- I am on a Zoom conference call right now,
and to stepped away from the girls
just so I can pick up this call.
(baby crying)
But they are not letting me have it.
They're screaming all day.
- We are Tee and Adam.
- And we have eight month old twins, Reve, and Sky.
- In this week we are gonna show you
how we work full time, and parent.
Good morning.
Somebody just threw up on me.
Like literally, this is huge.
I'm gonna give them a bath.
Daddy still asleep.
- So managing, working from home day to day
with the girls here with us, is challenging.
But we've kind of worked out a good system.
So like we break the day up into shifts,
so that we can at least have solid blocks of time
that are uninterrupted.
- Normally we don't have to go in at work
but this week we both have to go in.
- And us, both having to go in, in the same week is a lot.
Today doing double duty.
For work, I am an attorney.
I work for the government
and I'm also the music director at progressive church.
- I am a property manager.
I am a real estate broker.
I am pretty much all over the place.
I literally have about four jobs.
My jobs are really demanding
and it's one of those 24 hour jobs.
- Yeah, my jobs are demanding.
Fortunately, they're flexible.
So even though I'm an attorney, I'm able to work from home.
The girls have gone down for their first nap.
They should sleep for about an hour and a half
which means I get an hour and a half block of time
to try to get my own work done.
So when it comes to paternity leave
I only got two weeks from my job paid leave.
- I honestly got one week of parental leave.
- And it seems like another issue with parental leave,
especially as like gay dads,
is that a lot of these companies make their policies
based on this heteronormative idea of a family,
where there's a man and a woman.
When you have two men who are married,
which is a pretty common thing,
but it definitely does not work for most families.
- So today I will be going into the office in a few minutes.
I'm still at home right now.
As you can hear, the kids are going crazy this morning.
(kids crying)
- The big challenges trying to work
while you're watching the kids,
(baby crying)
is when they start doing this.
(baby crying)
That's where really tricky.
That's where you get interrupted.
(babies crying)
That's why we divided the day and half.
- So I'm going down right now to say bye to the kids.
Let's see how this goes.
- Say "Have a good day."
- I just feel bad for Adam, but also I'm gonna miss them.
- Knowing that he had to go in,
I like tried to be as prepared as possible.
So really making sure the bottle situation's locked down,
diapers are stocked, wipes are good to go.
Like all of it, just having everything in order.
- So I have been doing my property inspection today.
It's almost like two o'clock and I'm still working
on this property inspection.
I wonder how Adam is doing there.
(babies crying)
As a property manager.
Basically, this is what I do.
I drive to all these properties,
I basically check on the properties,
making sure everything is good.
There's no repairs that need to be done.
It felt good to be out of the house.
It was refreshing, just the drive.
Yeah I mean, I missed the kids.
So I missed the kids.
I was quite worried about Adam the whole time,
but I missed the kids, but it was really good
- Going through teething.
We're going through separation anxiety.
(baby cries)
Usually when it gets to this point,
I will sit on the floor with them.
I will have my laptop handy.
And I think just like being close to them
satisfies them enough that they feel comfortable
playing on their own.
And I can just sit here on the phone, get some work done.
Bad news, the baby monitor just went off.
After 38 minutes, the girls are already awake.
This was supposed to be an hour and a half nap.
So I am losing about an hour of work time.
It's almost as though they know that I'm home alone
and already have a lot going on,
because Sky just had a blowout,
a blowout, a blowout, a blowout.
So we're moving bath, time up a few hours.
I'm gonna go get 'em cleaned off
and see if there's gonna be any time left in the day
to do any work at all.
We've now had blowout.
We've had waking up from our nap an hour early.
We've had a mood, it's been a morning.
So this is one that happens all the time I'm working.
And then Reve comes up and starts banging on the keyboard.
Deletes my appointments, sends emails to people
that I wasn't trying to send emails to.
It's amazing the things that they're able to do
without really knowing what they're doing.
- It's getting a little late,
so I'm probably gonna head home soon.
Hello, hi.
How was your day?
- That's a long one.
- [Tee] I walked in the house
and the house was like so clean and perfect,
like, but you said you had a crazy day.
So I'm like, huh?
I can't tell good job.
- Thanks.
So we doing after hours work session,
my children decided that the day needed to be
that with their stuff.
So working late.
It's always the plans that get disrupted
that are the hardest for me.
- Yep. - It's just not how I roll.
- It is six o'clock in the morning.
I decided to get up and work out early
because Adam will be gone the whole day today
and I will be having the kids the whole day.
So my plan is to kind of start early.
So therefore I can get my workout out, take a shower.
And the kids should be at seven.
And that's if I'm lucky.
Even though I will be working from home,
it could be quite difficult when you have two kids
that you are taken care of.
When calls come in, it's really, really hard
to have a conversation if the kids are crying.
We see how it goes.
You know, it is 6:50.
The kids are still sleeping.
This is great.
So I'm gonna stop prepping right now.
And the kids are up.
I'm gonna run down and get a bottle for them.
Hi, hi, hi.
And let the day begin.
- Leaving for the day.
I felt less guilty about leaving Tee behind,
if I'm being honest, and a little more guilty
about just like leaving the girls behind.
'Cause it's something that we don't really ever do.
And so being away from them for that period of time
kind of tugged at my heart.
Love you.
(baby crying)
Have a good day.
Sky be good.
It's kind of weird leaving the girls at home,
but it's also nice to be able to like
go to a place where there are no interruptions
and you can just kind of work straight through.
It also makes me sort of feel like a real person again
to be leaving the house and out in the world.
- So I couldn't do any of my calls,
but I was able to do some emails.
But like calls and conference calls,
those were extremely tough.
(baby crying)
Just crying, unless you are holding her.
Now she stopped.
The kids finally went to bed for a nap.
Probably they would be sleeping for another hour and a half.
It's only slept for an hour, not even an hour.
Oh my God.
So I'm gonna have to go get them.
I feel bad for people
who actually have to do this every day.
Luckily I have Adam, so this doesn't happen every day
where I am not able to jump on meetings
or have a call without no one helping me.
But just imagine someone having their kids the whole time
24/7, like you basically won't be able
to do anything at all.
(baby crying)
I can barely get any work done really,
Sky is running her mouth, just screaming.
And I can't even like do any calls.
Sk' is not having it.
It's like I have to leave the office and come down here
and just play with them.
This is how I'm getting any work done at this moment.
And I did not know that we scheduled
some workers out here, which I need to supervise as well.
So now I'm supervising kids, supervising workers,
supervising my job.
Just all of it.
Yeah, this is my day.
It was a lot.
Nothing have went according to schedule today.
Nothing at all, the kids fussing, just craziness.
But I just put them back to bed
for their last nap for the day.
I am praying again that this time
they will sleep for an hour and a half.
(babies screaming)
I am trying dinner, and I cannot.
Because they want me to hold them to whole time.
(babies crying)
Like choas.
(babies crying)
- So good to be home.
Good to see my babies.
Hello, hello, hello, hello.
- [Tee] Welcome home.
- Hello, hello.
What you two up to?
They've been a mess.
- A mess?
- Yeah, just crying.
I can't get any work done, I have to just sit here.
Just chill with them all day.
- Looks like a pretty good setup.
- I'm not saying it was like the most stressful day,
but it was a day with a lot going on.
I one time forgot to eat.
Can you believe I forgot to eat?
Like I just realized,
I'm like, "Oh my God, I haven't ate".
- And you never forget to eat.
- Yeah.
- It is not easy to work and parent full time.
- And I am happy we have each other.
- Yeah. - So you have someone
to share the blowouts with?
- Exactly.
(upbeat music)