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[Corey laughs]
L: What?
"When are we going to have a baby?"
[both laugh]
You can answer that.
Whenever..
..we have a baby.
Whenever we have a baby!
L: I don't know. I don't know the answer to that.
C: When will that little sucker arrive?
This is good. "How has your love for me changed since getting married?"
Do you like that question?
I do like that question, that's a good one.
Um.. I think..
Well, I had an epiphany
Within the last couple months 'cause we had an interesting first year
C: True. L: So..
[both laugh]
I think that, um..
Our first year was probably, like, some couple's five years.
We fast-tracked a lot of different things,
so I think, I had this epiphany about a couple months ago
and I was just praying and just, you know,
praying about our relationship and all that and then I felt God go
"You know what, Lynette?"
"I want to teach you to love Cory like I love him"
C: That's special. L: So that was like, and I was going "Oh my gosh"
That's so true.
C: I'll take it. L: You know, because I
kind of was just loving you the best way that I knew how
and through the love languages that I know how to
give, but, really, marriage is about learning how to love someone
and how to serve them best, which I'm not nailing 100% yet.
But I think it was when I felt God going "Then that's my son."
Like, "I want to I want you to love him like I love him"
And that was a big moment for me.
That is a big moment
C: And that's the best kind of love, I feel like. L: It's still my turn.
Oh, yeah, I'm sorry.
[Lynette laughs]
This is exciting.
"What's something that you think that I'm hesitant to talk to you about?"
Well.. [Lynette laughs]
C: Cannabis. L: Yeah! I knew it!
Which is funny because it's like,
there's a-
I think there's so much going on in the conversation.
The way that I'm wired - I can't speak for anyone else,
as a 30-year-old man, I got-
I did it legally, I got a card in California
And it literally-
It's not like I'm addicted to it, it's not a drug in that way.
It's something I'm, like-
Has.. has helped me as a creative.
It's something that helps me focus and I was like,
if I had, if they had the awareness of cannabis in college,
I would have been a superstar
student and I'm like, I had ADD or whatever you want to call it, whatever,
that conversation is a whole another thing.
But I'm like, I wish that something that arrived in my life during that time because I am able
I'm- I am able to focus in a way that isn't, and I don't prescribe
to the negativity about it, and I just think that it needs a voice.
Okay.
I- I mean, you've gotta give me a little bit of credit
'cause I'm like, it's- I don't even care about weed.
I don't care, I've never cared. I don't smoke, but I don't care if people do, typically.
What I care about is honesty.
C: Of course. L: Which was not happening.
A few times over.
Which brings up, it bubbles up different insecurities.
Which don't even touch, like, that subject,
so it's like, as a female, that kind of all goes in a blender
which, unfortunately for you, that's the case.
But it all becomes one thing, so it's like
Oh! Now I don't trust you, because you're lying about smoking weed.
And you're, you know, whatever.
C: And we've talked about that and I apologized. L: No, I know. C: I said "Yes, I did lie about it in the short term"
But for me, in my mind, and I totally take responsibility for this
I just know I don't want to experience feeling voiceless
about something that I think is important,
even if you don't agree.
What if the other was true and there was something else, X
and you really felt passionate about it
you had a positive experience.
L: Yeah but- C: And I just literally didn't,
because I don't prescribe to it,
I literally don't wanna-
I'm cutting off your voice, and I don't want to have anything to with it,
I get to dictate how you feel about it.
That's more my point, is the fairness in making it-
We're on.. we're equals. We are two becoming one,
L: Sure. C: And it doesn't feel like one.
L: Right, but you have to look at the
backstory and go "Oh, wait, yeah, that's true."
I mean, you kind of knew what you were getting into
when getting married to me
so it wasn't like
"Oh, weird, there's now this thing that exists" and
L: Like I've said- No, but I'm fine with this, the green stuff
C: Sure. L: Like, I've rolled your joints.
Trust me, I don't care about, like, the actual green stuff.
It's the synthetic stuff in the pen that I'm like- I will not
There's no.. yes
L: It's just not happening. And it can't happen anymore. C: Well, and I think, too
I think- what- this is more what I wanna address.
is saying
Neither one of us, I believe, in a marriage
can expect to foster the best out and invite the very best out of one other
the moment we start dictating anything
if controls are present in any facet of life
it evokes reactive behavior.
Like, think of a little child
where they're demanded to do this or that,
they just get reactive because- L: Yeah, but it's called compromise.
C: Well, I, like- But I think, invitations- L: Just smoke the green stuff and we're fine.
C: But, see- L: But then, I don't want you smoking the synthetic stuff.
And I can be totally in agreement with that but I think it's the how
we go about approaching things that I am
utmost interested in
is how are we approaching one another in something that is important,
and there's times when something's gonna be really important to you,
and it may not be as important to me
but that doesn't mean that I get to cut it off
or I get to, like,
just divorce myself from the conversation, you know
if it's important to you, I want to give you the respect that you deserve,
which is all of it
and I want to feel that the same.
I think that's fair,
I think that's how we're going to grow as a unit that-
that's ultimately
what I think this conversation is about for me.
Here we go. [Lynette sighs]
God bless you.
[Lynette laughs] Oh my God.
Okay!
This is where it could get a little melancholy,
"Describe the time you felt most alone in our relationship."
[Lynette sighs]
L: That- C: When did you feel most alone?
I mean,
that season when you were kind of just like back in Arizona and stuff,
and I just felt like
Okay..
Like, I literally was calling you and you weren't, like, even answering.
[Lynette chuckles] Here we go again-
But I'm like, you were-
like, dealing with all of that and like-
C: And all of that, you're certain what all of that was. L: I don't know, I mean, like, you're literally at my parents' house
but I'm like, okay,
Like we've only been married less than a year
and I'm like-
and it was just all of it at once and you were like-
Smoking certain stuff that made you like a little bit cuckoo,
L: in my mind. C: According to you, yeah.
But according to other people,
and then there was like a period of just, like, this time
where I'm like, "Okay, so what am I left to deal with" and I'm just-
in LA by myself
right when I signed my contract
like, excited and, like, supposed to be the most exciting time
of, you know,
my career, and then it was just kind of like
so hard to be, like, you weren't even there when I broke 100,000 subscribers.
You know, so I was like
this is, like, I have this written in my journal.
This is, like, bullet points of things that I want to do this year
and it just felt like-
And I'm like trying to call you and you're just like
"I need my- I need my time", and I'm like, okay..
But what is, like-
And now we're past that,
but it's just, like, that was really rough.
But I had my experience of what I was going through during that time, too
and it's all-
it's just as valuable as what you were experiencing.
And, again, I ask the questions I want to be asked,
and I am sharing things I want to be shared with as well,
you know, so I- in no way, shape or form would I ever take away what you were experiencing.
It is 50%
of the conversation becoming whole
from where I'm standing, you know,
and I think the more you trust that in me
and the more you give me the grace.
You know, even despite things that, unconventionally as they look and-
We don't a conventional relationship.
Like, we have-
We have this circus of a family in, like the most literal, like-
We- I married into magic, you know what I'm saying,
your dad being a magician your whole life,
you were not raised normal,
I was not raised normal.
Here we are, as dysfunctional and awesome and crazy as it is,
our little circus family,
we have to find what works for us, you know-
That's why we can't compare it to what other people are doing.
We can be inspired by others,
but I think we need to be the greatest source of inspiration, because
I feel safe with you,
and you feel safe with me.
I wanna work backwards from that experience.
There's gonna be plenty of unconventional, untraditional things that we're gonna go through
in the nature of our trajectory
but that's more-
I think, the productive part of the conversation, don't you think?
L: Yes. C: I love you.
Just to make sure that's clear.
Is it my turn?
Ooh, this is kind of dovetails off earlier.
"When do you feel proudest of me?"
or 'most proud of me', I don't know if that's the best way to say it.
When do you feel most proud of me? L: Well,
Geez, I was, like, thinking of, like, 20 things. C: Oh my goodness!
But I think, let's see..
When.. you're sharing with other people
who Carol, your mentor, was to you.
That is when I just light up.
And that's really the ultimate reason why I started
romantically thinking of you in a different way other than just being friends
is when you kind of, like, lit up
and started talking about
you know, "Hey, I have to call it early tonight because
I have a
breakfast meeting at 6 in the morning"
I was, like, "Really?"
I was like, "Who are you gonna have breakfast with at 6 A.M.?"
And you're like "Oh, my friend, Dr. Carol Reinhardt.
He's my mentor, blah blah blah",
and that's kind of what transcended my thoughts of you from friends
to, then,
like a little puppy dog, like, cocking and said, like, "What? Tell me more!"
And you're like "Yeah, I use," at the time, like 87 or something
and I just, that was, like, kind of the transcendent moment,
a big moment for me, when I got really interested in you.
I was like, "What guy is saying
'Oh, I want to carry on my 93-year-old mentor's legacy' and then talks at his memorial
and says the most honoring speech out of everyone there?"
That was, like, a proud moment for me.
And I know that was a big moment for
you as he passed and now you're just, like, taking the torch.
He loved you.
He would like look at me and then he would look at you.
And I was like, "Car- Carol.
L: That's sweet. C: Yeah.
He'd steal, like, always an extra kiss, huh?
Yeah, that was so spe- I was just so grateful C: But he's proud of you.
Yeah.
I miss him. L: I know.
But he's here with us.
Thank you.
'kay.
"Why do you love me?"
Oh, goodness.
I love you
because God told me to
and because I do and because
how could I not?
And I think that
it's a package deal
and, like, your family has been the hugest blessing to my life
beyond I can even describe.
So it wasn't that I'm just-
It's you, it's your whole family, it's your
family's legacy, it's your dad, it's your mom,
it's your brother and the whole
family, but-
You know, you're beautiful in every sense of the word.
What Carol said about you,
you are that. You are 2D beauty, you are two-dimensional.
Not just outward and obviously, obviously
you are beautiful in every sense of the word
but I feel so privileged that I know the inward beauty
and I get a chance to see it growing and blossoming and
it's magical, it's incredible.
I mean that in every possible sense of the word.
And I just am the luckiest dude on the planet that I get to be married to you.
Thanks, honey.
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