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- Did you know that confidence is one
of the top qualities men and women find most attractive
in each other?
It's considered more important than skill, knowledge,
or even experience.
It sets you apart from others
who are more qualified than you.
Confidence, we're talking about.
It reveals that you're competent
and it's absolutely necessary to pursue your dreams.
I'm Terri Savelle Foy, your cheerleader of dreams.
And I wanna share with you three ways to be more confident.
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Okay, back to our topic of three ways to be more confident.
Now, the truth is, you've got to have healthy confidence
if you're gonna achieve the dreams God put in your heart.
In fact, God can't use you publicly
until you get victory privately.
So this is all part of God preparing you
for something bigger than you even realize.
In fact, I heard Joyce Meyer say it like this.
She said, "A believer with no confidence is
like a jumbo jet sitting on the runway with no gas."
She said, "You're not going anywhere."
Well, you're confidence or lack of it will play a big role
in how far you go to achieve your dreams and goals.
Now, I don't know about you, but it's been a quality
that did not come natural for me.
I was the very opposite of confident.
I wanted confidence, I saw it so clearly on other people,
but I was filled with insecurities,
and insecurity is a dream killer.
But I learned how to be more confident
and take action on what I learned.
And I'm gonna share these three quick strategies
with you today.
In fact, I love this little story,
it's about a dad who promised his daughter
he would spend the day playing with her.
So he goes down Saturday morning,
he's sitting at the kitchen table, he opens up the paper,
and his daughter comes flying down the stairs going,
"Daddy, daddy, you said we could play."
He said, "Hold on, honey, let me finish reading the paper."
Oh, this is upside down.
But anyway, he's reading the paper.
She keeps pulling on him, "Daddy, let's play."
So he said, "Okay, honey, here's what I'll do."
He saw this picture of the world.
So he tore it out, tore it into little bitty pieces
and put it on the table.
He said, "Put this picture of the world together.
Act like it's a puzzle."
So he goes back to reading the paper.
She's done like that.
He said, "How did you finish this so fast?"
She said, "Well, I dropped a piece."
And she said, "When I looked under the glass,
I saw a picture of a woman's face."
And she said, "So I just turned all the pieces over
and when I put the woman together,
the world just fell into place."
(Terri laughing)
Well, in this week's video,
I wanna help you put yourself together
so everything around you will come together.
'Cause the truth is, God will change your circumstances,
but he'll change you first.
So the first way, number one, is to fill your mind
with positive input, which you're already doing right now.
You've probably heard the phrase
that whatever isn't feeding you is depleting you.
And you can't fill your mind with negative input
and expect to live a positive life.
So the truth is that when you stop feeding your mind,
as I did for 11 years after college, you become stagnant.
Jim Rohn, the great motivator and thought leader,
at one time, he said he was blaming everybody
for where he was in life.
He had nothing in the bank, pennies in his pocket,
full of excuses.
And one day his very wealthy mentor, Earl Shoaff,
matter-of-factly told him.
He said, "If you want the future to change,
you've gotta change."
And that change," he said, "can begin
by just picking up one book, listening to one podcast,
attending one conference."
Well consequently, Jim Rohn became a millionaire
within five years time.
Well, I heard somebody define the word poor as P.O.O.R.
It's Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly.
Every day brings you an opportunity
to make improvements to our lives.
You know, a very interesting thing happens
when you start filling your mind
with positive input or personal growth.
The more you learn, the hungrier you get to learn more.
It's like you can't get enough.
You begin to crave knowledge and wisdom just like you used
to crave sitting on the couch
and watching your favorite Netflix show.
Why?
Because you start experiencing the rewards
from your new wisdom, which leads to great confidence.
Does this make sense?
I'll never forget after reading my first book on my journey
of personal growth, I began to share my new knowledge
with my friends and they were like,
"How do you know this stuff?"
Well, the more I learned, the more confident I became.
As I filled my mind with positive information about God
and his word, about financial health, about goal setting
and developing success habits,
my personal confidence began to grow as my knowledge grew.
Jim Rohn said, "You cannot change your destination overnight
but you can change your direction overnight."
So if you wanna reach your goals and fulfill your potential,
become intentional about your personal growth.
I'm telling you, it will change your life.
So my recommendation is set a goal to listen
to one podcast every day.
Even if it's five minutes, it matters.
Number two is speak positive words over yourself.
Now, you've probably heard that what you believe
about yourself on the inside is what will manifest
on the outside.
Henry Ford said, "Whether you think you can
or think you can't, either way you're right."
If you tell yourself that you're not good enough
to have your own business, then you're right.
If you tell yourself you're too old
to start achieving your goals, then you're right.
If you tell yourself you're not qualified
to get a promotion, then you won't.
Because whatever you tell yourself becomes your reality.
So your internal dialogue is so powerful
and your words create your reality.
In fact, the girl who at one time had more followers
on Instagram than anyone in the world, Selena Gomez,
she had to really work on her confidence
by making positive declarations out loud out of her mouth.
You probably heard stories, how she grew up
with a single mom, struggling financially
to later being diagnosed with lupus.
And that disease caused complications leading
to her having a kidney transplant that nearly killed her.
Well, after she recovered from that near fatal procedure,
Selena Gomez opened up about her battle with depression,
with anxiety, with insecurity.
Before and after she would go on stage,
she would have these severe panic attacks.
Depression and anxiety were just a part
of her life for five years straight.
Well, it wasn't enough to just listen
to a motivational message.
She knew she had to take intentional action.
So Selena said she began making positive affirmations
to start her day.
She would declare things like, "I can do this.
I am strong.
I am powerful."
And Selena believes that if you speak it long enough,
your brain will begin to believe it.
Well, we know God's word tells us that our words matter.
You may not even be aware of the things you're saying
to yourself because of how long you've been saying 'em.
Well, I wanna encourage you today.
In fact, I have a free download
of seven self-image boosting scriptures.
That's what I call 'em.
I put this together and I want you to have these.
Because if you battle with insecurities, anxiety,
a lack of confidence like I did for years and years.
And I still speak these out, because the enemy always tries
to stop us from going to a new level.
So all you need to do is click the link in the description
to download these seven powerful scriptures from God's word
to help you get more confident.
And just set a goal to speak 'em out loud
every single day this week.
Got it?
Let me warn you.
The instant you find yourself affirming negative statements
and behaviors about yourself, stop.
Instead of using your words to just describe your life,
use your words to change your life.
Speaking these powerful scriptures out loud
and let your words be what they were designed to be,
a tool to help you reach your goals.
Now, don't get me wrong, you may still think it,
but don't speak it.
So you gotta learn to become your own best cheerleader
by giving yourself a pep talk about your potential.
Okay, the third way you can be more confident is.
Well, lemme give you an illustration before I tell you.
Did you know that eagles fly up
to an altitude of 10,000 feet?
At 10,000 feet you will never find another bird.
If you do, it has to be an eagle.
They don't mix with other birds.
Eagles don't mingle with pigeons.
(Terri laughing)
Eagles fly with eagles, right?
Well, the size of your life will be determined
by the size of the people you have around you.
So if you wanna be successful,
surround yourself with successful people.
You know, Myles Monroe said, "If you keep running
into pigeons, it's because you're flying too low."
He said, "You can tell where you are in life
by who you keep meeting."
So my third point is surround yourself with positive people.
If you're gonna live your dreams
and develop greater confidence,
you must surround yourself with greatness.
See, your success can be determined in part
by who you surround yourself with.
But can also be determined
by who you do not surround yourself with.
You can't share big dreams with small minds.
Now, one of the most important decisions we make
in life is choosing our friendships.
So you have to ask yourself, who are you spending the most
of your time with?
Do they elevate you or do they bring you down?
You know, are they proactive dreamers
with qualities you admire?
Or people who just sit around and gossip about people
who are doing something with their lives?
Do they motivate you to do more?
Or do they convince you
that your dreams are nothing but pipe dreams?
Your future will be shaped
by who you surround yourself with.
So choose wisely.
Proverbs 13:20 says, "If you walk with wise men,
you'll become wise,
but the companion of fools will be destroyed."
That's pretty tough, isn't it?
So I hope you enjoy this today
and don't forget your free download
of my seven self-image boosting scriptures.
And just make a decision, you're gonna speak 'em out loud
every day for seven days.
Don't forget.
I'm cheering you on to live your dreams.
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