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- [Keisha] How has our relationship changed
since we first came on {THE AND}?
- (inhaling) That was forever ago.
We were newlyweds when we did our first one.
- Yeah.
- What were we married three months?
Something like that? - Not even, I think.
- Barely, I think we had just gotten married.
- Oh my gosh.
- So we've hit that point where we've been
a married couple longer than we were a dating couple.
- So most of our relationship - I hadn't even thought
about that. - has been.
Yeah, most of our relationship has been us being married.
(Keisha groans)
I think we've changed a lot since we got married.
- Yeah and no.
I think we've just gotten, - I think we're as silly
as we were when we got married.
We definitely still have as much fun as we used to.
I don't think we've lost that.
But I think we've gotten...
I think we've got a better grip on
how we handle things, and how we approach things,
and how we lay out our plans for the future.
Sometimes we know what is best for each other.
And I think that's one of the big differences
over the last few years is we've started to listen
to each other more.
- And trust that. - Yeah.
- That...
As a big decision comes, I'm thinking
what would Andrew say?
- You're always in my head.
I feel like I get to have two people up in here
some days (chuckles).
- I'm, I love you.
- I love you a bunch.
In five years, I think we've made each other better people.
- I agree.
And I take better care of myself.
- You do.
- So much better care.
- This is the healthiest I've seen you
the whole time we've been,
since we started dating eight years ago.
- Wow. - This is the healthiest
I've seen you.
So your hospital scare was about two years ago this week.
You haven't been back to the hospital since.
(hands knocking) (hands knocking)
That means a lot.
What's one thing I can do to improve our relationship?
- The easiest thing you can do to improve your relationship,
- [Both] Our relationship.
- The way you can improve our relationship first of all,
not correcting me (Andrew whooshing).
Secondly,
I think, taking better care of your needs.
You put your needs second too often,
or third, or fourth.
I don't know if it's fear that you don't go
after the things you love.
I don't know if it's self-worth.
I don't know what it is.
But I was like, "Prioritize your needs.
"I support you; I'm here for you."
(Andrew stammering)
- That's hard for me. - I know.
We've been together eight years,
and it's always been the thing
where I'm like, "That's great, prioritize yourself."
- I am, I did.
I quit my job and came out here.
- Yeah, and my reaction to that is more.
You know that though.
- Okay.
Okay.
Wait, is it?
I think you're right, it's you.
- (scoffs) greedy.
- I'm prioritizing my needs, okay?
- Okay, shut up.
(Andrew chuckling)
- Oh.
What have you recently learned about me?
- I think I've learned...
I think it's a thing that we've both learned about you.
And that's being out here in the fall,
and being out here for a month or two on your own.
(inhaling) As hard as it was, I think it was good for you
to kind of...
Like you said, you set up the apartment,
and you had to do all of these things on your own
while I was taking care of Johnny back home.
But you did it.
Those are things that I don't know if you knew
that you could do on your own until you did them.
- I feel like I know it.
I just don't want to.
- But you haven't done 'em.
And now that you did them...
You have a level of confidence about yourself.
And just the way that you carry yourself in this town
that I wasn't expecting when I got off the plane.
- I think that's part of what surprised me about here.
But also, because I'm originally from California,
it's very weird being like, "Oh, okay, yeah.
"This is who I've always been." (chuckles)
- Yeah, it's a bit of a return to form for you.
Had we come here together?
Yeah, things would have been great.
We would have been fine.
We would have done our thing.
But you having to do this on your own for a few months,
I think gave you the opportunity to own your place
in the city on your own without me.
You didn't need me to define what your role
in this city is.
- Shut up.
- (chuckling) Did I touch a nerve?
- Yeah. (Andrew humming)
- It's cool to see.
You always impress me and surprise me.
The nerve. - Now take up space.
(Andrew laughing)
- What's one thing you want us
to experience together and why?
- Oh, one thing us to experience together?
Oh, one?
Shit.
- Uh. - If you got more, bring 'em.
I'm all ears. - No, I'm trying.
I was like, "Oh."
- Don't say parenthood because we'll do that.
- Shut up, I'm talking. (Andrew laughing)
I can't wait
to get to 60,
our kid is out,
and we can just be horny, lecherous bastards
around the world. (Andrew laughing)
- It's not too different from now.
We just don't have the kid yet.
- Yeah, but once they're out,
it's like, "Alright, your room's a sex swing."
(Andrew laughing)
- Then we can get the sex swing?
- Maybe. (Andrew groaning)
We'll see.
- We're pretty horny and lecherous as it is.
- (Keisha groaning) Fair.
Oh that little. - Yeah, we've almost
gotten into trouble (laughing).
- My turn; your turn?
- Uh.
Why do you think I'm your life?
(Keisha groaning)
- Why do I think you're in my life?
- Mm-hmm.
(Keisha laughing)
- Comedy.
We have a love of laughing and comedy.
On paper, there's no reason we should have gotten together.
- No.
The timing was right.
- I had eyes for your roommate.
I was
married.
Well, separated. - Divorcing.
- Separated.
I was separated.
And then, when it happened, it was just like,
"Oh, Andrew's fun.
"I just wanna make out with him"
(Andrew chuckling)
I know. - Here we are.
- Yeah, I know.
It all started 'cause I was like, "I don't know.
"I've had a couple drinks.
"I just wanna make out."
And holy shit.
- Yeah, I wanted to do a lot more than make out.
- Obviously.
(Andrew laughing)
- Am I still fun to make out with?
- Great. - Cool.
- And I tell everybody you're the longest hookup
of my life. - Yeah.
- At no point did it ever feel like either of us
were desperate to like (groans).
And that this has just been a fun,
joyful
adventure.
I think that's what it is.
- We've got a good foundation, yeah.
I feel like we're on a journey together.
And that's what makes everything okay
and not scary.
It feels like we're always like, "What's the next thing?
"What's the next piece of this journey?"
What would your life be like without me?
- Can I tell you one of my biggest fears?
And it's, I've had nightmares about it.
I think I've told you about some of these.
But a recurring fear of mine is that one day
we'll wake up and you just won't wanna be married
to me anymore.
- No.
(Andrew stammering) Maybe.
- So I don't know what my life would be like without you.
But I do fear one day that you would kind of get over me
and wanna move on.
And I don't know what I'll do, but it won't be good.
I'd be kinda sad.
- Well, I'm here. - I know.
- And I love you.
And you know I will always love you.
- I know.
I know that.
I know that up here.
I just sometimes fear it.
Yeah, I don't know.
My life without you would be,
it'd be a lot less laughing.
I think,
I would,
I'd be really sad and lonely.
- I guess I gotta stay here then.
- Yeah, that's why I'm glad you're taking care of yourself.
Nerd.
- Shut the fuck up.
(Keisha laughing)
I had to turn off my voice inside that wanted to
say what my impulse wanted to say.
- What shitty thing did you want to say?
- Are we done?
'Cause we wanna bang.
(Andrew laughing)
- But I silenced it for a minute but then I was like,
"I don't know, it's funny." (chuckling)
- I had that thought a few questions ago
and I was like, "That's not appropriate."
- But I said it. - But you said it.
- Yeah.
You know me, I'll say it.
(Keisha laughing)
I love you. - Love you a bunch.
All right, are we done?
'Cause we're gonna bang.
(Keisha laughing)
- Oh, I love you.
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