- [Instructor] One primary requirement
for making a marriage work is love.
Welcome to Grace Digital Production.
In this video, we will cover eight ways to express love.
And will give a short prayer at the end of the video.
Number one, loving in thoughts.
Love has roots in the heart.
It later finds expression in your actions and mouth.
Husbands must learn to begin from the root.
Matthew chapter 12 verse 34 says,
"Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."
When you fill your heart with loving thoughts,
it quickly finds expression
in the words you say, for instance,
if a man uses negative words on his wife without efforts,
he is speaking out of the abundance of his heart.
Reflect on your heart it is the root of your life.
Make sure you make an effort
to begin the love relationship between you and your wife
and she will respond to you.
No woman hates to be loved.
Number two, loving in words.
Three words.
I love you, yet through these words
husbands and wives come together.
However, after the marriage,
these words tend to be easily forgotten.
These words are also for marriage life.
It never stops till death.
Words are powerful and saying, I love you
over and over again, spices up the marriage,
just like it is necessary for rain to fall over and over
for farmers to reap a bountiful harvest.
So also it is necessary to say, I love you
over and over again.
Do not make a mistake and say, she already knows I love her.
That's wrong.
The Bible even tells us the importance of speaking out loud
our beliefs of the heart.
In Romans chapter 10, verse 10.
No one can read minds and until thoughts are voiced
they remain private.
The word of God tells us that faith comes by hearing.
If faith, the all important mountain mover
becomes ours by the simple act of hearing,
just reflect in how many mountains will move from your home
when you say, I love you to your spouse often.
Speak out up feelings.
It is wise.
The Earth itself was created using the faith field words
of the creator.
Let your, I love you to your spouse be full of faith.
Husbands and wives must learn to speak kind words
to each other.
Words creates the right atmosphere in your home.
Express to your partner the nice qualities
you like in him or her.
Husband handle your wife would care by speaking kind words
of appreciation to her often,
she needs to hear you express daily
how much you love and appreciate her.
Number three, compliments.
Praise your spouse for doing something right.
Instead of simply focusing on the negative things
you do not like.
You also have to take notes, the good thing.
This is tough because it is tempting to complain
rather than praise.
And this might take practice.
Compliments give flesh to I love you.
Men and women who are not complimented
do not feel appreciated.
Do you feel taken for granted and ordinary?
So when someone outside showers them
with much sort for compliments,
they're quickly taken captive.
Take this to heart,
appreciate the little things.
And this will cause a spiral effect
to more substantial items.
Nurture the things that you appreciate
if you want to see more of it.
Compliments motivate the receiver to go a step further.
When a wife hears, I love you from the husband,
her countenance changes.
Number four, loving by action.
There's a place for words,
but there's also a place for action.
Being available can cause a massive level of difference
in a relationship.
There are ways of saying I care
without depending only on words.
Someone once said that it could be quite frustrating
for a woman to be busy doing all the housework
while the man just sits in front of the television
and join a game of football.
And from time to time, turns around to say to the tired
and worn out woman, I love you, dear.
She knows you love her.
At least you said so,
but take a step.
Help her around the house.
It adds credence to your words.
Number five, touching.
There're particular times that touch
speaks louder than words.
It communicates, I am with you.
Touch keeps the fire burning in a marriage.
Touch deprivation is also sometimes called skin hunger.
Touch is so powerful that people that grew up
with its denial have more negative effects
than those that do.
Some families never touch each other.
These are typically called environments.
Touch reverses these cold environments.
Touch produces warmth.
When a husband for instance puts his arms around his wife,
it brings the warm to that
neither money nor words can produce.
Husbands and wives study to be romantic.
Couples are to be ravished by each other's love.
The word ravished means transported by delight.
"Be thou always ravished with her love,"
Proverbs chapter five verse 19.
Number six, giving of gifts.
The Bible tells us,
"God so loved the world that he gave his Son."
If you also claim to love your wife,
you need to be a giver.
A thoughtful little gift
can make a whole world of difference.
You must make it a point of duty to remember
special days such as birthdays,
anniversaries, special occasions,
and share the joy of that moment by exchanging gifts.
These were the little things you did while courting,
you shouldn't let them slip by
just because you are now married.
A gift at the right time to your spouse
can enhance your relationship and make it more precious.
Remember Elkanah and Hannah.
Elkanah was sensitive to the needs of his wife.
He had so mastered the art of ministering
to Hannah's emotional needs that he could see to her,
"Am I not better to thee than 10 sons?"
1st Samuel chapter one, verse eight.
There is no woman who hates to be Loved.
These are little things that have the ability
to lift your marriage.
Love is medicine.
We love those who are precious and honor them.
In summary, love is not an option in marriage.
It is fundamental.
"Husbands love your wives
"even as Christ also loved the church
"and gave himself for it."
Ephesians chapter five verse 25.
Love has its source from God, not the world.
Source from God, not the world.
God's word declares,
"God is love."
1st John chapter four verse eight.
It is not a suggestion.
It is an instruction that is to be followed.
This love is sacrificial and unconditional.
God makes it mandatory for husbands to love your wives
even if your wife has a bad attitude.
Notwithstanding your wife's nature.
God still expects you to love her.
Even in taking your marriage vows,
you willingly said before all witnesses
in your wedding vows
that you would love her.
Till you love your wife as Christ loves his church
you are not walking in agreement with the word of God.
Christ love for his church is not only when she obeys him,
but even when she offends also.
Romans chapter five verse eight.
The love for one's wife must come after the love of God.
Ephesians chapter five verse 28 to 29 says,
"In this same way, husbands ought to love your wives
"as their own bodies.
"He who loves his wife loves himself.
"After all, no one ever hated their own body,
"but they feed and care for their body
"just as Christ does the church."
God gave his love expression and we must do the same.
How can love between husband and wife in particular
and family members in general, be expressed
in thoughts, words, and actions?
Now a short prayer.
Father, Lord, help us not to just go to church on Sunday,
but to recognize that your presence goes with us
wherever we go.
May we know a deep communion with you every day.
May our marriage be a place where we grow together
and lean on you in every situation.
Help us to grow to be more like you every day,
having a unity in spirit,
being patient, humble, and gentle with each other
and bearing each other's burdens
with your love and strength.
Fill our marriage with your peace.
When a struggle or strife arises,
may our first response be to come to you for help,
help us to make talking about you and your word a priority.
We ask your Spirit to help us understand your word
and grow together in our love and service to you.
Father, life gets so busy
and things can creep up into our marriage
and cause distance,
help us to be intentional in spending time together.
Protect us from things that will divide us,
whether it be time spent online or recreational activity
or friendship that is taken away from our marriage,
help us know how to remedy the situation
and bring the closeness back into our marriage
with you at the center.
Father, enable us to forgive each other
as you have forgiven us.
Help us not to hold onto bitterness,
keep records of wrong, or allow the enemy any foothold
in our relationship.
Keep our hearts sensitive to you and to each other.
And move us to the work of reconciliation quickly.
When we are wounded, help us to be honest with each other
and not fear retaliation.
Help us to work through our differences
in a way that honors you
and strengthens our relationship.
Help us grow in humility
and recognize when we have wounded each other.
Give us your strength to ask for and to give forgiveness.
In closing, I hope that you have been blessed by this video.
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