There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to read a man, especially when he’s sending
mixed signals.
If a guy you’re into has you questioning his every action and word, then I have some
news for you… and it’s probably not what you expect...
Hey ladies, my name is Amy North and I’m a relationship coach from the west coast of
Canada.
Today I want to talk about a problem that SO many women face, and that’s reading a
man’s mixed signals or messages.
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So then, let’s get started.
The first thing I want to do is define what I mean by mixed signals, and that’s any
message a man sends you then contradicts.
For instance, if he goes from texting you daily to falling off the map, or tells you
he likes you then suddenly disappears.
Simply put, it’s when he says one thing then does another.
Now here’s the shocking bit: While women have spent centuries trying to read a man’s
mixed signals, from a guy’s perspective, these signals aren’t actually a thing.
They don’t exist.
He’s either into you, or he’s not.
If he wants to be with you, he will.
Simple as that.
Now I know you may be sat there, horrified that you’ve spent all this time trying to
figure out his reason and rhyme and I’m now telling you that there’s nothing to
be discovered, but hey, the good news is you’re liberated!
The mystery is over.
You should feel free as a bird!
That said, let me explain why guys send what us women consider to be mixed messages.
The thing is, men work differently from women.
For instance, when a woman meets a man she usually knows pretty early on whether or not
she wants to be with him, and from there, acts accordingly.
In other words, if she’s interested in him she’ll start seeing him as a potential partner.
If she doesn’t she usually cuts the chord.
Men on the other hand aren’t as quick to consider women as partners.
Instead they’re just in it to have fun.
Sure they find certain women attractive and that attraction is a part of why they want
to be around them in the first place, but in the beginning he’s more interested in
having a good time and getting to know her.
That said, a man can have a blast with a woman but still may not feel the urge to make her
his.
When this happens, mixed signals come into the picture.
See, from a woman’s perspective, she likely thinks that he’s interested in her at this
point, hence why they have been spending time together and enjoying themselves.
However, if that’s not the case then his behaviour becomes confusing to her.
The reality is that if he hasn’t made you his, then he’s probably not going to.
Instead of analyzing his every move and deciphering each word in his text messages realize that’s
not interested.
The message is clear.
If he wants to be with you, he’ll make you his.
Now that’s not to say that you should jump to this conclusion too quickly.
After all, he could very well be interested in having a relationship with you, but busy
with work or sidetracked with other priorities.
But if after a month you realize that he’s not making an effort to have something serious
with you then take the hint.
Instead of wasting time trying to figure out what he’s feeling, realize that he’s not
actually sending you mixed messages.
He’s just not looking for anything serious with you.
In these kind of cases it’s important that you don’t be the clingy girl who’s sat
around waiting for something to happen.
In fact, if you do want a relationship with the guy then this is the worst thing you can
do.
Instead it’s important that you happily move on and show him that you’re not sat
around waiting for him.
Doing so will give you the best chance of actually winning him over.
If you’d like to learn more tips for making the guy you’re into want to commit to you
then visit my website at www.coachnorth.com and watch the free video presentation.
One last tip I’d like to share with you for these kind of situations is to avoid playing
the “friends with benefits” role.
Sure, you may think that getting sexually involved with him will make him want to be
with you, but to be blunt, it doesn’t.
He’s got the goods without having to commit to you, so at this point why would be settle
down if he’s already getting to have you so easily?
Despite what you may think, you can’t sex your way into his heart.
Well, that does it for this video, thanks for watching.
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