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>>> JOINING ME TODAY IS THE ONE AND ONLY, OUR FELLOW
DOCTOR OF LOVE, MR. CHESLEY
McNEIL, YES.
McNEIL, YES. AND NOW THAT I HAVE OFFICIALLY
REACHED THE 12-YEAR
MARK OF MY ANNIVERSARY.
>> HEY, CONGRATULATIONS.
>> CHESLEY AND I HAVE
CUMULATIVELY 5 YEARS.
EVERYBODY LIKES YOUR ADVICE,
CHESLEY.
CHESLEY.
CHESLEY. WE'RE GOING TO GET RIGHT TO IT.
WE HAVE LOT OF QUESTIONS.
OKAY, NUMBER ONE.
OUR OLDEST DAUGHTER, SHE JUST
TURNED TEN.
TURNED TEN. WANTS TO GO TO THE MOVIES, JUST
HER AND HER FRIENDS
FRIDAY NIGHT.
FRIDAY NIGHT. ALL THE OTHER PARENTS SEEM TO
BE OKAY WITH IT.
I THINK IT'S WAY TOO YOUNG.
MY HUSBAND DOESN'T THINK IT'S
THAT BIG OF A DEAL.
DOESN'T WANT HER TO BE THE ONLY
KID NOT GOING AND
END UP FEELING LEFT OUT.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
>> THIS IS LIKE PARENTING
ADVICE.
ADVICE.
ADVICE. TEN IS YOUNG.
>> NOT IN A MILLION YEARS, MY
FRIEND.
FRIEND.
FRIEND. >> TEN IS YOUNG.
DON'T SUCCUMB TO WHAT ALL THE
OTHER PARENTS ARE
DOING.
DOING.
DOING. YOU DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT.
AND YOU KNOW YOUR DAUGHTER MORE
THAN THEY DO.
AND SO TEN?
>> TEN?
>> TEN?
>> TEN? >> THAT'S YOUNG.
>> NOT ONLY THAT, MY SWEET
LITTLE CAROLINE LOOKS
LIKE SEVEN.
LIKE SEVEN. SHE'S REALLY PETITE.
I WOULD ACTUALLY GET A BAD
REPUTATION AROUND TOWN.
THEY WOULD BE LIKE, "IS THAT
CHRISTINE'S DAUGHTER."
CHRISTINE'S DAUGHTER." NO, YOU DO NOT, NO.
>> IF YOU HAVE TO DO IT, YOU GO
WITH HER.
WITH HER.
WITH HER. SIT IN THE BACK IF YOU MUST LET
HER GO.
HER GO.
HER GO. BUT I WOULDN'T LET HER GO.
TEN YEARS OLD?
NO.
NO.
NO. >>
NO. >> I
NO. >> I WOULD SAY, 100%, THAT'S
THE WAY YOU GET THROUGH
THIS.
THIS.
THIS. YOU
THIS. YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND ARE NOT ON
THE SAME PAGE AS
THIS, THAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN.
BUT YOU NEED TO WORK THROUGH
IT.
IT.
IT. I
IT. I PROMISE, YOU WON'T SEE ME.
YOU WON'T HEAR ME.
I'LL MEET YOU AT THE FRONT OF
THE THEATER.
THE THEATER. >> RIGHT, RIGHT, RIGHT.
TEN IS TOO YOUNG.
>> DOES EVERYBODY ELSE AGREE
WITH THAT?
WITH THAT? TEN?
TEN?
TEN? YEAH, WAY TOO YOUNG IN THIS
STATE.
STATE.
STATE. WHICH AGE IS OKAY, MICHELLE
ASKS?
ASKS?
ASKS? >>
ASKS? >> I WOULD SAY IT REALLY
DEPENDS ON THE CHILD,
BECAUSE ALL CHILDREN ARE
DIFFERENT.
DIFFERENT. BUT, YEAH, ABOUT 12, 13, 14.
. I HAVE NO DAUGHTERS, AND IF
IT WAS MY DAUGHTER,
PROBABLY NOT UNTIL SHE WAS LIKE
35.
35.
35. >>
35. >> I
35. >> I KNOW.
>> IF IT WAS MY DAUGHTER.
>> I WOULD PROBABLY STILL BE IN
THE BACK OF THE
THEATER, WATCHING --
>> WHAT'S HAPPENING OVER THERE?
WHERE'S HIS HAND?
JUST BE OUT OF SIGHT, AND I
THINK SHE'LL BE OKAY.
SECOND, "I STARTED DATING ONE
OF MY GOOD GUY
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS. I DIDN'T THINK IT WOULD BOTHER
ME THAT MUCH, BUT
HE'S BEEN FLIRTING WITH ONE OF
OUR OTHER FRIENDS
MORE THAN USUAL, IT FEES LIKE.
HE SAYS I HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY
ABOUT, BUT I'LL
CATCH THEM GLANCING AT EACH
OTHER, GIGGLING.
OTHER, GIGGLING. AM I BEING TOO SENSITIVE, OR IS
THERE REALLY
THERE REALLY SOMETHING THERE?"
SOMETHING THERE?" THIS GUY SOUNDS LIKE A PLAYER.
>> THERE IS.
THERE'S NO DOUBT ABOUT THAT.
HE FLIRTED WITH YOU.
YOU STARTED LIKING HIM, STARTED
DATING HIM.
DATING HIM. NOW YOU EXPECT HE'S GOING TO
START FLIRTING.
START FLIRTING. NO.
NO.
NO. HE'S
NO. HE'S A FLIRT.
>> I HATE TO SAY IT.
THEY SAY PEOPLE SHOW YOU --
WE'VE BEEN TALKING MAYA
THE WHOLE MORNING.
PEOPLE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE
THE FIRST TIME.
BELIEVE HIM.
BELIEVE HIM. YOU'VE ALWAYS KNOWN HE WAS KIND
OF FLIRTY.
OF FLIRTY. NOW, UNFORTUNATELY, THOUGH,
YOU'RE DATING HIM.
IT'S DIFFERENT WHEN YOU'RE
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS. WHEN YOU'RE FRIENDS, YOU'RE
LIKE, "OH, LOOK AT HIM."
.
.
. >>
. >> NOW
. >> NOW THAT HE'S WITH ME, HE'S
GOING TO STOP
FLIRTING.
FLIRTING.
FLIRTING. NO, NO, NO.
THAT HAS TO STOP.
YOU HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH
HIM: "HEY, CAN YOU STOP
THIS?
THIS?
THIS? IF
THIS? IF YOU CAN'T STOP IT, I'M OUT.
I'M OUT."
I'M OUT."
I'M OUT." >> WE'RE BACK TO JUST BEING
GOOD FRIENDS.
GOOD FRIENDS. I AGREE.
I AGREE.
I AGREE. HERE'S THE FUNNY THING.
LIKE, SHE'S PICKING UP ON WAYS
THAT WERE THE REASON
THEY FINALLY STARTED AT A
TIMING.
TIMING.
TIMING. OBVIOUSLY WE DON'T DETAIL IT,
BUT SOME CROSS THAT
LINE FROM BEING MORE THAN JUST
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS. IT WAS PROBABLY HIS FLIRTING
AND HIS, YOU KNOW, HIS
BEHAVIOR.
BEHAVIOR.
BEHAVIOR. NOW SHE'S LIKE, "THIS LOOKS WAY
FAMILIAR."
FAMILIAR." >> "BUT IT'S NOT ME THIS TIME."
CAN'T DO IT.
>> NO.
>> NO.
>> NO. I
>> NO. I DON'T LIKE IT.
I DON'T LIKE IT AT ALL.
STOP IT.
STOP IT.
STOP IT. ''I JUST STARTED DATING A GUY
WHO'S EIGHT YEARS
YOUNGER.
YOUNGER.
YOUNGER. HE IS SUPER MATURE FOR HIS AGE,
MAKES ME FEEL LOVED
AND SAFE.
AND SAFE.
AND SAFE. THE ONLY PROBLEM IS HE DOESN'T
MAKE A LOT OF MONEY."
>> OH, COME ON.
>> I KNOW WHERE CHESLEY IS
GOING WITH THIS.
>> I'M ACCUSTOMED TO A CERTAIN
KIND OF LIFESTYLE.
I'M AFRAID HE WON'T BE ABLE TO
PROVIDE FOR ME IN
THAT WAY.
THAT WAY.
THAT WAY. AM I BEING TOO MATERIALISTIC,
OR IS THIS A VALID
CONCERN?
CONCERN?
CONCERN? >> I THINK THIS IS A VALID
CONCERN.
CONCERN.
CONCERN. NO, NO.
NO, NO.
NO, NO. AND BY THE WAY, I WON'T GIVE IT
AWAY.
AWAY.
AWAY. >>
AWAY. >> YOU DON'T THINK SHE'S BEING
MATERIALISTIC?
MATERIALISTIC? >> I HAVE A FRIEND OF MINE
WHO'S SUCCESSFUL, AND HE
STARTED DATING A YOUNGER PERSON
IN HIS FIELD, AND
THIS PARTNER, THE SAME THING,
AND HE'S LIKE -- IT
HAS SUPPOSED SOME CHALLENGES.
BUT CAN YOU OVERCOME IT?
OF COURSE.
OF COURSE. BUT CHESLEY, FOR A LOT OF
PEOPLE, MAYBE THEY THINK,
"LOOK, I'VE WORKED MY TAIL OFF
TO GET TO THIS
CERTAIN PLACE.
CERTAIN PLACE. THIS GUY IS LEGALS AND POUNDS
BEYOND, HOW ARE WE
GOING TO LEVEL OUT THE PLAYING
FIELD?
FIELD?
FIELD? >>
FIELD? >> WHAT DOES ANY OF THAT HAVE
TO DO WITH LOVE?
THANK YOU.
THANK YOU. THANK YOU.
THANK YOU. LOVE IS THE KEY HERE.
WE'RE THE LOVE DOCTORS, NOT THE
FINANCIAL DOCTORS.
FINANCIAL DOCTORS. YOU DON'T NEED SOMEBODY FOR
FINANCES.
FINANCES.
FINANCES. I'M NOT LOOKING AT YOUR PROFILE
AND YOUR CREDIT.
YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?
>> PERHAPS YOU SHOULD.
I BET THERE HAVE BEEN A LOT OF
RELATIONSHIPS THAT
RELATIONSHIPS THAT HAVE BEEN RUINED, BECAUSE THEY
DIDN'T DO THEIR DUE
DILL INTELLIGENCE ON THEIR
PARTNER'S CREDIT.
PARTNER'S CREDIT. >> PROGRAMS.
>> PROGRAMS. >> I MIGHT BE ONE OF THOSE WITH
-- JUST KIDDING.
>> WHO'S TO SAY HE CAN'T OR SHE
CAN'T BRING THAT
PERSON UP TO HER LEVEL.
>> TRUE.
>> TRUE.
>> TRUE. >> THIS THING IS ABOUT LOVE.
COME ON, WE NEED MORE LOVE.
>> LISTEN, I DON'T WANT --
BECAUSE SOMEBODY ON
FACEBOOK IS GOING TO WRITE IN
AND MISCONSTRUE THIS.
I AGREE WITH YOU.
IT IS ABOUT LOVE, BUT ALSO
YOU'RE ACTING LIKE THIS
ISN'T A CONCERN.
IT IS.
IT IS.
IT IS. THANK YOU, PAUL.
IT IS.
IT IS.
IT IS. YOU'VE GOT TO WEIGH IT.
>> I'M THINKING IT SHOULD BE
LESS OF A CONCERN THAN
WHAT THEY'RE MAKING IT.
THE QUESTION IS AM I BEING TOO
MATERIALISTIC?
MATERIALISTIC? ABSOLUTELY.
ABSOLUTELY. I HAVE MORE THAN THIS PERSON.
I DRIVE THIS.
THEY DRIVE THAT.
>> SHE DIDN'T SAY THAT.
IT JUST SAID --
>> THE CONCERN IS EIGHT YEARS
-- I'M EIGHT YEARS
OLDER.
OLDER.
OLDER. >>
OLDER. >> YOU'RE RIGHT, PAUL.
>> I'M VERY MATURE, TAKING A
LIKING TO THIS GUY, BUT
HE DOESN'T HAVE THE RIGHT JOB.
COME ON.
COME ON.
COME ON. ARE YOU OUT FOR THE JOB, OR ARE
YOU OUT FOR THE MAN?
JUST LOOK AT THE MAN HERE.
IS HE TREATING HER WELL?
>> ALL RIGHT.
OF COURSE.
OF COURSE. >> THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT.
STOP ALL THIS -- I'M TELLING
YOU, MORE WOMEN HAVE
LOST GOOD MEN, HAVE LOST GOOD
MEN.
MEN.
MEN. >>
MEN. >> THEY COULDN'T CHECK EVERY
CHECK MARK OFF THEIR
CHECK LIST.
CHECK LIST. I WAS COMING FROM THE
PERSPECTIVE THAT PICK BE A
POINT OF CONTENTION.
BUT YOU JUST HAVE TO WEIGH IT
OUT VERSUS ALL THE
THINGS CHESLEY DISCUSSED.
>> IT'S ABOUT LOVE.
>> YOU KNOW THEY'VE BEEN
WRITING BAD E-MAILS ABOUT
YOU, MISTER, AND I'VE BEEN
COMING OFF SCOT-FREE.
>> I KEEP 100.
>> CHESLEY IS CONTROVERSIAL.
PLEASE WEIGH IN.
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