INFJs are a rare breed, making up only around 1-3% of the population.
They're known for their depth of personality, their idealism, and their compassion.
However, INFJs are also notoriously picky when it comes to who they let into their inner
circle.
So what exactly rubs an INFJ the wrong way?
Here is our list of 9 Surprising Reasons INFJs Can’t Stand People.
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People who are always "on"
INFJs are known for their thoughtful and introspective nature.
They enjoy spending time alone in reflection, and often prefer to avoid large crowds or
noisy environments.
For INFJs, silence is golden – it provides a much-needed opportunity to recharge and
digest they world they inhabit.
In contrast, people who are always talking or making noise can be intensely draining.
INFJs may find themselves feeling overwhelmed and even suffocated by someone who won't stop
chattering.
It's not that INFJs don't enjoy socializing, but they need to have periods of quiet in
order to feel balanced.
To an INFJ, someone who can't be quiet is like a power drill – loud, intrusive, and
endlessly jarring.
People who can’t listen
INFJs are often seen as the idealists of the MBTI world.
They're compassionate, imaginative, and strive for deeper meaning in everything they do.
They also have a strong sense of intuition, which can make them very perceptive of other
people's motives and feelings.
So it's no surprise that INFJs prefer to associate with those who share their values and who
are willing to listen.
Those who can't or won't listen are often viewed as a waste of time, because INFJs know
that true communication requires both parties to be present and invested in a conversation.
When someone doesn't bother to listen, it sends the message that they don't care about
an INFJ, or what they have to say.
And if there's one thing INFJs can't stand, it's people who don't care about them.
People who are always disorganized
Whilst this might not apply to everyone with the INFJ personality type, INFJs are the most
likely personality type to be neat freaks.
So a great many INFJs tend to have a great dislike for disorganized people.
Disordered people can be a major source of frustration for INFJs.
For them, chaos is just not an option.
Their bedrooms are usually clean and clutter-free, their clothes are organized by color and style,
and their desks are always tidy.
To these INFJs, disorganization is a sign of laziness and lack of focus.
It's also a big waste of time - time that could be spent doing something more productive
or enjoyable.
INFJs prefer to be in environments and around people with their act together.
For most INFJs, a well-organized life is a happy life, and they often struggle to understand
why others would choose to live any other way.
People who are closed minded
INFJs are known for their open-mindedness and desire for knowledge.
They love to explore new ideas and concepts, and they're always looking for ways to grow
and learn.
Closed-mindedness is the antithesis of everything INFJs stand for.
When someone is closed-minded, they're unwilling to consider new perspectives or accept that
they might be wrong about something.
This rigidity goes against everything INFJs value, and it can be extremely frustrating
for them.
INFJs want to understand the world and the people in it, but closed-mindedness makes
that difficult.
It's one of the main reasons INFJs dislike people who are closed-minded - they simply
can't understand them.
People who are aggressive with their opinions
INFJs are known for their gentle nature and tendency to avoid conflict.
So it's no surprise, INFJs can often find people who are aggressive with their opinions,
as off-putting.
After all, INFJs are all about peace and harmony.
To an INFJ, there's nothing more important than maintaining a sense of balance in the
world.
So when someone comes along and starts stirring up trouble, it can really throw off an their
equilibrium.
In addition, INFJs tend to be highly intuitive and empathetic, meaning they can quickly pick
up on the negative emotions of others.
When someone is being abrasive, INFJs can feel it in their own bodies and it can be
quite overwhelming.
For these reasons,they’ll always prefer to steer clear of people who are aggressive
with their opinions.
People who are always negative
INFJs are naturally positive people.
They see the best in people and try to bring out the best in others.
They strive for peace and harmony and detest negativity.
They can therefore thoroughly detest people who always see the glass as half empty.
Positivity is a core value for INFJs, and negative people tend to violate that value.
INFJs are natural dreamers who appreciate the bright side of life and people who are
always negative can bring them down from their happy place.
INFJs just want to make the world a better place, and they’re always geared to believe
that everyone has good intentions.
When they see someone being negative, it can make them question this belief.
They can then start to doubt themselves and their mission in life.
To avoid this, INFJs will always prefer to surround themselves with positive people,
who will inspire them to be the best version of themselves.
People who are always involved in drama
INFJs are often seen as the quiet ones, the ones who prefer to stay out of the spotlight.
And for good reason - INFJs are introverts, meaning they recharge by spending time alone,
rather than being around other people.
But there's another side to INFJs that doesn't get talked about as much - their disdain for
drama.
INFJs, as incredibly compassionate and empathetic individuals, will always want to see everyone
getting along and living in harmony.
As such, they will often naturally dislike people who have a penchant for attracting
drama.
Drama creates conflict and disharmony, which goes against an INFJs very core desire for
peace.
In addition, INFJs tend to be introverts who prefer order and quiet.
Drama is loud and chaotic, which can be overwhelming for this personality type.
Also being highly intuitive and perceptive, they can see through the drama, and realize
that it’s usually pointless and meaningless.
INFJs will always stay clear from people who invite theatrics to their lives.
People who won’t let them feel their feelings
INFJs are complex people who often have a strong dislike for anything that is overly
simplistic.
This includes the often-repeated phrase "move on."
To an INFJ, this phrase is utterly pointless and does nothing to address their inner turmoil.
In particular, when an INFJ has experienced a loss or a setback they need time to feel
their feelings.
It's a process of working through their emotions, coming to terms with what's happened, and
ultimately finding a way to grow from a negative experience.
And while INFJs may not always enjoy working through their emotions, they know that it's
essential for their well being.
As a consequence, INFJs will never appreciate someone trying to expedite that process.
For someone to tell them to simply move on is insulting and shows a lack of understanding.
It is also dismissive of the INFJ's feelings and suggests that they are somehow invalid,
and so anyone who does this, will quickly find themselves on a list of people to be
avoided.
People who are always changing
INFJs are often drawn to people who are reliable and consistent.
They like having deep, meaningful conversations and prefer to have a small circle of close
friends.
For INFJs, change can be difficult to adjust to.
They like to know what to expect from the people in their lives, and they appreciate
routine.
Those who are always changing their plans or trying new things can be frustrating for
INFJs, who like to have a clear sense of what is going on.
INFJs also tend to be quite idealistic, and they may see those who are constantly changing
as being flighty or unable to commit to anything.
In their view, it is better to choose a direction and stick with it, even if it isn't perfect,
than to keep moving around without ever settling down.
For INFJs, change is something that should happen gradually and with purpose; sudden
or constant change can be unsettling and even overwhelming for them, so they will more often
than not, steer clear of aimless people.
INFJs due to their rarity, can often find themselves feeling misunderstood and alone
in a world full of people who just don't "get" them.
It can feel frustrating and lonely.
However, because of an INFJs unique perspective on the world, they’re just not meant to
get along with everyone.
In fact, it’s perfectly normal for them to dislike certain people.
They shouldn’t feel guilty about this or try to change who they are – they should
embrace their INFJ personality type wholeheartedly.
If you're an INFJ, chances are you can relate to at least one of these pet peeves.
So let us know in the comments.