Should you attend a gay wedding? If someone invites you to a gay wedding,
maybe your co-worker, your friend, neighbor. Or perhaps your own son, daughter, mom or dad,
cousin, niece, nephew. Should you go? You're most likely, as a Bible-believing Christian,
I'm assuming that's who is watching this video right now. You will have a tension. In one part
of you, there is this thing that says, as an act of love and friendship toward this person, I need
to go. I'm not supporting their lifestyle. Jesus was a friend of sinners, and showing support and
unconditional love could open doors in the future to share the Gospel. The second side to it is that
if you're going, you're actually supporting the union that the Bible calls immoral, unnatural and
not biblical. It will be kind of like going with the person who is recovering from alcohol, and you
are going with them to the bar, supporting them. Or a person that is struggling with pornography,
and you're helping them to set up only fans account because you're supporting them. It
seems that unconditional love shouldn't be the same thing as showing unconditional support. I
want you to take a listen to Becket Cook who was a gay person, encountered Jesus. He got saved, his
mom prayed for him, and what happened to him when after he was converted to Christianity, was born
again, and he was invited to a gay wedding and he went. Let's watch. My two agents at William Morris
invited me. One of them is a gay man and he was getting married to another man,
and he invited me, and I was put on the spot. We were at dinner, we were at dinner and one
of the agents, she said, she turned to me and she said, "You're going to..."
Let's call him Joe. "You're going to Joe's wedding, right?" And I thought at the time,
because I was a brand new Christian, I didn't know what to say and I was put on the spot. I was like,
"Yes, of course I'm going," because I thought that was the loving thing to do.
So I ended up going to the wedding. It was such a big mistake, and because once I got there,
it was all the way out somewhere far. It was like not Malibu or somewhere out there.
And I remember just walking in and seeing all the people coming and dressed up, and
everyone's so kind of happy, and I was thinking, "Oh my gosh, wait. I'm here celebrating
a wedding between a marriage between two men?" And it really hit me hard, and I,
I had a really difficult time that night, and it taught me. That was a very good lesson
to me because I learned that that loving people doesn't mean going to their gay wedding. In fact,
as Christians I believe that we should not go to gay, like if it's your son, your daughter,
your niece, whomever. You should not attend the wedding because its, first of all,
my being at this wedding years ago was probably really confusing to some people there, because
some of the people there knew I was a Christian, and they probably thought, "Oh, like Becket's
here so I guess this is all good. Everything's Okay." So it's a terrible witness to Christ.
So to go to it, and it's also your celebrating sin is basically what you're doing. Becket Cook was a
gay man who encountered Jesus, and then from his own words, he goes to a wedding celebrated by two
men who were getting married and then he regrets it, and afterwards now he encourages Christians
to respectfully decline an invitation. Now, if you are in a very tough spot between trying to
reach your friends and then trying to also stand for biblical truth, here are some things that I
want you to consider. For those of you who are like, "Yeah, I still am going to go." I want you
to consider a few things, and for those of you who are not going or who will not go, I want to
give you also some reasons of why, perhaps maybe you've never thought of them. One is that marriage
should be honored and a gay wedding dishonors marriage by twisting the meaning of marriage.
Hebrews 13:4 says:
The second thing is that homosexual unions are not marriage. Genesis 2:24, it says:
Biblical definition, Creators definition of marriage is between one man and one woman. Now the gay
weddings are different than the weddings of people of other religions. Because unlike gay weddings,
the weddings of people in other religions qualify as marriage because the Bible says,
a man leaves his father and his mother and he joins to a woman, a wife and they become
one flesh, and that scripturally constitutes as marriage. Now those two people might not even be
believers. They might be non-Christian men and women but it still constitutes marriage in the
eyes of God. The third reason is homosexual unions are not joined in heaven. Matthew 19:6 it says:
You can be assured that God is not joining a couple of men and men together. Whereas
in Leviticus, He said it's an abomination. In Romans chapter 1, it says it's unnatural,
and actually that kind of a behavior is a result of the society turning away from God,
exchanging God for an image, and suppressing and exchanging His truth for a lie. God is
not blessing that, and you don't want to show your support for something that God is against
and it goes contrary to His design. The next reason is that homosexual unions are a sin,
not a celebration. You know when you go and you see a man and the woman getting married,
saying vows to each other. Even if they're not believers. The idea of love, the idea that it's
really God created a man and a woman so that they will be married, live in love, produce
children and raise a family. That idea is God's. Even if two people in it do not acknowledge God,
and so we celebrate that. But the idea that we see in the Scripture is condemned and not
something to be celebrated is homosexuality and lesbianism. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10.
To go to a union or a wedding where a gay couple is celebrating their union,
and you're there to witness that and to celebrate and congratulate them is not a loving thing to do,
when the Bible is very clear that this lifestyle leads to people going to hell.
It's almost like you're confirming a lifestyle that leads to hell. That is not a loving thing
to do. That is one of the most hateful things, if you would ask me to do. So people who say,
"Well, I'm just being loving." But that's not loving when you know that
the Scripture teaches that this lifestyle is a sin that condemns people to separation
from God. The next one is that Christian love should not rejoice in wrongdoing.
1 Corinthians 13:6 it says:
Loving others does not mean going and rejoicing in iniquity, in abomination. In something that
the Scripture clearly states is sin. The same way you won't celebrate a gathering of thieves,
you won't celebrate the gathering of alcoholics and coming in and just celebrating that gathering.
People just you know drinking alcohol. We don't celebrate that. It doesn't mean we don't associate
or we don't have relationships with people in the community, we don't work with them, kick them out
of our family. That is not what the Scripture teaches. But to begin to support and celebrate
a union that the Scripture is contrary, against, very clear black and white. Not like a gray area,
a black and white, is something that Christian love is not about. If your idea of Christian love
is just kind of I'm just supporting everything. What the Bible says that love doesn't rejoice in
sin. It rejoices in the truth. It's not just supporting a person, love also supports the
truth. The next reason is going to a gay wedding is being a witness, which sends a confusing message to the world.
Acts 1:8, it says:
We are witnesses of Jesus. We are not witnesses of same-sex unions, condoning it, celebrating it. We are called to be witnesses of the Gospel
of Jesus Christ, and we do send a conflicting message of becoming gay affirming Christians.
People who affirm love is love. You know truth really doesn't matter because love is love,
and I think it does send a confusing message to the world. At least to people that are present
celebrating a same-sex wedding, when they see a Bible-believing Christian, who of course under the
umbrella, "I don't want to offend anybody. I don't want them to think like bad things about
me," and none of us do. But at the same time our allegiance and our witness is to Jesus and to His
truth. We love people without compromising the truth. Lastly I believe going to a gay wedding
is really going against your convictions. As a Christian, we have our convictions and they
come from God's Word. Our convictions don't come from Hollywood. They don't come from woke culture.
Nor do they come from churches that affirm sinful lifestyle. Our convictions do not get
changed because our culture tries to bully us into silence, threaten us, censor us, de-platform us,
penalize us or call us with names. We stick with the truth of God's Word. In Romans 14:23.
When a person goes to a gay wedding, a Christian, a lot of times they have doubts. They're just not
certain, they're not sure, and I encourage in those cases just stay away from it. You should
just respectfully decline that invitation. Continue to pray for your friends, continue
to love them. Let them know that you love them as an individual, you're praying for them. But
you don't support those decisions and you don't celebrate those things that the Bible calls sin.
And be frank with them, that you are concerned for their soul because the Bible is very clear,
that people like that will not inherit eternal life. I know the culture says,
love is love. You know in my house I could say, water is water. There's water from the tap,
there's a water from a toilet, and there's a water that I drink from the bottle. Not all water is the
same. Not all love is the same. God created us in His image and likeness. God gave us His laws
to live by. We as humans broke those laws, we have offended God, and because of that we were
all born with sinful nature to desire to do sin, and God sends His Son on the cross to die for our
sin. But see many of us cannot receive that gift of salvation because we are not convinced we are
sinners. We're convinced we're just good people, and God is oppressive, outdated, mean. But we are
good people and God should evolve, change with times. But I want to encourage you to preach
the good news to your friends about Jesus's death, Jesus's burial, and resurrection and why He died.
For their sin, for our sin. We're not better than other people. We were sinners saved by His grace.
The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life, and when we preach that Gospel and
point to Jesus. Not to some self-righteousness that we are somehow better, but point to Christ
and His gift of salvation and righteousness that comes from Him, and how He leads us to live a life
now that's pleasing to Him. Then what begins to happen is the Holy Spirit will use that to
speak conviction to their lives, but until that time comes of conviction hitting their hearts,
some people will be offended by that. And if you think that if you go to a gay wedding that you
will dodge the offense, the Gospel is offensive and it will cause offense, no matter how much you
try to cave to the pressure of your friends. We don't compromise the truth in loving other
people. We love people unconditionally, but we also support God's Word and God's truth. And so
my opinion, if you get invited to a gay wedding, I'm not saying the Bible clearly states by going
there you are committing a sin, but I do believe that it is better to respectfully decline. Thank
you for watching this video. I hope it brought some clarity to you. Let me know in the comments
below if you had situations like these and how did you respond? What was your experience? Thank you.