- [Amanda] Hey, Psych2Goers!
Sometimes we can't help
but fall for that attractive barista at our coffee shop
or that good-looking classmate in biology.
But what about those deep emotional crushes,
where our attraction goes beyond simply good looks.
There are a few common traits and habits
that can make someone more emotionally attractive.
Do you have any of them?
You may not be aware you are magnetic in this way,
which some might see as an additional attractive quality.
Here are a few signs you are emotionally attractive.
You just don't realize it.
Number one, you express your true self.
You don't like to shy away
from expressing your true thoughts
and feelings on a subject, you express who you truly are.
This could be verbally or maybe you use your sense of style
as a means of expressing yourself.
Perhaps you're an artist or musician,
and don't shy away from expressing your true feelings there.
Those who tend to be emotionally attractive
aren't afraid of showing the world who they are.
They're at peace with themselves
and love sharing their ideas.
You don't express your opinions or create art to show off
or simply impress others.
You often don't have a desire to,
because you're happy with who you are.
Number two, you like it to get to know someone emotionally,
rather than just superficially.
You enjoy getting to know people on the inside
rather than the outside, and people take notice.
It's this kindness and curiosity towards others,
true selves that can set you apart from the rest.
Deep conversations run abound with you
and you don't stray away from intriguing
and thoughtful topics of discussion.
Time to theorize!
Number three, you remember the little details
about someone or some things.
Do you actively listen to others?
Do you pay attention
to the little details of your conversations?
The intriguing facts
that others subtly reveal about themselves?
Well, this can set you apart from others,
and people will often take notice
of this attractive quality.
Emotionally attractive people
are the ones who actually pay attention to your emotions.
They can pay attention to trivial things as well,
but it's the deeper moments that stick with them.
They'll take time to notice the little details
about your conversation
and share them back with you at a later time.
Do you pay attention to your friends in this way?
Show them that you care
by mentioning those interesting details
in the stories they told you.
Number four,
you're comfortable saying no to uncomfortable requests.
Are you afraid of saying no to frequent favors and requests?
If so, there's no need to.
It's healthy for your mental wellbeing
to respect yourself and your needs.
Others will take notice of this attractive quality too.
According to clinical director and professional counselor,
Stephanie Camins, setting good personal boundaries
is critical to creating healthy relationships,
increasing self esteem, reducing stress,
anxiety, and depression.
"Boundaries protect your personal self
"by setting a clear line
"between what is me and what is not me," she explains.
People will see that you respect yourself
and aren't afraid to create your own personal boundaries.
This is a quality that others admire.
They may look up to you because of this.
Number five, you're open-minded.
Quick question.
Who's more approachable,
someone who listens and is open-minded
or someone who is closed-minded?
I'm guessing you'll approach the open-minded individual.
This isn't to say, we wouldn't know where we stand
with our values and opinions,
but an emotionally attractive individual
listens to everyone's perspective
and makes their decision based on that.
They want to understand others more,
so they aren't always so quick to make judgements.
They're open to new ideas,
new strategies, and new perspectives.
And number six, you are passionate.
Are you passionate?
Do you take pleasure in your favorite hobbies,
express plenty of joy in conversations about your interests?
Are you vocal about your passions?
This can be a beautiful quality,
and it cheer up someone's day
hearing another person express their excitement
for something.
Being a passionate person
can bring up the mood of those around you.
You know what it is you want,
and you aren't afraid to chase it.
You're focused and delighted at the idea
of what the future holds.
You have dreams, and you're not afraid of pursuing them.
Will you passionately pursue yours?
Not only will make you a bit more emotionally attractive,
but it's likely to bring out a lot more of your true self.
Expressing who you are through your passions
is bound to bring some happiness.
So do you have any the signs?
If so, which ones?
Have you ever been emotionally attracted to someone?
Feel free to share with us in the comments down below.
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