hi there I'm Drew Badger, the world's
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is a pleasure to welcome you to another
advanced listening practice lesson
today we won't be talking about kind of
deeper philosophy or psychology things
like I usually enjoy discussing I just
wanted to talk about a couple of things
because I do get lots of letters from
students and often they will be they
will have quite good English but they
will have a few things kind of slight
mistakes that really stand out and to
stand out this is a really great phrasal
verb meaning that something is more
prominent or more noticeable than other
things so if i have a bunch of circles
in front of you and then one square your
mind will notice the square more so
often when we're communicating with
native speakers they will notice I you
kind of used maybe a grammatical point
in a different way or more commonly you
that you have used a word that might not
be exactly what you want to use and so
that's what I wanted to talk about in
this video just give two quick examples
of that so I received a letter recently
from a student and it was just saying
thank you for creating some lessons for
him and it began with goodnight
so instead of good evening he began a
letter with goodnight now I understood
what he was trying to say the meaning
was clear but when you're beginning a
letter like that goodnight is something
you say when you're finishing the
evening with someone or maybe people are
going to bed that is usually the final
greeting that you would give them in the
middle of the night or right before
they're going to bed so if you see
someone walking down the street and it's
you know even like ten o'clock at night
you wouldn't say goodnight to them
unless they are leaving for the rest of
the day so good evening is the greeting
that you would give someone in a letter
or even when you're speaking with
someone just in you know an evening when
it's dark outside but you would not say
goodnight goodnight is something again
it's the end of a conversation or the
end the final thing you say so maybe if
you're going out to dinner with someone
and then you are leaving them if it's
late at night you would say goodnight to
them you know just letting them know
sleep well that
kind of thing so when you're writing a
letter to someone use good evening if
you're addressing them in the evening
it's important to say that or you can
just say hello that's fine as well
another thing that I notice his students
will be using talk with and talk to and
neither this isn't really a grammatical
issue but it's a more sensitive thing
that a native speaker would notice when
you're just speaking with them in kind
of everyday conversations or especially
in a professional setting
so if i say to someone I need to speak
with you about something I need to talk
with you about something
this is more implying like you have to
actually make a connection with that
person you're having an actual dialogue
with them about something now
occasionally people will use I need to
speak with you or I need to talk with
you about something when really they
want to talk to you about something so
they would say i want to speak with you
or talk with you because it's implying
more of a conversation as opposed to one
person saying something to the other one
so when you talk with or speak with
someone your kit you're actually
connecting with that person and it's
more an equal relationship at least in
that situation and when you're talking
to someone like a parent would talk to
their children about behaving properly
or a you know boss might talk to an
employee about how they're trying to you
know maybe do their job better something
like that but in these situations your
again moving from one maybe authority
person to someone of a lesser authority
or someone the little lower social rank
in the group but again you're having one
person it's sending the conversation or
sending the the talking to the other
person so talking to just like you would
go to a different location but when you
speak with someone like yesterday I
spoke with a friend of mine about going
to you know a vacation so I spoke with a
friend of mine because we were talking
together it's an exchange of ideas and
we're both in the conversation so with
when you're speaking with someone or
talking with someone and you can use
either of these speak with or talk with
your having a conversation with the
other person not the one way direction
of a conversation or the one-way
direction of
word so keep these two things in mind
these are just two quick ideas things
that might be maybe or you might seem
like confusing both of these words but
things you might not notice as a
non-native speaker but as you're
learning pay attention to what native
speakers say because they will give you
a very quick insight about whether you
used a word incorrectly or not and often
people will try to be polite
so if I'm having a conversation with
someone and they say oh good night
it's nice to see you today and i would i
would understand what they mean but i
would kind of very quickly that you
would see it in my face like I something
something weird just happened now as a
learner you should be paying attention
to these kinds of things so always be
when you're speaking with someone pay
really close attention you know not to
worry about the situation but to just
get clues from the other person about
how you should be speaking and if maybe
i'm in a conversation and they just say
good evening to me then I don't think
about it because that's the natural
thing that people would be using in that
situation so goodnight
it's nice to see you again how was your
day wait a minute they just ended the
conversation at the beginning I don't
understand what happened there but i
might want to be polite and not say
anything about it but you so you'll
still kind of notice the way a person is
reacting in these situations and if you
can just ask them oh did I say something
did I say something incorrectly and they
might be able to give you a good
explanation about that anyway if you
have enjoyed these kinds of tips and
you'd like to hear more of them
specifically talking about maybe the
ways that a non-native speaker might use
something incorrectly or that you might
use something incorrectly and that
there's a better way to express it if
you have specific questions about things
like that just put them in the comments
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videos
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