Hey.
It's Clayton and this video is directly for men.
It is for men who are single and dating, and maybe you are with a woman, kind of, and you're
thinking about making her your girlfriend.
You're thinking about getting into a relationship but you're not quite sure whether she's the
one but you really do like her and you're trying to squeeze out all that single time
you can before you end up committing completely.
I've got a little bit of advice in this video, and I'll start it out with this concept at
the heart of all femininity, at the heart of the feminine polarity.
There is a single question that is being asked and make them up in different forms but it
is a question that is being asked by the heart of femininity.
The question is this, “Am I desired?”
Or it could look something like, “Does he love me now?”
That question is really important to realize because this question, even though it may
get answered in a moment, the question will surface again repeatedly.
And with some women it repeats itself, and comes up over and over again in rapid succession.
And others maybe it takes a couple days but this question lives at the heart of what it
is to be a feminine woman and exists throughout the entire relationship until the day that
the two of you die.
And this is not a tragedy that this question is being asked.
In fact, it's beautiful and it's an opportunity for the masculine polarity to step in and
offer the reassurance, to offer the reciprocal energy that allows that question to be answered.
And so right now if you are in a situation with a woman where you have been dating her
for a while and it seems like it's getting to that point where you've either got to make
a decision to get her in a relationship or walk onto the next one, I encourage you to
not wait to the final hour and to not wait to that last second to try to squeeze out
all the freedom that you can or try to check off every single box to make sure that this
is the right one for you.
So many guys that I talked to, so many clients that I work with, are afraid of making a mistake.
They're afraid of making a mistake.
One, because they feel like making a mistake means it's a failure of character, and two,
they're afraid to put something at stake.
They're afraid to take a risk and step up and possibly would be rejected.
And the advice that I have is to say “screw that” Take a risk.
Step in.
If you're not sure that you want this woman as your girlfriend but you like her and you
do possibly see a future with her, take the risk and step up and ask her to be your girlfriend.
Because what will happen is something truly magnificent when you have the courage to muster
to step up and be bold and stand in what you want and ask for what you want, you quiet
that voice that's within her.
And you create a container for her to surrender and let go and feel safe enough to truly be
herself and be expressed while she's with you.
And if you don't do that if you wait to let final hour, what ends up happening is that
question of “Am I desired?
Does he love me?”
there's this little tickle that happens in the back of her mind.
Remembering how the two of you got into the relationship, wondering whether or not you
really want to be with her, and as a result of that, there will be these weird strange
problems and anomalies that start to surface in the relationship all because the way that
you enter the relationship is one where she was doubting whether you really wanted to
be with her.
So, by being strong and stepping up and being okay, taking a risk of making a mistake and
realizing that if you make this woman your girlfriend and things don't work out, the
two of you can break up.
You go in there with a strong foundation.
You take the masculine role of leading and you build a foundation for this woman to feel
safe enough to open up in her full femininity and show you parts of herself that she's not
showing you right now.
She's not showing you who she is completely, chances are because she doesn't feel completely
safe and she doesn't know where she really stands with you yet, so my advice is to take
that risk be bold ask her to be your girlfriend and watch what happens.
It will be a truly transformative process for your dating and relationship with her
and you may find something else out about yourself you may find something else about
her and I’m really curious as to what that might be.
So, thank you for watching this video.
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