Your mind has to be stronger than your feelings, think about
every poor decision you've made in your life, there was more emotion that was involved in it
than there was mind. Every single one of them, think about it.
Your feelings keep you in bed, your mind tells you, “get up”.
When I talk to all my athletes, I say, “describe winning in one word to me”.
And everybody would think about, you know, they would be like,
“it's happy, it's, you know, it's euphoric, it's all those things”.
And it is, but those constant winners, their answers were,
“it’s unpolished, it's uncivilized, it's nasty, it's hard, it's dirty,
it's unforgiving”. And then Kobe comes up and says,
“it's everything, it's everything”. And if you think about it,
and very few people are genuine about this,
and you know the ones that are, you know, the ones that aren't.
How do you feel when somebody is really close to you
and they win? It’s an unbelievable feeling.
Unbelievable feeling. How do you feel when you win?
Unbelievable feeling, even though it's short lived.
How do you feel when your kids win? It's unbelievable.
That feeling is everything. It is everything.
That feeling is everything. Your mind has to be stronger than your feelings.
Your mind has to be stronger than your feelings, think about
every poor decision you've made in your life, there was more emotion that was involved in it
than there was mind. Every single one of them, think about it.
Your feelings keep you in bed, your mind tells you, “get up”.
Think about it, every single day,
your mind is the one that tells you, “get up”. And your feelings are like,
“an extra 30 minutes, just don't worry about it”. And every single one, your mind
has to be stronger than your feelings. Listen, it's not the popular decision,
you are going to hurt, you are going to piss a lot of people off,
are you going to piss them off for the short term, are you going to piss them off for the long term?
I've had so many individuals, athletes that I used to train back in the day
and I used to tell them, “you're not good enough to go to the NBA,
but you can make a ton of money overseas”. And I said, “what do you want to do?”
I said, “overseas you can make, you can literally have a very long career,
be extremely popular over there, live a nice lifestyle
and be successful for numerous years”. “You don't know what you're talking about”.
“OK, I'm telling you”. Ten years come by, they're chasing the NBA dream,
they don't make it, I run into them and they come up to me and say,
“you're the only one that told me, you’re the only one that told me”.
Well, here's the thing, so when's the best time for the truth?
All the time. It's the best
time for the truth, all the time. The truth should lead to more action,
but what does it usually do? It leads to more emotions.
So when you tell somebody the truth, what's the first thing, anybody in a relationship,
you go in a relationship with business, personal, whatever it is,
the first thing they always ask me, honesty, honesty is the most important,
until you're honest. Then the emotions get in and then
everything goes haywire, then your mind, your mind has to be stronger than your feelings.