hello people boo she's carrying malaria coming to you
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Gary's trying to find a catchphrase to start a video with if the look vest boom
was that good no so we wanted to do to make this video because we why why do we
want to make this video okay so the video because the other night when we
were lying in bed you asked me Thanks I'm just getting it out of the way
Kagome and here you asked me what are our goals we want to accomplish what we
want to do and you kind of caught me off guard so I started thinking about it I
thought it was like a really good question and I thought it'd be good for
you guys to do it on your own to think about well they already did it but I
think it's very interesting to do it as a couple I think that's very important
because I think a lot of people do it like for themselves for their own
personal growth but when you were in a relationship marriage partnership it's
very good to kind of see if we are on the same page to what we want 2008 team
to look like and then at the end of 2019 we're gonna look at this video and be
like so when she asked me there you know I kind of categorize things so I
categorized it as on the personal side on the business side on the relationship
side with the kids to start things off we talked about goals with you know with
the kids I want to be more patient with the kids so this year my goal is to
really be like way more patient especially look Jake because Jake is
just like he's a firecracker and once he's difficult he's just a very
spirited little dude he's my mother he does run on emotion they love you pika
yeah I was I definitely wanna spend more time with them I want more one-on-one
time more a little time with them I want to be more patient with them and I want
to be more about positive reinforcement for the boys so as opposed to waiting to
discipline them when they do something good I really want to support that not
that they lack in love but even more so so even last night when I was putting
jakey to bed you know I give a hug and a kiss and I tell them every night you're
my boy love you and just repeating that letting
them know that I think is really really crucial that's with Jake with Ben he's a
bit of a different character I want to be more interactive with him because you
and last night you wanted a place for Mario's with me but not in the video
game in real life so I really want to spend a lot more time you know Ben as
well and I wanna I want to spend individual time with him I want to take
them out like one on one once a week with Jake then once a week with Ben
because we have our family time together on the weekends but maybe in the
evenings oh I think that's for me I would like to be more vulnerable with
them this book that I was reading by Renee brown brain Abram she was saying
how it's important also for kids to not look at us as these like perfect human
beings but you know to be open and showing them that we don't know it all
and that we're also human as they are - parents you always like don't do this
and don't do that and you didn't do that right in instead of criticizing being
open about you know I've found that before and it's not a good idea because
so I feel like they connect with you living on another level yeah
so I think just like learning more about ways to make our bond stronger I so
really want to travel with them that's for sure I find with Jake because he's
older you can reason with him more you can explain things to them more so that
that's really working with Max I just don't want to miss it I don't want to
miss these ik he's such a little cutie pie with Jake I was just like scared
because he was our first kid and I was just scared cuz he was a baby and he was
so fragile with Ben I was more like trying to juggle the two of them but now
I feel like we have this infrastructure in place in terms of you know the people
who help us we've known each other now a lot longer so I feel like we're more
kind of comfortable with our relationship so I really want to put you
know a lot of attention on on Maximus I mean he's just such a easy honey but
okay on our purse on the personal level of you and I we're talking how we would
like to connect more we are very close and we're very open and honest
each other but life gets so hectic and there's so much going on and now that
we're working together and just like have three boys and a newborn there's
it's like we're always together but we're not really together we definitely
want to make an effort to reconnect yeah absolutely
I mean I'm will sugarcoat it I feel that we we've been disconnected especially
this last year with so many changes in our lives and it's not the kind of
disconnected where I'm worried about our relationship or I'm scared or anything
like that it's just that I feel like I don't have enough of you and actually
mentioned this in the previous video I just don't have enough as much as we
have to be you know parents and business people we also need to really need to be
there for each other and I think we've been kind of negligent in not
prioritizing ourselves and putting our our relationship last where I think our
relationship should be first and I also think that our relationship
should be ahead of our relationship with the kids the kids need to see that you
and I are are strong and tight and were cool to each other because if they have
that as an example I feel is gonna help them their whole lives have you like
watched some of my videos maybe I also know that I have to spend the rest of my
life with you and the kids in however many years like 19 20 22 years yeah
they're gonna be out the house yeah and it is you and me baby we're gonna be
we're gonna be partying so we got to make sure that we're tight because that
time is gonna come why would you want to achieve this year for yourself with 2019
for sure in the basket I mean I definitely want to get into into better
shape I've been working with a trainer you know I have been doing amazing I've
been consistent but I'm still not seeing the results that I want to see so I
really want to focus on on my diet that's something that I really need to
pay a lot more attention to I'll be really interested to see the progress a
year from now where I'm gonna be that's what I want and I know that's what you
want too and I hope that we'll be able to actually work out together you
mention the other day that maybe we could you know we could work out
together I think that would be really cool so that's kind of what it is for me
also I came to the realization of what it is that I love was funny I was
talking to a buddy of mine yesterday he was telling me about how he built his
house really motivated him and he was telling me that he was basically his own
Foreman for this project that it was beautiful and then he asked me Gary what
do you get to I'm asking myself what am i into I don't know what I'm into and
then I realize what I'm into I mean to me it's a business I know I
know but you know what when you spend most of your time doing something you
actually eventually come to the realization that you an amazing so now I
know and I'm enjoying the process so much I'm a business with you of my other
ventures that I run and that I'm involved with my goal is to just
continue growing as a business person and to invest more time and effort and I
guess that's maybe a nice transition to what you know what our goals are for
Larry but before we do how about you thank you see I go straight to business
I just read the business it's okay you cut yourself for myself I think I don't
want to take the time to just find my place in that role of like a mother of
three I want to have more fun adventures and experiences with you I'm excited to
move into a new house that would be fun I feel like 2018 was really like a good
year for me kind of personally on an emotional or mental level so I think I
would just want to kind of progress with it I just want to try different things
and challenge myself more become like Beyonce in the hip-hop world become
Beyonce a little bit like in the dancing I'm gonna be like dancing I don't know
just like keep on you know doing things and taking risks and just keep doing my
thing so that's something that I want to continue in 2018 it's not something like
specific I would say ages I see you like I think a little differently than you
see yourself I see you evolving as a human being and I've seen it since we
met when you and I met you were 20 years old
yeah just seeing your evolution on all aspects with motherhood you were just
pushed into that you're just like being pushed into the deep end of a swimming
pool and you've done you've done great with it what do you mean we've been
pushed we planned a child we planned we planned that the child
I'm just saying again just to see you evolve and to see you evolve as a
businessperson has just been amazing to me and I've just been really happy
the fact that I've been around to be able to mentor you to coach you like
this is gonna sound really conceited but I'm a muse of you that you have me
because nobody do I tell you all the time I know I know I mean I tell Gary
all the time that in our company Valera Inc we have a few girls that like Kimmie
and Jessica Gary helps a lot with the process and establishing a process and I
always tell Gary it's like every time they spend time with him I'm jealous of
their time with him because the amount of information and valuable lessons and
just like how to manage yourself as a business person and as a person they
learned so much from you so yeah I have the same benefit but you are you you
have you you but the thing is the thing is is that when I was this age when I
was 28 years old I had nobody so I was figuring things out as I went along I
obviously have a you know a business partner who are still business partners
with who have a great relationship with but he was just as inexperienced as me
so we were both figuring stuff out I never had that older friend for whatever
reason I lost friends with younger people and hence I married somebody much
younger so I didn't have that kind of mentorship so it was really it was
really trial and error getting back to you your ability to make decisions your
ability to delegate and I think that that's been that's been I think the most
challenging thing for you is to let go of certain tasks both on the business
side and at home when we started the business you did everything I remember
the first time I saw like the video went up and it had like 50,000 views 100,000
views I look at the video and I said to you I said who made this video you said
well you know I made this video I said we mean you made this video so you made
this video ok but who edited the video and who uploaded it to YouTube and she
said I did all that and I said but how did you do all of that
she was I just searched YouTube how to edit video I was like what that's what I
still do with my life when I don't know what to do something I know you do it
when you're like how to so then you figured every piece out as we went along
and then we've come so far from the days where with the days was 18 months ago
were you doing everything by yourself and now you know we have this team in
place of very talented people anyways I really enjoyed seeing your development
and I look forward to see you continue with
your development well thank you on the business side because now we kind of
covered everything on the profile on the personal side what would you want to
happen this year if we're just talking about malaria ink and all the other
stuff that I'm involved in um you know there's obvious things like the growth
of your brand altogether and as much as I don't only look at the numbers and
place like ultimate value only on the numbers they certainly are really
important we have a crazy like a few crazy milestones this year I think we're
like almost eight hundred and ninety thousand subscribers on YouTube so the
numbers getting close so the numbers are definitely going in the right direction
so yeah I mean at the end of this year I mean I'd love to see you know
subscribers at two to three million I think that's all very very possible I
think the content that you are creating with your team I think that content is
continuing to resonate with people so I definitely wanna see those numbers going
up that's a huge goal of mine you know the ebooks the e-commerce that we're
gonna be launching the collaboration we have a lot of cool collaborations set up
which is very humbling to me because the people that you are talking to are just
world-class influencers world-class businesspeople experts in their fields
but we're doing something like 10 to 15 million video views a month on YouTube
I'd love to see that number go to like 100 200 million video views just
reaching more people healthy public goal setting you guys this is the perfect
example of specific goal setting I mean you're on the analytical side but on the
less analytical side which is me I'm the creative person here although you know
great um I would love to keep creating content that just like resonates with
people and impacts them getting the letters and emails and cards from you
guys that tell me like your story and if I helped you in any way like all of
those things at the end of the day that's what I'm really trying to do here
and that's the reason why I started you too so I can really share more of the
things that make my life easier the lessons that I've learned and share it
with as many people as possible I really feel like I created this family
worldwide and think that professionally I would like
to do this year is to meet more of my social media families so when we travel
I really want to make sure that we're trying to set up meet up so I can meet
them and like get to know them because I truly I creep almost every one of you
seriously I know people have been with me for a while now I know that they when
they had a baby I know when they got married like I feel like I'm part of
your lives as much as you're part of mine so and that's what I enjoy about
this the most so I would definitely you would want to keep kind of finding more
ways to bring me the real value into the videos and content that we create for
you guys that's my professional goal for this year I just want you to murder
everything moving I want to just like by the way that's Gary's phrase for 2019
murder everything it's not my phrase it's from rap lyrics I just don't
remember which song wait what is it murder everything on the way no it's
murder everything moving with what yeah well murder everything moving no it's
not it's not literal okay um and yeah that's it
that's really good is there any other goals that you can think of I feel like
my I feel like we covered everything well I don't know if it's too personal
to mention and of course we can always edit the stuff out but wait what well
I'm just gonna say it I don't want you to say yeah I'm gonna say yeah you know
what are you worried about so we didn't really talk about this before in any of
the content it's not something like I want to spend too much time on but my
father died this year and he died a few months ago to say that me and my dad had
had a strained relationship would be putting it lightly but I can say that
the lesson that my dad taught me and his death was really to appreciate what you
have so you know I know that gratitude is a reoccurring theme but it really
does put things into perspective we do only live once
and for me for this year I really want to focus on the currency's in life that
are truly truly important money is definitely a currency but with
age and with experience I'm learning that it's actually not the most
important currency the relationship you have with your loved ones you know as
much as it sounds cliche and crazy but it's not crazy but it sounds like cliche
it sounds like so obvious but in all of the running around guys that we do to
make ourselves happy we really forget the things that really really aren't
important for this year I really want to continue to develop the relationships
that we have with our family and that's why we're actually going away in a
couple of weeks to Mexico yes a few more like family trips we're going with the
family we're going with like your mom and dima and and all three kids to me
that's really the big thing is really focusing on what's important guys we did
it BAM we set our goals future Valier and that future Valyrian Gary for Larry
and Gary 2020 better reach all those goals
hope you guys enjoy this video why don't you let us know in the comments Gary
weeds all of them all I gotta do I'm obsessed I'm obsessed I love it I love
getting the feedback I love seeing what you guys think of all the content you
know what I don't I don't feel I read all the stuff in like the makeup
tutorials because I understand what you guys were talking about I really love to
know what it is the motivates you guys I feel like the audience really looks to
you for not one specific thing but for direction in general on how to be happy
so I'd really love to know what it is it that makes you guys happy yeah I think
we always do good it's just us we just do our thing
yeah that's fairly you know I'm gonna work