Hi everyone.
My name is Emily. I'm a third year English student
here at the University of Nottingham today
I'm going to be sharing my tips and advice on moving back home
after living way at uni. Moving away
to uni can make you a lot more
independent and you get in certain routines
and ways of life which can be
thrown up in the air slightly when you move back home
Whatever that home is to you
whether it's with family, friends, or alternative accommodation
I hope these tips might help
I think the first thing is respect
As cliche as it sounds
if you respect someone
they will hopefully respect you back
Moving back home is a big deal to you
but it probably is to the rest of your household as well
The dynamics are going to be thrown up in the air.
So whether that means you're now living
with your parents who haven't had you around in a while
whether you're living with siblings who have
become used to not having you around for a while
respecting each other, respecting
each other's surroundings, properties,
and feelings is definitely the first step in
trying to get back into a family or home routine
The next thing I think is to be patient
You might not suddenly get back
the same dynamic or environment
that you had before you left a uni
If you're like me and it's been three years
then a lot has changed
You know, people have changed
You've probably changed quite long as well
So have patience that it
might take a while to get
back into the swing of things when you're back home
Along with patience I think is expectation
Try not to put too much expectation on having
this ideal or perfect environment for you to go back to
For some people, that really isn't the case
I'm very fortunate that I do have a
loving home that I can come back to after uni
and I'm very privileged with that
But I think especially with social media
that can be a lot of expectation and pressure
I would say try not to put too much pressure on
either you or your family or your housemates
whoever you're living with, that
everything to be perfect all the time
The next bit of advice I have is to be selfish
obviously not to the detriment of anyone else
And obviously it's great to be considerate and to be kind
I mean, selfish in terms of allowing yourself
space and time to come to terms with your new environment
Put yourself first when you need to
Whether that's putting your mental health first or recognising
that you're going to need a while to
adapt to certain situations
whether it's finding a space or a time
in the day that is dedicated to you
and looking after yourself or having
a paper pamper or just looking after your headspace
I think that's really important and hopefully it
will be best for the entire household as well
Something which I think is really important is boundaries
whether they are for yourself
or for the people you're living with
I think it's important to set them and also talk about them
You know, if there's something that's really
really winding you up to
the point where you're trying to avoid seeing
people or you just feel really
overwhelmed being back in the house towards people
be open and perhaps set up some rules
or... rule sounds too strict
but some sort of guidelines by
people know where you stand with each other
you know what's going to push each other perhaps over the edge
You know, when each other needs a minute on their own
so set up some boundaries for everyone else and for you as well
This is all part of being selfish for yourself
You know, work out what works for
you and what doesn't work for you
Put those boundaries in place and that it can
help you feel a sense of
control in a situation that
perhaps you feel quite out-of-control
Next is to be flexible and try and perhaps implement
some things into your home environment
that you have done whilst you're away at uni
whether that's you found you absolutely loved
cooking or cleaning
maybe once a week you cook
a meal for your family or all of your friends
Try and be flexible and adapt to a new routine while still
implementing things that you enjoyed
whilst you were away at uni. To finish with
I asked my mum if she had any advice for parents and for
students who are now living back together again after uni
she's had two children now go away university and move back home
Whether that is their own choice or not
whether it's out of their control and her two main
things were things which I've already touched on
which were to be kind and to be understanding
If you've got those two
you can't really go that wrong
So be kind to one another as much as you can be
Be understanding of
each other's situations. That's everything from me
I hope you're all well and that this can be helpful for some of you
Just know that you're not on your own
If you're feeling sad about moving back home
if you're feeling happy about moving back home
if you're feeling guilty because you're
sad, or guilty because you are happy.
I don't think there's a right or a wrong way to feel - so just
accept what you're feeling
run with a, communicate as best as you can with other people
and that's a pretty good place to start
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