Heya playa, were you rejected by someone that you like and now you're having a hard time
moving on and letting them go?
Don't worry, if you've been friend zoned and you want to kind of distance yourself from
that person so you don't keep feeling hurt about it, I'm going to share a few tips on
what you can do right after this.
For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self now
all week long we're going to be talking about how to deal with loss.
How to move past it, how to understand it, how to recognize when you're experiencing
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I've talked to a lot of people over the years who have liked someone only to get rejected
or friend zoned or be told they're like a brother to them, they don't know what to do
next.
When I give the advice, hey it's important for you to move on and kind of let them go,
that's a hard thing to grapple.
Part of it is because you don't want to lose that person from your life.
You've built up a connection with them and that connection means something to you and
just throwing it away doesn't seem like the best thing to do.
But let's work through that scenario a little bit because I was in that situation before.
Now you like the person, they told you they don't want to be with you or that they just
see you as a friend but you're going to continue being "the friend" even though you have deep
feelings for them.
Either you're going to hide your feelings and be an actual friend which isn't the easiest
thing to do or you're going to hide your feelings, pretend they don't exist, play the role of
"friend" just so you can continue being close with them.
I see this happen all the time, people will choose suffering over absence.
They'd rather be around a person and continue feeling that hurt if it means not talking
to them at all.
Meanwhile, for the person on the other side, they may know that you still have feelings
for them but they're also going to play along and pretend like you guys are just friends
and there's no weirdness there, no awkwardness, no things that you want to happen.
So everyone is pretending like there's no feelings in the air.
Your crush will go on to talk to other people and may even tell you about them and you just
kind of grin and bear it and pretend like hey, this doesn't bother me.
And in doing that, you might get to a point where you snap on them.
You get angry or rude or resentful of the fact that they don't want to be with you.
That they're telling you about other people, that they are bringing you into their life
but they don't really want to be a part of yours.
That's why it's so important to just let this person go.
To recognize that they don't carry the same feelings that you do and that by letting them
go, you're able to kind of like mentally move on and not worry and hope that things will
happen when most likely they won't.
And I get it, it doesn't sound ideal.
Basically what I'm asking you to do is to just chuck that little glimmer of hope that
you're holding on to.
That hope that one day they're going to recognize how good of a person you are.
They're going to realize how much they've missed in not being with you and they're going
to change their minds, but most likely that's not gonna happen so the better thing for you
to do is to walk away.
To stop talking to them as much, stop interacting with them as much and to just focus on yourself.
I've been there before.
I know what it's like to like someone who's friend zoned you and then to stay in the picture
because you just want to be around them, you want to interact with them and you don't want
to give that up.
Trust me guys, if you want to learn that story check out the video over here but basically
what I'm saying is it's important for you to recognize that things aren't going to happen
so you just need to walk away.
Now I know, it sounds easier said than done but here are a few steps that you can take
to start breaking that attachment to them.
First off, stop subjecting yourself to hearing them talk about other people.
Whether it's a boyfriend or girlfriend, whether it's a date or a crush that they have, don't
sit there and listen to them talking about other people when you want to be with them.
Second, if you find yourself constantly looking at their social media just to get a glimpse
as to what's going on in their lives, you're becoming a little obsessed with it.
Check out the video I have over here on how to get over your obsession over your crush
but ultimately what you need to do is either mute them or block them so you don't stay
in that rut of constantly having them on your mind.
Third, try to limit your communication with them.
Sometimes something as simple as them resting their head on your shoulder, giving you a
hug, sending you a text message or anything of that nature can kind of reintroduce those
feelings that you're trying to move away from so if they're trying to interact with you
in that type of friendly way, don't be rude just don't be as engaged.
And fourth, start talking to new people.
The more people you interact with, the more friendships you develop, the more crushes
you have, the easier it is for you to move on from this one.
If that's the only person on your mind where you're constantly thinking about them 24/7,
yeah obviously they're not gonna go anywhere from your head but if you have new people
to think about, new dates to go on, new people to just spend time with, it's easier for you
to move on.
Now I know there's a few of you out there that are thinking, Josh you are completely
wrong!
If I stay persistent, if I keep pursuing this person, eventually they're going to like me
back but I think it's important for you to give an honest look at your own situation.
If there were no road blocks, no boyfriend, no busy with school, no we don't really know
each other that well, no I see you as a brother, none of that existed.
Would this person be open to dating you?
That's a question you need to answer for yourself.
And that's what I want to hear from you guys in the comments down below.
What's keeping you attached to that crush?
What's holding you back from letting them go?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
On that note guys, thank you so much for watching.
If you enjoyed the video hit the thumbs up button and make sure to check out the playlist
over there on the side where I go more in-depth on how to deal with loss, how to let people
go, how to move on from tough situations you encounter.
I'll catch you guys tomorrow, as always love and peace.