i just wanted to record a little note today because i have noticed
that it's not just me who deals with really bad negative self-talk
it seems like it is a creative problem well it's probably like a global problem but mainly for
creatives and i've noticed that people who are on my online courses um 1-2-1 students
and just you guys on social media are really being quite nasty to yourselves you're
putting yourselves down you're basically saying that you're not very good you're questioning
yourself and your confidence and it's good to self-critique it's really good i self-critique
all of the time but when it's not good is when it becomes unhealthy so this last week i had a really
rough week you guys already know that don't need to go over that again i felt really really really
low really low the the worst part about it is that most of the time i'm kind of doing it to myself
like i don't need other people on the internet to tell me when i've done something wrong i know that
guys i know that um if you want to give me hate go for it i know that i don't need you to do
that for me and i think we put our heart on our sleeves and we put our heart into our work so much
and whatever we do it's not going to appeal to everybody it's just not and that's fine
genuinely that's fine you need to know that that is also okay so something that you do the person
down the road probably is going to not like it for example my dad thinks my work is not good because
it's all blurry as in the backgrounds as in boca so everybody has their own things that they like
and everyone has their own things that they enjoy and it's absolutely fine to have those things
you just need to know that you and yourself your worth your value is not tied to theoretically
your work like anything that you produce and if you're producing work that you think
this isn't really that good or this isn't what i wanted to achieve go and shoot it again and
work to get where you want to be 100% but that doesn't mean that you're a bad person it doesn't
mean that you failed it doesn't mean that you should give up because really really it doesn't
i don't want to be super preachy in this video but i mean hey i guess here we are i just
need you to just look after yourself and i sat last week and i felt so low and a lot of that
wasn't just me giving myself negative self-talk but negative self-talk is a really interesting
thing to look at because actually the some of the things that we say to ourselves are awful
awful you would not say some of the things that you say to yourself to a friend
or a family member or a loved one so why do we say to ourselves and more than that we we
don't switch off from that we're constantly with our minds so if you allow your brain to
give you negative self-talk that's just really horrible and not constructive in the slightest
that's really damaging but it's up to you to be able to spot it so you need to be able to see
when you're doing it and go hang on a minute what on earth is happening here i challenge you all for
just for a day just for just try it for a day and talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend
so i mean nicely because i know some of it some of us are really sarcastic and that
could potentially not be nice things but just try and talk to yourself uh as though you're a friend
and you'll probably notice quite a large change so instead of saying i did this wrong
i can't do anything right i'm a failure i failed at this i'm rubbish i'm useless
all of that kind of thing you wouldn't say that to a friend you would not say that to a friend
so change it turn it round look at it more constructively and just give yourself a break it's
there's there's bigger fish to fry in the world right now although watch seaspiracy
on the fish note that's worth a watch it's on netflix let's not talk about fish
the bigger problems to worry about than you creating one in being nasty to yourself stop bashing
yourself you are worth so much more than that and i believe in you so yeah let's just be nice
it doesn't cost anything to be kind so lets all be nice and yeah it's all good