﻿How To BECOME A High Value Man [0:00:00]
The first habit of a high value man, he doesn’t listen to other people.
Whoa! Whoa! That doesn’t sound good. Let me explain. What I mean here is that a high value
man is very careful about who he listens to. If he has a medical issue, he takes advice from
a doctor. If he wants to get in better shape, he seeks the advice of a physical trainer. What
he doesn’t do is take advice from random people that are trying to tell him how to live his life.
You see, a high value man has purpose. He has value, he has intrinsic value. This is
something that he’s developed himself having put himself through the furnace. He has forged
his own steel. He knows what he stands for and he’s done the work. He has questioned himself.
And by doing that, he knows what he’s about. Now, defining who you are, this is a lifelong
journey. I highly recommend you start with the classics. Marcus Aurelius, his meditations,
a great place to start. But, this is something that as you work up, you’re going to find mentors,
people that you would pay to take their advice. And that takes us right back to where we began,
because as you start to make your way up, as you start to get around people especially in
this world of social media, you’re going to have random people. People that you don’t know, well,
some people you know well, but let’s just say this isn’t their expertise,
their lives are in shambles. They’re going to try to give you advice on how to live yours.
A high value man knows the only true freedom he has in this life
is the ability to make up his own mind. In today’s video, gents, we’re talking about
how you can become a high value man. [Music]
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a little bit later in the video. The next habit of the high value man,
he practices being resilient. Resiliency simply defined as your ability to bounce
back from failure. A high value man, he’s a bit of Buddhist. He understands that everything changes.
Seriously, those two words right there, explain a lot of things in life and we suffer
so much. Because when things are going great, we don’t want them to change. And when they do,
when they fall down when it all falls apart, when you are running that all cylinders
and you get sick and all of a sudden everything seems to come out from under you.
Things have changed, and guess what? This is life. And the high value man, he understands this.
He understands that challenge that difficulty that obstacles are just simply part of the journey. The
high value man understands and accepts that life is hard no matter what path you choose.
Being broke, living in debt, very difficult. It’s hard. Making smart financial decisions,
building yourself up, your personal wealth, very difficult. Choose your hard. Working on your
communication skills, building deep relationships, getting into a relationship that you commit to,
marriage, very difficult. So is having really bad relationships, so is going through a divorce
going through a breakup. These things are hard. Again, choose your hard.
Being in poor physical shape, being overweight, not being able to walk up a flight of stairs
without losing your breath, that is a difficult way to live. Going to the gym
every day, watching what you eat, maintaining your weight, having a body you’re proud of,
that’s very hard as well. Choose what you are going to go after. Choose your hard, gents.
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The next habit that a high value man cultivates is his ability to communicate effectively. Now,
some people have this perception that a high value man that the top guy the alpha, somehow
he’s this lone wolf, he doesn’t need the pack. That, gents, is a bunch of BS. The strength
of the wolf is the pack. The strength of the pack is the wolf. They need each other. Yeah,
that’s right, Game of Thrones, House Stark. Now, I’m not saying you got to be an outgoing
extrovert that can jump off on stage and give a presentation.
What I am saying is you got to be able to express yourself. So, having a command of
your language and the vocabulary, being able to express yourself whether it’d be spoken,
written, or just simply in a text. This is key to be able to engage and work with others.
Now, the next habit of a high value man is he focuses on his relationships, his network. A
lot of you guys may think networking sounds like a slimy word. It is if you do it the wrong way,
where you’re going after and you’ve got an ulterior motive to get from somebody.
But, a high value man realizes, you know what? He builds real relationships with his peers,
with people that he spots, who he knows are going places. And guess what? It takes time
to build real relationships. This isn’t something that you can start at the bottom
and think I’m going to network with the guys on top and they’re going to lift me up.
Here’s the thing. It’s got to go both ways. And if you’re not doing that, then you’re doing it
wrong. And, yes, we all start at the bottom. I know, I look around the people that I’ve
really built strong relationships with, I can text them, I can call them at any point because they’re
genuinely my friends. I saw them when they were much smaller, but I spotted in them greatness.
I wanted to be around those type of people that would energize me, that had specific skills.
It wasn’t because I wanted to use them, it was simply because I wanted to be part of the ride.
I wanted to be their cheerleader and see these guys going up. And that is the power
of true networking of true relationship building is you don’t really need anything from them.
And they sense this and they know it. Now, they’re going to want to give you
things and there may come a point that you need to call upon that relationship when you see, hey,
this is going to be beneficial. Or maybe I do need your help and I would really
appreciate it because relationships are also – are also they’re made deeper whenever somebody
can also give and not get anything back. And, that, to me is also one of the big signs
of a high value man is he gives of himself and he doesn’t need anything back. He realizes
that he has relationships in abundance. He has things in abundance and he can give his time.
So, if you’re starting at the bottom, look around, who can you give to – and it may not
seem like it’s they’re going to get much value from you. There is an older woman on your street
that she needs her yard, you know, cut. She may be needs the driveway plowed of snow.
You go do that. You know why? Because her son, he may be the CEO of a company. You’re not
going there for that reason, but you don’t know how it’s going to come back. And when you give,
you find that it comes back you tenfold. The next habit of high value men, they accumulate
resources, they understand that whenever you’ve got resources, you can solve a lot of problems.
The most obvious one is money and that one is definitely, you know, self-explanatory. If you’ve
got money, it puts you in this position where you could solve a lot of problems out there.
But there are other ways that you can build up resources. Experience is a resource. When
I was a young lieutenant, I sought out other lieutenants that were mustangs. These were
prior service guys that just simply had experience, they had knowledge.
If you are a doctor, if you’re a professional, that right there, there’s a lot of clout, a lot
of power that goes with that because in certain situations you are going to be the only person
there that can solve the problem. So, accumulate that knowledge, accumulate those resources,
so you can deploy them when need be. The next habit of high value men, is
they’re consistent in their pursuits. When you’re consistent, you are reliable. You’re somebody that
other people can depend on because you’re going to be going after it again and again and again.
And, it’s rarely that you see a high value man that is in his early 20s. Why? Because
it takes five years, ten years, twenty years to build yourself up. Now, if you’re a bit
older and you’re just getting started and you’re having to restart, guess what? You’ve got all
that experience you can usually accelerate and get to where you want to go faster.
But, if you’re 20 years old, if you’re 22 years old watching this video, guess what?
No worries. I mean, you are on the right path. You’re watching my videos
and most importantly you’re taking action. That’s what is going to get you there. But,
understand, it’s a five-year, it’s a ten-year journey depending on what path you’re going down
depending on, you know, what luck rolls your way. But, high value men are consistent and they can be
depended upon because they’re going after that and they’re, yeah, they’re making things happen
day after day. [0:10:04]
The next habit is that high value men work on their command presence. This is your image, this
is your presentation, this is your mannerisms. This is simply the way that you behave.
It’s everything that we see on the outside. So, if you understand human beings,
you understand that we’re lazy that we make snap judgments based off of what we see,
what we hear, what we smell. And if you want to present, you really want to be a high value man
and seen as a high value man, don’t go against peep don’t betray their expectations.
If a naked guy runs in a room and says, “Hey, I’m a doctor. I can help.”
You don’t listen to him, you just noticed the fact that this guy is crazy and he ran into the
room versus someone that walks in dressed in that white lab coat, that here in the United
States and in much of the Western world we see as, oh, that is a doctor, that’s a professional.
We attribute that with the individual. And you’ve got to understand that if you want to come off
as a high value man in your industry. Whatever that industry may be,
think about how do the guys at the top dressed. Not necessarily very top because the CEO, yeah,
Zuck can do whatever he wants at Facebook. But, you look at the other people
in and around Zuck, they’re mostly dressed professional. They care about presentation,
because they understand this is a large company. And if you want to come off as credible,
is it going to be a suit or is it going to be a uniform in your profession. Whatever it may be,
find what professionalism is in your area and leverage that. Use it to your advantage.
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seven deadly style sins? This is one of my better videos. I go into a lot
of detail and I explained exactly what you want to avoid to present your best self.
So, check it out, guys right here. [0:12:07] End of audio