're
too short or don't make enough money, you know deep down inside that her opinion should
not dictate how you feel about yourself. I know some of you are going to just outright
dismiss everything I said here because you feel like I don't understand how the world
works or I just don't get your personal story and I understand that. I totally see where
you're coming from. I can only speak from my experience, my thoughts, and my own experiences.
But I will tell you something that I believe is consistent all throughout every single
person out there. You are someone that matters. You are someone special and what you have
to bring to the table is something that no one has ever seen before. There's no one else
in this world exactly like you, no one has ever existed and no one ever will exist. So,
bring your best self forward. Show the world what makes you you and be proud of who you
are. Don't let others dictate how you should be because you have what it takes to be somebody
great. I truly truly believe that. Now I want to hear exactly what you think so sound off
in the comments down below. If you think I'm full of it, I'm totally wrong, let me know.
If you want to share your personal experiences in life, why you've been black pilled, why
you feel like dating and life is working against you, leave a comment down below. I'd love
to hear your story and talk to you about it. On that note, I wanna give a huge shout out
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what I also want you to do is to check out the resources over there on the side those
videos are going to break down more black pill, incel, MGTOW type of concepts, things
that I've talked about along the way, me sharing my opinions. I think that it'll be super helpful
for you, it's worth checking out so check out the video, check out the playlist and
I will catch you guys next time, as always, love and peace.