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>>> GOOD MORNING, EVERYONE. GOOD MORNING, EVERYBODY, AND
WELCOME.
WELCOME.
IM MEGYN KELLY. WOULD YOU CONSIDER AN OPEN
MARRIAGE?
MARRIAGE?
OR ANY SORT OF CONSENSUAL NONMONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP?
NONMONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP? SOME MIGHT CALL IT MONOGAMISH.
A TERM USED TO DESCRIBE COUPLES
THAT ARE TOGETHER, COMMITTED BUT
NOT SEXUALLY EXCLUSIVE.
THERE ARE DIFFERENT TYPES OF
THESE RELATIONSHIPS, OPEN
MARRIAGES, SWINGING AND POLYAMRY
AND TODAY WE ARE GOING IN DEPTH
ON A FEW.
ON A FEW. FIRST UP I SPOKE TO ONE
TEXAS-BASED FAMILY WHO DEFINED
THEIR RELATIONSHIP AS A
COMMITTED PARTNERSHIP BETWEEN
THREE PEOPLE.
WATCH.
>> ME AND BROOKE MET IN A
NIGHTCLUB IN AUSTIN, TEXAS.
WHEN WE FIRST GOT TOGETHER,
BROOKE MADE IT VERY CLEAR THAT
SHE WASNT GOING TO GIVE UP
WOMEN FOR ME BECAUSE SHE HAD
BEEN HAVING RELATIONSHIPS WITH
WOMEN UP TO THEN.
I RESPONDED AND SAID IF THATS THE CASE IM NOT GOING TO GIVE
THEM UP FOR YOU EITHER AND WE
STARTED OUR RELATIONSHIP.
>> KIND OF A MUTUAL
UNDERSTANDING.
>> IT WAS GOOD BECAUSE WE HAD THAT OPEN COMMUNICATION RIGHT AT
THE BEGINNING.
THE BEGINNING. WE WOULD GO OUT AND WE WOULD
MEET GIRLS TOGETHER.
NOTHING REALLY TURNED INTO A
REAL RELATIONSHIP UNTIL WE MET
JANE.
JANE.
>> IN A TYPICAL MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP, I WOULD ALWAYS GET
BORED REALLY FAST SO IVE NEVER
HAD ANY SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP FOR
PAST THREE MONTHS.
OH, IM OVER THAT AND MOVE ON TO
THE NEXT ONE.
>> I HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH
ADAM, I HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH
JANE AND THE THREE OF US HAVE A
RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER.
RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER. SO THEY EACH PROVIDE THINGS FOR
ME IN THAT RELATIONSHIP THAT THE
OTHER ONE CANT.
>> PLEASE WELCOME BROOKE SHED,
ADAM LYONS AND JANE SHELAHOVA.
GREAT TO HAVE YOU ALL HERE.
ALL RIGHT.
ALL RIGHT.
SO THIS IS FASCINATING. WE HAVE BEEN REFERRING TO YOU AS
A THRLOUPLE.
A THRLOUPLE. THERES A COUPLE AND YOURE LIKE
A THROUPLE.
A THROUPLE. IT SEEMS TO WORK FOR YOU.
EVERY MAN IS LOOKING AT YOU LIKE
THAT DIDNT I HASGUY HAS IT MADE
DID YOU ALWAYS HAVE
ASPIRATIONING OF A RELATIONSHIP
LIKE THIS?
LIKE THIS?
>> NO, I DONT THINK I HAD.
MOST OF US FIND OURSELVES FALL
INTO A RELATIONSHIP, THEY CALL IT FALLING IN LOVE., THEY CALL
IT FALLING IN LOVE. AND THATS WHAT HAPPENED.
I FELL INTO THIS.
IM NOT COMPLAINING ABOUT IT BUT
IT CAN BE HARD WORK ADDSS WELL.
>> IT ALMOST SEEMS LIKE IT COULD
BE A BLESSING.
YOU HAVE ANOTHER PERSON THERE,
RESPONSIBILITIES ARE SPLIT THREE
WAYS.
WAYS.
I WOULD THINK IF I WERE IN ONE OF YOUR POSITIONS, I WOULD GET
JEALOUS.
JEALOUS.
>> THERES ABSOLUTELY JEALOUSY ALL THE TIME BUT YOU HAVE TOY
ALL THE TIME BUT YOU HAVE TO QUESTION YOURSELF WHEN THAT
COMES UP.
COMES UP.
WHY AM I JEALOUS?
IS THIS A PROBLEM I HAVE WITH MY
PARTNER OR A PROBLEM I HAVE WITH
MYSELF.
I LOVE THE BOTH OF THEM AND I
WANT THEM TO BE HAPPY.
WHEN I HAVE JEALOUSY, I TRY AND
REMEMBER THAT THEY NEED TO WORK
ON THEIR RELATIONSHIP AS WELL.
>> YOU KNOW HOW WHEN YOU HAVE
TWO BEST FRIENDS, YOU HAVE THREE
BEST FRIENDS AND TWO PAIR OFF AND THE THIRD ONE IS LEFT OFF
AND THE THIRD ONE IS LEFT FEELING LIKE, HEY, WHAT ABOUT
ME.
ME.
ARE TWO OF YOU CLOSER THAN TWO
OTHERS OR IS IT ALL EQUAL?
>> WE ARE BONDING ON DIFFERENT POINTS TOGETHER.G ON DIFFERENT
POINTS TOGETHER. SO LIKE, FOR EXAMPLE, THEY ARE
VERY BIG ON FANTASY WORLD AND
MEDIEVAL KIND OF TIMES AND ME
AND ADAM ARE BASED MORE
REALISTIC AND PROGRESSIVE STUFF
AND ME AND BROOKE ARE MORE
FEMININE, WATCHING MOVIES, KIND
OF CHILL TIME.
SO EACH ONE OF US KIND OF --
EACH COUPLE OF US BONDING ON
DIFFERENT SPOTS BETWEEN EACH
OTHER.
OTHER.
SO I DONT GET AS MUCH JEALOUS
WHEN ADAM AND BROOKE GO TO -- OH, PLEASE GO AND VICE VERSA.
WHEN ME AND ADAM DO WORK TRIPS,
ITS GOING TO BE ALL WORK AND
BORING, YOU GUYS GO.
>> WHAT ABOUT YOU, DO YOU GET
TOUGH WHEN JANE AND BROOKE GO
OFF TOGETHER?
OFF TOGETHER?
>> ITS TOUGH. I GET REALLY SAD ABOUT IT.
>> ILL BET.
IF I MAY, HOW DO YOU SLEEP AT
NIGHT?
NIGHT?
WHATS THE SLEEPING ARRANGEMENTS?EPING
ARRANGEMENTS?
>> RIGHT NOW THINGS ARE CRAZY BECAUSE WERE SLEEP TRAINING OUR
INFANT SON AND IM HUGELY
PREGNANT SO SLEEP IS
UNCOMFORTABLE, BUT GENERALLY WE
ALL SHARE A KING-SIZE BED.
>> THE THREE OF YOU?
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> THATS SO UNCOMFORTABLE.
MY HUSBAND AND I AND OUR
3-YEAR-OLD CANT SLEEP IN THE
KING-SIZE BED COMFORTABLY.
>> THERES AN ART TO IT.
WE HAVE TWO BED SHEETS AND
THERES A LINE RIGHT DOWN THE
CENTER AND I OVERLAP THEM SO I
CAN GET OUT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE
NIGHT IF I NEED TO.
>> SO WHEN THE FEELING COMES
OVER YOU AND YOURE IN THE MOOD
FOR A LITTLE LOVING, LIKE HOW
DOES THAT WORK?
DO YOU KICK SOMEBODY OUT OR WHAT
HAPPENS?
HAPPENS?
>> WELL, IDEALLY THE THREE OF US ARE TOGETHER.LLY THE THREE OF US
ARE TOGETHER.
THATS OUR PERFECT SCENARIO. SOMETIMES IF ONE PERSON IS NOT
FEELING IT, THAT PERSON TENDS TO
GIVE THE OTHER TWO A BIT OF
PRIVATE TIME, SOME GROWN-UP
TIME.
TIME.
>> YOURE KIND OF TALKING ME
INTO IT.
>> ITS GREAT.
>> HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU BEEN
THERE WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND
YOURE LIKE IM REALLY NOT --
WHAT IF THERE WERE ANOTHER
PERSON IN THE BED.
YOU CAN GO THERES JANE.
>> ITS REALLY CONVENIENT. >> TRY HER.LY CONVENIENT.
>> TRY HER. >> THAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS MORE
OFTEN THAN WED LIKE TO ADMIT
BUT ITS SO CONVENIENT.
>> SO NOW YOU TWO HAVE A SON AND
A CHILD ON THE WAY.
>> WE HAVE -- I HAVE A SON, WE
HAVE A SON TOGETHER.
THEY JUST HAD A CHILD TOGETHER
AND WE HAVE ANOTHER ONE ON THE
WAY.
WAY.
>> SO HOW DOES -- HOW DOES THAT WORK WITH LIKE THE CHILDREN?HAT
WORK WITH LIKE THE CHILDREN? HOW ARE THEY UNDERSTANDING THE
RELATIONSHIP?
RELATIONSHIP?
>> WELL, THE FIRST BORN, HES 8
NOW, SO I CAME INTO THE RELATIONSHIP WHEN HE WAS ALREADY
3.
3.
AND I BECAME HIS COOL PARENT
FIGURE, NOT NECESSARILY A MOM,
BUT WE HANG OUT LOTS OF TIMES AND WE BONDED.T LOTS OF TIMES
AND WE BONDED. BUT I LET HIM CALL ME JANE JUST
BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO PUSH
MOMMY ROLE IN ANY WAY.
WHEREAS OUR 3-YEAR-OLD, I WAS
THERE WHEN HE WAS BORN SO I AM A
MOM AND BROOKE IS A MOM AS WELL
SO WERE BOTH MOMS.
>> IS ANYBODY MARRIED?
>> NO.
>> NO.
>> SO ITS NOT LIKE AGAINST THE
LAW.
WHAT ABOUT YOUR FAMILIES, HOW
HAVE THEY REACTED?
>> OH, GOODNESS.
I THINK IT WAS A BIT OF A SHOCK
AT FIRST.
HONESTLY COMING OUT AS BISEXUAL TO MY FAMILY WAS EASIER THANUAL
TO MY FAMILY WAS EASIER THAN COMING OUT THAN BEING IN A
POLY FAMILY.
POLY FAMILY. >> IS THAT HOW YOU REFER TO IT?
>> ITS HOW PEOPLE REFER TO US.
WE THINK OF OURSELVES AS FAMILY.
WE DONT PUT A LABEL ON IT,
WERE JUST US.
WE KEEP TO OURSELVES, DO OUR OWN
THING.
THING.
OUR FRIENDS THAT KNOW, KNOW BUT
THATS ABOUT IT. >> IS ANYONE ELSE GOING TO JOIN
THE GROUP OR IS THIS IT?
>> NOT CURRENTLY.
>> WEVE GOT -- WE KIND OF LIKE
THE DYNAMIC THAT WEVE GOT NOW.
ONE OF THE BIG THINGS IN OUR
RELATIONSHIP, EVERYTHING IS OPEN
IN COMMUNICATION.
IN COMMUNICATION.
YOU CAN BRING UP A SUBJECT AND WELL ALL TALK ABOUT IT.ECT AND
WELL ALL TALK ABOUT IT. NO ONE GETS JUDGED.
SO IF ONE OF THEM OR MYSELF
SAID, HEY, I WANT TO BRING
SOMEBODY IN, THERE WOULD BE
DISCUSSIONS ABOUT IT.
>> AND ITS LOVE.
WHAT YOURE FEELING FOR ONE ANOTHER DOWN THE LINE AND BACK
AGAIN IS LOVE.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> ITS COMING UP TO SIX YEARS
OF THE THREE OF US ALL BEING
TOGETHER.
TOGETHER.
ITS FUNNY, WHEN WE FIRST CAME
OUT, WE HAD ALREADY BEEN
TOGETHER THREE YEARS.
EVERYONE WAS LIKE THIS IS A FAD,
THEYRE DOING TO GET IT ON TV.
NO, THIS IS OUR FAMILY, SIX
YEARS AND STILL GOING.
>> IT MUST BE HARD TO GET A
RESERVATION, FIGURE OUT THE
PLANE SEATING.
>> VALENTINES DAY IS HARD BECAUSE THERES ALWAYS COUPLES
SEATING.
SEATING.
I HAVE TO PERSUADE THEM TO ADD
ANOTHER CHAIR.
>> GET A LOAD OF US.
THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR
STORY.
ALL THE BEST TO YOU AND GOOD