In this video, you will learn 4 things that you can do right now that will get your man
addicted to you.
That’s right, these powerful physiological tips will literally have him physically and
chemically addicted to you.
Then he will be thinking about you constantly and craving to be with you all of the time.
This stuff works, so stay right here because we are starting right now.
You probably already know that when you are falling in love, you are literally becoming
addicted to another person.
It’s true, Romantic love is very much a natural addiction.. because it causes your
body to release a flood of feel-good neurotransmitters and endorphins just like those released by
highly additive drugs – they trigger the same euphoria and intensely pleasurable responses.
And it feels amazing.. new love feels like the best day of your life.
.. its exhilarating, emboldening and enlightening…
you never want that feeling to end.
And, just like a drug high, your brain and body become addicted to your love interest.
Psychologists and behavioral scientists have studied addiction for decades and we have
learned a lot about how addictions are formed.
And here is the awesome news – I’m going to show you exactly how to use this information
to make any guy addicted to you.
And, it’s all based on controlling and manipulating those feel good endorphins and neurotransmitters
which essentially gets him addicted to you.
But there is one catch…. these tips are powerful and effective for sure, but they
aren’t magical….
In other words, These tips are not going to make an uninterested man suddenly addicted
to you.
But, if he was attracted to you before, then these tips will certainly capture his interest
again and make him want you like never before.
So, without further ado… here is number 1
1.
Control His Dopamine By Always Leaving Him Wanting More
The first step involves triggering a massive release of dopamine in the nucleus accumbens
area of his brain.
And when that happens, he will experience euphoria, intense pleasure, arousal, motivation
and happiness.
That experience gets associated with you, and then you become the source of these intensive
and amazing feelings.
So, How do you get his brain to release massive amounts of dopamine?
Well, dopamine levels are highest (your brain gets flooded with dopamine) when the combination
of two things happen – The First is when you think about or anticipate
a pleasurable experience like eating an amazing dessert, or winning a jackpot, (or in the
case of dating – when you think about a person you really like)
and secondly, dopamine spikes when you add uncertainty to anticipation… that means
when there is a 50 / 50 chance that you will be able to have that pleasurable experience
or see that person, dopamine levels skyrocket.
I’ll talk more about uncertainty in the second tip, but for now, let’s focus on
raising his anticipation by always leaving him wanting more.
So, Whether you are on a date with him, on the phone with him, or texting him, you have
to end those experiences early at least 90% of the time.
It won’t always be like that, but If you want him to become addicted to you, regardless
of how much fun you are having or how connected you’re feeling, you have to end your dates,
conversations, and experiences when they are at their height.
You must resist the urge to follow the date or experience or conversation through it’s
natural progression.
You have to be the one who ends things on a high note.
So, just when things are going well.. just when you are feeling the chemistry..
Just when you are wishing that this date would never end…
yeah.. that’s when you have to say that you’re getting tired, or you have someplace
to be, or some other excuse to end the evening.
The point is to end the date before it gets to the fizzle point.
Even if you could talk all night, you need to resist.
So Leave him after a couple of hours and at that particular moment when he feels the most
confident that the date is flawless.
This will make him remember the date more fondly, And it shifts the power directly to
you, and creates the craving part in him.
Trust me... this is super difficult to do but it’s also the most powerful.
2.
Amp Up the Uncertainty
As I mentioned earlier, dopamine levels are highest when you think about or anticipate
spending time with your love interest and secondly, when there is uncertainty about
having that pleasurable experience or seeing that person.
When there is uncertainty attached to having that desired experience, there is a much greater
expectation and a much larger dopamine production.
That’s when dopamine is flooding your brain more than any other time.
It’s knowing that “maybe” this experience will happen that is addictive like nothing
else out there.
This is exactly how casino’s get people coming back.
They provide the “maybe” - they provide that uncertainty – combined with the possibility
of winning an extremely high reward and hit of dopamine.
That keeps people hooked like a drug.
If you want him to be addicted to you, you are going to have to make him experience some
uncertainty.
And, you do that by not committing to dates, calls, or other obligations too far in advanced..
Instead of giving him a confirmed yes, you are going to give him a maybe.
For Example…
Here.. let me show you…
How is your weekend looking….
I have a few errands to run, and I’m supposed to help my friend find a wedding dress on
Saturday.
Why, what’s up.
I was hoping we could go to dinner and do something on Friday or Saturday night.
That sounds like fun.. can I let you know closer to the weekend….
Call me on Friday morning and maybe we can make it work.
ok..
I’ll call you on Friday morning
Just Like That….
You let him know that it sounds like fun and you are open to the plans, but you are not
sure when you are going to be available.. this is just enough uncertainty to spike his
dopamine like crazy.
I know some of you are thinking.. no way Antonio … if I don’t accept his invitation, he
is going to feel rejected and he probably won’t ask again.
I understand that concern.. but I promise you this….
If he asks you out, that means he wants to see you.. and if you give him that “maybe”answer..
he is going to want to see you more than he did before he asked because uncertainty adds
to his anticipation and that spikes dopamine way up.
I know it feels scary to do, but I promise, saying maybe rather than yes is super powerful.
Think about how you have felt in the past when a man didn’t confirm plans with you
and left them vague..
It makes you wonder more, it makes you think about it more… and it makes you want it
more.
That’s the power that uncertainty has over dopamine.
Again, this is not something you are going to be doing forever, but if the goal is to
get him addicted to you..
creating uncertainty works like magic.
By the way, I’m Dr Antonio Borrello and I’m a psychologist and relationship coach.
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OK.. on to number 3
3.
Be Unpredictable and thoughtfully surprise him.
People love thoughtful surprises.
Think about how you feel when you get an unexpected gift.. or bonus at work Or when you get an
unexpected text or call from someone you like.
It’s a great feeling.. it’s much better than getting a gift you expected, right?
Well that’s because of dopamine too.
So To recreate that experience, I want you to
Sometimes surprise him with thoughtful texts of appreciation or little gifts.
Now, If he has been the one initiating communications and texts most of the time, surprise him every
now and then by starting with a complimentary text.
Just make sure it isn’t all the time.. and make it unpredictable.
The second part of being unpredictable also spikes his dopamine through uncertainty.
For that to happen, I Want you to Vary the timing of your responses to his communication
and texts.
This is based on the concept of a variable interval reinforcement schedule.
In psychology, a variable interval reinforcement schedule is the most powerful operant conditioning
tool used to shape behavior and learning.
It’s so powerful because of it’s effects on dopamine.
So, basically, I want you to be unpredictable with your texting response timing.
When he texts you, sometimes you will respond within seconds, sometimes within minutes,
sometimes within hours, and sometimes you might even forget to respond.
And when you do that, he is going to keep checking his phone to see if you responded..
and that means that he’s Also going to be thinking of you.. and when you do respond...
he’s going to be excited to read it and he’s going to get a hit of dopamine as part
of that reward.. and that just reinforces his behavior and motivation for you even more.
And don’t think for a minute that he is going to lose interest..
That’s fear talking.
If you vary your response time, he will only be more interested and excited..
So, Vary the rate in which you respond.. and try to make it as random as possible..
Think about what happens when you are interested in a guy and you text him and sometimes he
responds right away, sometimes it takes him 30 minutes and sometimes it takes him hours..
When he doesn’t respond right away, What does it do to you?.
Well, if you like him, you are probably wondering what he’s doing?
Is he busy?
Is he working?
Is he away from his phone?
Did he forget about me?
We’ve have all been there.
it makes you think about him more? it makes you check your phone more and think about
what he’s doing.
It makes you anticipate when he will text and that is controlling his dopamine.
So, Vary the rate in which you respond.. and try to make it as random as possible.. again
sometimes you respond immediately… sometimes within minutes, sometimes within hours.. and
Yes…
I want you to sometimes not respond… especially if he didn’t ask a question.. of course
if he double texts, then you’ll need to respond and tell him that you forgot.
4.
Have No Expectations
I know it’s difficult to not think about the future when you really like someone.
At the same time, it’s important to tame your expectations before you’ve really gotten
to know someone.
So take any expectations out of your mind because when you make something a goal, two
things happen.
First, you start planning and living in the future and you constantly measure your progress
towards that goal.
And secondly, when you start thinking of this new person as “the one” you will start
daydreaming and romanticizing a relationship that doesn’t even exist yet.
And guess what you are also doing….
You are spiking your own dopamine levels through anticipation and uncertainty..
That’s when you are becoming addicted to him..
So instead of being able to be present and engaged in this moment, you’re stuck in
a future where you are assuming so much… you’re daydreaming and fantasizing of all
the amazing times you will share.
That causes you to elevate the importance of this relationship a great deal..
And When you put too much into this outcome, you become too invested in a future that you
can’t control.. and that causes anxiety.
And, when that happens, any insecurities that you may have about the relationship.. about
dating that person manifest in your interactions with him.
And guess what happens… he feels it.. he notices those insecurities, and that makes
you seem less attractive.
Ok….
So I have a favor to ask.
Will you do me a quick favor?
See, I often get a lot of pushback in the comments sections because following these
tips feels unnatural or manipulative.
So, I really want to know..
Are these tips unreasonable?
Do you think you would be able to do them?
I mean I know they work….
But how many of you would feel too uncomfortable doing them.
Please Leave a comment below and let’s talk about this.
I really want to understand your thoughts about these videos so I’m going to be responding
to all of your comments.
I’ll see you in the next video.