- Welcome to IDK!
- Yay! - Yay!
- Because we don't know either.
- Today, we're talking about adult things, and adulting.
We're talking about adulting.
- Adult video.
- Oh.
- We're not, we are not.
(laughter)
- There are five of us, and we are on a bed.
- And technically, we are all adults, and this is a video.
- Yeah, so we're not wrong.
- Let's do it! - Yeah!
- Woo! - Woo!
- [Female Speaker] If you can go back and tell
your teenage self one thing, what would it be?
- Don't date boys, because you're gay!
It's going to be hard, but you have a future.
Oh yeah, that you have a future.
- Your theater major is not a waste of time.
It gets you places.
- Follow your gut.
If you feel, deep within, that something is wrong,
or that you should be doing something,
pray about it, talk to your loved ones, and then go for it.
- You're not going to marry your celeb crush,
and it's going to be fine.
- [Female Speaker] What's an inspirational quote
that keeps you going?
- Panera Bread.
- (laughter)
- It gets me through all my hard times.
- I think I saw it on Instagram once, but,
"Everything is figureoutable."
Because it is, you'll figure it out.
If I can figure it out, you sure as hell can.
- Timing is a real thing.
A lot of times, things don't work out
when you want them to work out,
because the stars aren't aligned,
and maybe the person you want to be with
isn't in the right place to be with you,
or maybe the job that you want
isn't where it needs to be for you,
and it's all just timing.
- Time will pass.
Whenever I feel like I am never going to get out
of the situation that's bad, it's always gotten better.
Like, you know, I actually have, like,
a 100 percent success rate at staying alive.
- [Female Speaker] What is your greatest fear
and what is your greatest wish?
- One of my greatest fears is, like, being in
a pyramid, and, like, getting caught in one of
the ancient Egyptian traps, where the walls
are slowly closing in and they have spikes,
and so that you know you're going to die, and that
you're going to get impaled by spikes on both sides.
- Ooh, that's scary.
Also, quicksand.
- Yeah, quicksand is really scary. (laughs)
- Yeah.
- My greatest fear is that nobody will like me.
I think that I've gotten a lot of the things
that I've gotten in life, because people liked me,
and so I keep thinking, like,
"I've just got to keep up the liking me train!"
I'm very afraid of making people unhappy with me,
even though, like, making people unhappy with you
is kind of a part of life.
Not all people are going to like you.
- I don't like being alone.
I think that's my greatest fear.
I don't like being left out and ignored,
and the thought of going through something major
in my life and having no one by my side is terrifying.
- I think mine is personal.
I think I'm afraid of never being a mom.
- That is something that I am scared of, too.
That, like, for whatever reason, I'm not going to
be able to, like, have children, and so
that's something that does scare me.
- Sure.
- Because it's something that I've, like,
always wanted, since I was very, very young.
- Yeah.
- So it's kind of like your greatest fear
and your greatest wish.
- Right. - That's true.
Jenn, you're right.
- My greatest wish is that all of my
student loans would go away.
- Fuck yeah.
- [Female Speaker] What do you love about yourself?
- I've always liked that I'm a curious person.
- Persian?
- Persian. (laughs)
- I like that I like learning about things,
because it's been helpful.
- I think my drive has really gotten me to where I am.
- I have the ability to withstand a lot of garbage,
and that has carried me through.
- We've all kind of, like, conversed in this,
like, one space, and so I think that we all
kind of have some, like, similar traits.
- Yeah.
- Because if I want to do something, I'll just do it.
You don't really need to ask permission for it,
especially if you do it and you succeed,
people are going to be like, "How did you do that?
Let's all do that," rather than, "That's amazing.
You shouldn't have done that."
- Right, yeah. - Yeah.
- I mean, we all see the world differently,
but I think I've kind of a wacky lens on how I
think about things, and I kind of like that about myself.
I like that I am always thinking of
the most offbeat way to do things.
- [Female Speaker] If you could change one thing
about yourself, what would it be?
- One thing I would change about myself
is just being more patient.
- You don't seem impatient.
- Really? - Yeah, no, you don't.
- Yeah, you just seem, like, determined.
- Oh my gosh, that's so good.
- Yeah.
- I'm glad I give that off.
- Yeah.
- I wear my heart on my sleeve.
I hate that about myself.
I'm very emotional and emotive.
I wish I could be a little bit more reserved,
so I could have the cards closer to my chest,
so people didn't always know what I was thinking.
- I would love to not have sensitive skin,
because it makes trying new products
and doing anything like that very difficult.
- I'm always, like, how can I be better?
How can I achieve more?
How can I get a better thing?
How can I have better relationships?
How can I have better plans?
And it's really hard for me to just
be happy with what I have.
Being able to just, kind of, sit back and be like,
"Okay, this is pretty cool," that's so hard for me,
and I'd like to be able to just do that for once.
- [Female Speaker] In high school, what did you picture
your adult self would be like?
- It's hard to picture something that's, like,
so far outside yourself.
- Right.
- Like, even in high school, it's hard to picture college.
In college, it's hard to picture after college.
- When I was in high school, I thought that I would have
kids and be married and be in a house in the suburbs.
Very different from what my actual life is.
(laughter)
Sometimes, part of me does wish that, like,
that was the case, but I think 75 percent
knows that, like, timing ...
Ehh, ehh, ehh? - Yeah? Ehh?
- Is on my side, and, like, I'm doing awesome things
and I feel really good, and I'm on my own,
and I'm in a really cool city, and I have great friends.
- I thought I would be in a band.
(rock music)
- [Female Speaker] Really?
- Yes.
- Like, what kind of band?
- I don't know, I don't play any instruments.
- All I knew is that I wanted to be creating stuff
on my own, and so I think I just kind of, like,
pursued the path, towards creation.
Whatever that looked like.
- [Female Speaker] How do you survive
when you first move out?
- You have a time where everything is just up in the air,
and nothing makes sense, and you don't have any plans,
or any job, or any real, like, place to live,
or your life's just sort of a nebulous mush.
And then, slowly but surely, you kind of tic things off,
and it's like, "Okay, I found people to live with,
and a house, and a job, and I have friends."
You just sort of slowly acquire a life.
It just takes a while.
- I moved from New York City to L.A.,
and I had been living on my own before then,
but that was the scariest move,
because I have no family in L.A.,
I have just a handful of friends in L.A.
I have more now, but when I moved,
I only had knew, like, three people.
I think that's one thing that really
made me say to myself, like, "This has to work out.
Like, I don't have a choice.
So, like, Freddie, get your shit together,
work hard, and make it happen."
You know, it felt like a movie.
You know? Just like ...
- Montage.
- Freddie, how Freddie got her groove back.
- Yeah, exactly!
- The most important thing is that you have, like,
a safe place to go to sleep at night.
It doesn't have to be nice.
It doesn't have to be fancy.
It just has to be, like, safe, and, like, okay to be in.
- Cities like New York, they're like a river,
and they kind of take you and that energy,
and then L.A.'s kind of like a pond,
and you kind of have to learn how to swim,
so you just kind of have to find your own city,
within your group of friends,
within your own little network,
and just kind of, like, what Kristin said,
it just takes time to tic things off the list.
- Adulting is crazy.
Everyone kind of has their own certain paths.
If you keep working hard and keep grinding new,
well, everything kind of evens out and you might even ...
(pop sound)
- Yeah, you might turn into a bubble.
- That's creative, nice.
- You might turn into a bubble.
- Adulting is a marathon, not a sprint,
and when you cross the finish line, you die.
So, really, there's no rush.
- Take your time.
- Yeah.
- And also, too, if you don't adult well,
you can always go back to Chuck E. Cheese.
- You can.
- Where a kid can be a kid!
- You want to go eat some chicken and bacon now?
- Yeah, let's go eat some bacon right now!
- Yay! - Let's go.
- [Female Speaker] You can, too!
- [Female Speaker] Bye, you all!
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