- The number one block to attracting love
is rooted in one of these three childhood wounds.
And once you become aware of them and you let them go,
it changes everything.
It's about understanding your relationship to love itself
knowing you can only attract love if you are first off
feeling it on the inside.
If in the mind it's like, I will feel loved
once this person comes in or XYZ happens,
we're a prolonging the feeling of love and continuing
to get an equal reality to that lack of love.
And when I look back to why the most popular video
on my channel is a meditation with over 4 million views
on attracting love and why there are thousands of comments
in that video of people saying that they manifested love
after 21 days of listening to that meditation,
what happened is I thought to myself, why is it
that this meditation got so much positive feedback?
And the main part of the meditation is feeling the love
on the inside now and doing that for 21 days
begins to then change what we experienced
in the outer reality.
So I'll go ahead and link to that meditation below,
if you wanna see and also reading the comments
helps you increase the belief as what's possible for you.
This really is your beliefs create your reality.
So if you start to believe that you are love
and you start to feel that love,
and then you read other people's comments that say
that they attracted love through listening
to that meditation, it will increase the belief
inside of yourself and then increase the probability
you then experience it in your life.
So with that, let's get into this video right now.
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Welcome back to another video, My name is Aaron
and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now I really wanted to make this video
because in my own life I have completely transformed
my own energy dynamics over the last six months
to eight months or so.
I went through a lot of healing, a lot of shadow work
but I've always felt this little block
around attracting love.
Like even though I knew intellectually a lot of these ideas,
I couldn't figure out why there was this block there.
I literally thought for a while that maybe
like the higher self or something didn't want me
to date or to get out there or to like open myself up
to love or something, like it would get in the way
of my purpose and my mission and what I'm doing.
And it was something that was there for a very,
it was kind of there underneath the surface for a long time
and I just felt blocked and I didn't really understand why.
But the more I went into it,
the more I realized what was really going on.
And it's going to involve that of understanding
our own childhood wounding, we all have one of three wounds.
Many of us may have a combination of these wounds too,
but once we heal these wounds and we start to feel
that self-love, that's when the outer reality
then begins to change.
And I'm not kidding you, when I became aware of this,
literally within days my whole entire reality transformed.
It's like there were always options there
but I was literally, they were invisible to me
because I was holding onto an old identity of myself,
I was holding onto an old story of myself
and I had attachments that weren't allowing that in.
So it's an incredible thing, but I'm not kidding you,
it happens so quick once you become aware
of what I shared with you in this video.
So first off, the three childhood wounds
that are blocking love from coming into your life
are one of these three things,
it's either that we feel like we are not worthy.
That's one of the main ones.
And that's one of the most common limiting beliefs.
We feel like we're not worthy of love.
We're not worthy of being accepted the way that we are.
The second one is a fear of abandonment.
We're afraid we're going to be abandoned,
that someone's going to leave us.
So many times this is where people pleasers come in
because they're afraid of abandonment.
Therefore, what they do is they change themselves
to mold to other people's reality, to get validation,
to get love and support.
And that comes from childhood wounding,
and we'll talk about that.
But then the third one is not being able to trust.
Not be able to trust other people,
not being able to trust ourselves
and not being able to trust the universe.
And a combination of these three things for me I'd say,
it's a little bit of all three to be honest,
definitely the fear of abandonment is something
that I had to shed, and then also the not trusting
trying to control different areas of my life.
Now, one of the main things I've realized though
that's been the biggest game changer is I never realized
how much shame that I had in my own life and around love.
And this actually it was a realization I had the other day
talking about buddy of mine, because I didn't realize
how much shame I had in thinking
that there was something wrong with me.
So there's an underlying premise when there's shame
that says there's something wrong with me.
The difference between shame and guilt is that
shame says there's something wrong with my identity.
And then guilt is I've done something wrong
but I'm not necessarily a bad person.
So guilt is something that is more action-based
whereas shame is something that is more identity-based.
And what I was doing is because I felt like I wasn't worthy,
which is also related to worthiness
in the fear of abandonment,
I felt like there's something wrong with me.
I was attracting people into my life that would reflect back
that energy dynamic pattern.
So for example, growing up, you know,
my mom went through a lot of pain growing up,
went through a lot of trauma growing up,
and there were times that I felt like, you know,
her dad died when I was a couple of years old
and like one years old actually,
and she was emotionally dealing with that,
and then I felt in a way that I was emotionally abandoned.
And it's not her fault, she was in the best that she could,
but in that emotional abandonment,
I then said maybe there's something wrong with me.
And I felt alone.
And I felt like I wasn't worthy.
And now the funny thing is, is I tend to attract women
into my life that are more so
preoccupied with their own stuff.
It's almost like part of me was trying to fix other people
'cause if I could fix them then maybe
they would then love me.
And I was replaying that same energy dynamic
from back when I was a kid, now in my life
by attracting women that had, you know,
their own things going on to where then
they really couldn't love me or they couldn't,
that energy wasn't a two-way street.
And it was beautiful because it was reflecting back to me
this belief in shame or this belief and not worthiness.
And what I had to learn out of that is I had to learn
how to stand my ground and to really claim
what I believe I deserve.
And really, honestly, a lot of this as well,
because of that abandonment,
I would then abandon myself for other.
I would abandon myself to then give to someone else
because if I could fix them, if I could give them enough
then they would love me back.
And when I realized that I was abandoning myself
it was a huge epiphany because
then I stopped abandoning myself.
I started asking myself,
what do I actually want out of this?
I have a standard now.
And if there's something that's not meeting that standard
then I walk away from it because I know my own worth now.
And there are many of you that may not have
strong boundaries because you're afraid of abandoning,
you have abandoned yourself and you're looking
for the external validation, you're looking
for the attention of the external validation on the outside.
And what happens is if you don't find it or you don't get it
then you feel like there's something missing.
But the key to this whole process of attracting love
is becoming whole, because if you're not whole,
if you're not feeling integrated, whole and complete,
then you're gonna attract someone else
that's also not feeling 100% worthy, whole and complete.
You're gonna somebody else that has a similar trauma wound.
And a lot of this for me it was really about
letting go of attachment, letting go of ex relationships,
letting go of the story I told myself about them,
I realized the story I was telling myself
about these relationships was keeping that same childhood
energy dynamic alive, where I was giving away myself
and agreeing to things that I did really prefer.
And to different like relationship dynamics
I didn't prefer, and once I let that go,
it moved out and allowed more space in my life to where
all these opportunities literally were right in front of me.
They were always there.
I was just blind to it because I was so attached to the old.
I was so attached to also looking on the outside
for that love and that validation.
So the key to attracting love is to become whole
within yourself by becoming aware of your childhood wounds.
And if you feel like you're unworthy or if you feel like
you're afraid of abandonment, or if you feel like you trust
you lack trust in your life, realize that these are things
that can be changed.
These are things that you can integrate
by feeling it to heal it, by becoming aware of it
and then starting to check yourself.
What happens is now I'm aware of when I feel unworthy
or when I'm like losing myself to change
to other people's stream, I'm aware of it,
so I don't do it.
I make a new choice.
And even if it's like the truck,
you realize this is all about the self as well.
So if it comes from like abandoning or being afraid
of abandonment and you were emotionally abandoned as a kid
or you attract emotionally abandoned people in your life,
here's another huge epiphany.
Me attracting emotionally abandoned people in my life
was because I wasn't emotionally available.
I was tied to a story of past relationships.
I was also afraid that if I were to open up to love
and receive love from the feminine that I would like
it would be scary because I could get hurt again
like I was when I was a kid.
So I then realized that the more I open up
is the more I allow in.
So a lot of times that a fear of intimacy
is something that we all experience that we're blocking love
because our nervous system really gets a little bit
like freaked out because it's not used to it.
It's unknown, like touch and getting close to someone,
maybe kind of fearful.
And that's why you'll get some people
that can get into a relationship,
and maybe there's a lot of sexual polarity
but then what happens is they, as you start to get close,
then they run, one of them runs away
because that intimacy becomes kind of fearful.
But there's no problem with the initial like energy of it,
but then it runs away once things started getting deep.
So this is something to be really aware of.
And as I became more aware of this within myself,
that, hey, I'm actually closing myself off energetically.
Then I'm like, oh, as I chased that energy and I'm like
you know, I'm gonna, I made the choice to open.
I made the choice to be vulnerable or to like connect
and to not like, you know, in the uncomfortableness
of being around somebody that could truly love back
not being afraid of that,
being willing to go into the unknown.
So if you feel like you're abandoning,
afraid of abandonment, you most likely abandoned yourself.
What do you really want?
What's really authentic for you?
Is it okay for you to set boundaries?
If it's a think about self-worth
and you're looking for it on the outside,
realize it's because you're not valuing yourself.
And once you start valuing yourself,
you have to create a stronger sense of self.
Because if you're not feeling worthy or you feel abandoned,
then most likely what's happened is you've let go
of this boundary of yourself and you're just focused
on other, and that's where codependent relationships
come into play, and that's where you start
to externalize your own sense of self-worth.
So it's about bringing it back to the self,
nurturing the self, creating boundaries for the self,
being leading in your own life.
That will change change the dynamic to love,
because then you'll start feeling
that self love on the inside.
And then the trust means if you don't trust other people
it means you don't trust yourself.
Yes, maybe one of your parents cheated on your other parents
or maybe somebody broke a sense of trust with you
by doing something to you or vice versa,
but realize that this is about trusting the self, self-love.
The degree to which you can feel self-love
is the degree to which you will attract love into your life.
And then also letting go of the beliefs.
It can really be this quick,
letting go of your beliefs and stories about love.
I had for a long time believe in that spirit
or the spiritual side of me did not want me in a relation
'cause it's away from my passion, my purpose.
That was just a story that was gluing me
to old pattern dynamics of of past relationships, the story.
And as I let go of that, things immediately began to shift
but it's a choice you make.
It's becoming aware of the story,
becoming aware of the belief and then seeing
that it was there to keep you safe.
But you don't need it to keep you safe.
Your idea of safe is in the familiar,
in the familiar may be a similar childhood wound.
So the key to this is switching that
and feeling the love on the inside.
And once you start to feel that love on the inside,
everything begins to change.
So that's something that I encourage all of you to do.
If you guys liked this video, could you do me a favor
and like the video below, listen to that meditation,
I'll go ahead and link it right here
and you'll see it below.
The most powerful meditation for attracting love
got over 4 million views.
Read the comments to see what's possible,
commit to it for 21 days
and watch how your life begins to change.
With that being said, talk to you guys in the next video
and as always, peace, much love and namaste.