Hey friends, I'm here to help you know how to be a better wife to your husband.
And you know, if you've been kind of struggling in your relationship and just
aren't like connecting, you're definitely gonna want to check out my tips I got
for you today. Because they are awesome. Off the charts. Check it out.
You probably noticed. I am in the garage. No, you know, I actually did another video
about how to connect with your son. And you know what? Your husband is a boy only
he's older. So, it's about location, location, location.
If you want to connect with your husband, you got to go where he is. You got to hang
out where he is. It's not always about them coming to you.
Sometimes you're going to go to them. Go to where their space is. And then when you
get to that space, there's some.. There's three tips that I have for you. The first
tip... And this... Oh, you guys. This, seriously? This... I put this as number 1 and the
reason why it's number 1 is because it is off the charts, the most important
advice that I can give you. So, you're really going to want to check this one out.
If you want to connect with your husband, you have to love yourself first. I have
been in a place in my life where I didn't like me. I didn't like my body and
I didn't like this and I didn't like that. And I was so critical of me like I
honestly was to the point where I could say I hated myself. 12 years ago I was in
a really really bad place. Very overweight, very low self-esteem. Not... No
confidence. And my life was all about me. I was so focused on me and I really got
to the point where I didn't like me and when I didn't like me, I kind of like
built up this wall around myself and I didn't let anyone in. And because I
didn't like me... If I didn't love me, I couldn't feel anyone else's love. So, why
would my husband want to give me love because I wasn't receiving it. I was like
totally rejecting his love. And he felt that from me and because I was rejecting
my love for myself, I was rejecting his love from me, I couldn't connect. I
couldn't love him, I couldn't feel him loved me.
So, that really is number 1. I start liking you. Because when you like
you, wow! Your relationship will just literally explode. Because you'll build
the capacity to like love. And when you can love yourself, you'll have the
capacity to connect and love your husband in a way you've never done
before. So, love yourself first. That's number 1.
Like we could stop now because really, that would make the most difference. But
I got some more for you. Okay, well share few more things. Number 2, this is a
good one. Understanding. They have their own point of view.
Like their point of view and your point of view are completely different. And
you're going to find this out in multiple ways. I just had an experience just a
couple days ago. Where my husband and I had my point of view, he had his point
of view about the exact same situation. It was like black and white
difference. I saw my way, he saw his way and I like was thinking you know, in the
situation, what happened. I was like expecting him to apologize to me because
I couldn't believe what happened. And guess what? He explained his side of the
story, he was expecting an apology from me.
And I was like, "Are you kidding me? I'm not apologizing to you. You owe me an
apology." But the crazy thing it was just because we had two different points of
view. So, in that moment, what I did is I shut my mouth. And I listened. I just
listened. It was really hard to like bite my tongue. And shove my lips because I
wanted to express myself in that situation. I wanted to share with him.
This is wrong. What you're thinking is wrong. This is what happened. But I did it.
I really listened to his point of view and when he was done sharing with his
point hit with its sharing with me, his point of view, I still kind of didn't
completely agree with it. But it helped me to understand. And once I had
understanding then I realized you know, what we both
have a different point of view and that's okay. It helped me to connect with
him. And it didn't you know, in the past it would have like completely pushed us
apart. Because I would have opened my big mouth. I would have said what I wanted to
say and then we would have had an argument. And then we wouldn't have
talked for like a day or a week or something. If you've ever been there
before. But this time, I shut my mouth and I listened. And I recognized he has a
point of view that I deserve to listen to. Or he deserves to have me listen to.
And even though I may not have agreed with it, I was willing to open my mind to
know that he has his own point of view and that's okay. So, understanding that
your husband has his own point of view will really help you to connect. It's
going to help you to be a better wife. And you're going to feel better and you're
going to have that loving relationship that you so want.
Alright, here's number 3. This is a big one. Forgiveness. You got to start
forgiving yourself. When you forgive yourself, you literally build the
capacity to have forgiveness for your spouse.
So start forgiving yourself. You know we all make mistakes. We all do things in
our life that we know regret or we we're not happy with it. I mean, I make mistakes
literally every single day. But when I make those mistakes, at the end of the
day, I ponder on my day and I think about it and I'm like, "Oh, you know what? I got to
forgive myself for that." And as I forgive myself, each day, it builds the capacity
for me to forgive my husband. And that? Ah! That one alone, forgiveness, will make
such a difference for you and your spouse. And you... You know when you do that?
You'll connect. Let's just go back here. First, you've got to love self. Second,
understand their point of view and number 3, forgive yourself so that
you can have the capacity to forgive them. I know that I make a difference for
you and I'm excited that you're here today. I really hope that helped.
I know that in my life, I've had times when my husband and I did not connect.
And I hope that into sharing a little bit about you know, my life and my
experience made the difference for you. And if you've got a great idea,
type it in the comments below. I want to hear about it. And I'm sure that there's
a other girlfriends out there that would like to hear about it too. In fact, my
husband and I, we have been teaching a class called Royalty and Romance for the
last... Oh quite a few years now. It is... Oh! It's the... It's the best. It's the bomb
when it comes to relationships. Seriously. It's an amazing class. Amazing
course that you could take. There's a link below. Go ahead and register. It's
incredibly affordable for you and your spouse. It would make a difference for
you to come to this class for three days and experience what we had to share
with you. Seriously, an upgrade in your
relationship. So, check it out.