I am not sure where to start, I was told by a friend to share my story, to maybe help
someone out that might be going through the same thing, but my story is kind of, let's
say, different.
My wife and I have been married for 23 years, we don't have any kids, we have tried, but,
unsuccessfully, she had some fertility issues.
We decided to focus on our careers and just live a happy life together.
Though, over the past few years, things have changed.
I started noticing that my wife was becoming more distant, she would go out more often,
and when she was home, she would just hang out in the den, reading books, she has always
been a reader.
I would try to talk to her and see what was wrong, but she would just say that everything
was fine, that I was just overreacting a little.
I tried not to think too much about it, but then, things started happening that I couldn't
ignore.
She would come home later and later, sometimes she wouldn't come until really late at night,
or early in the morning.
She would always have an excuse, she was working late, or she went out with some friends, but
I knew something was up.
I asked her about it again, and this time she got really mad, she yelled at me and told
me that I was being paranoid and crazy.
My response was, I am just trying to make sure you are okay, that's all.
She told me that I needed to stop asking her questions, and just trust her.
But how can I trust her when I know in my gut, something is wrong, in the 23 years of
marriage, she has never been this distant.
I don't know what to do, I love my wife, but I can't just sit here and do nothing while
she is out there doing god knows what.
So, one morning, I get up, get myself together, my wife was still in bed asleep, I didn't
want to wake her, so I just left her a note telling her that I loved her, and I would
see her after work.
I went to work, and I tried to focus on my job, but I couldn't concentrate.
All I could think about was my wife and what she was doing.
I called her several times during the day, but she didn't answer, which was strange,
because she would always answer her phone, no matter what.
I started to worry, so I left work early and came home.
When I got home, the house was dark and empty, there were no lights on, and my wife's car
was gone.
I called her again, and again there was no answer.
I started to panic, I didn't know what to do.
I called our neighbors, but no one had seen her.
I called her friends, but they hadn't seen her either.
I was frantic by this point, I didn't know what to do.
So, I called my wife's sister, who knows everything and asked her has she seen my wife, and she
told me that she hadn't seen her either.
She told me that maybe I should call the police, but I hesitated, I didn't want to make a big
deal out of nothing.
Her sister said she would make some calls as well.
So, I called a good friend of mine who is a police officer and told him what had transpired,
I told him, I went to work, came home, the house was dark, most of her clothes are gone,
and her car is gone, and she won't answer her phone.
When I talk to my friend, he asks me a question that just made my heart sink, he asked, is
your wife having an affair?
I hesitated, then I told him, I don't think she is, but I don't know for sure.
He then said, he would be at my place in a few.
While I wait for him to get here, something told me to look around, and I did, she took
most of her clothes, and some other odds and ins.
I came to the conclusion, she was gone, she left.
I hear a knock at the door, and it's my friend, the cop.
First thing he asks me is, do you have any information that could help me find her, he
told me, like her license plate, anything!
He told me, to file a missing person's report, we are supposed to wait a few days, but, he
told me he will do this for me, quietly.
So, he took all the information I gave him and told me, if he finds anything, he will
let me know.
A few days go by, and I haven't heard anything, I'm starting to lose hope.
I called her sister again, and she told me she hadn't heard anything either.
Then, one day, out of the blue, I get a call from my friend, and he tells me my wife got
a speeding ticket in a town that's 2 hours from us, I said, what, what are you talking
about?
He told me, he did some digging, and found out that my wife had been going to this town
a lot lately, she had been seeing someone there.
I was devastated, and I got quiet, my friend then asked me was I okay.
I said I am fine, he said I am sorry, I thanked him for what he did.
I asked him, did he have the address of the person she was seeing, he said yes, I do,
but , I am not going to give it to you, because, he said, if you go there, and she is there
with this other man, it will only make things worse.
But, he hesitated and said look, promise me you are not going to do anything, I gave him
my word!, he then gave me the address of this guy's house.
After that conversation, I started to think about what my wife had done, I was hurt, and
I was angry.
I decided to go to the town where she was seeing this man, without telling my friend,
the cop.
I got there, I drove by the house, and sure enough, there was her car in the driveway,
now keep in mind, she has been gone a few days.
So, I park down the street behind another car, I could see pretty well, about an hour
later, I see my wife and this other man walk out of the house and get into his car.
I take out my iPhone and make sure I don't miss anything.
He walks her over to the passenger side, opens her door, and kisses her before she gets in.
I got all of it on video.
I was livid, but, I couldn't do anything, I could have, but, I would end up behind bars.
So, on my way back home, I called my friend, the cop and told him what I saw, he was in
a panic and asked what I did, I told him to relax, I didn't do anything.
He then asks me what I was going to do, I told him, I am deeply hurting inside, but
I can't be with her , I just can't, she has hurt me too much.
I then asked my friend, can he find out some information about the guy she is with, I gave
him the license plate number of the car he drives , and he told me he would see what
he could find out.
A few days go by, and I get a call from my friend, and tells me, this guy is a pastor
of a church and is currently married, I said, wait, what, he is married?
He said, that's correct, he is married!
I asked him for his wife's name, he was reluctant to give it to me, but he did.
I told my friend, I am not going to do anything, but I had to do some digging on my own, and
I will hire a private investigator for that.
I will be back, I don't know what kind of forum this is, but, I will be back soon to
let everyone know what I find out, but, rest assured, I am filing for divorce.
My burning question is, where in hell is the pastor's wife??