this question is from deepika Sadhguru
you said in one of the version that you
are you should trick everyone just as
you treat trick me sir guru you are a
current after but I have one inhuman
nasty creature in my home it becomes
difficult to see you in him how to deal
with him in this situation and how many
years of marriage does this evolution
happen or it's a devolution I'm sure he
was a wonderful romantic wonderful man
at one time I don't know in how many
years of marriage does it become a nasty
creature and how much role you have in
making of a nasty creature
see especially if he is nasty creature
especially if it is so this is your
perception but especially if somebody is
a nasty creature in your home or in your
office or wherever you are you seeing
something in a certain way is not about
them it's about you do you want to keep
your eyes your mind your heart your body
pleasant or unpleasant you make up your
mind on that one now if you look at him
I said even that nasty creature please
look at him it's like me I am not
telling you that you have to listen to
his teaching or take new practices from
him no I am saying if you have looked at
me with a certain sense of reverence
devotion love affection whatever is your
emotion if you have please see
everything with that because all I am
saying is you have a body you have a
mind you have emotion energy we're
talking about your emotion right now if
you hit a certain level of sweetness of
emotion at one point in your life either
because of your love or devotion or
compassion of whatever you hit a certain
level of sweetness this is the high
point in your life now you should not
come back from that you must see how to
go beyond that I am saying whatever was
the highest or the sweetest are the most
wonderful emotion you had make that the
baseline why are you coming back again
if you did not know certain emotion
then what would I tell you which is the
sweetest emotion you had in your life my
child okay see everybody has your child
you've told you that at one time then I
saw you sat here with tears of
blissfulness and Lau coming out of you
then I said see everybody as you're
looking at me right now because this
will make your eyes your mind your heart
your body and your very being sweet and
wonderful this is not about him
especially if he is being difficult then
you are being well trained even if you
go to hell
you will do well yes because nobody has
guaranteed you have I ever told you I
will get your ticket to heaven I've been
constantly threatening you right here
things will happen so you must
understand this is about your
transformation the problem with you is
because you read what are those well I
don't want to take names anyway you did
read all those romantic books when you
are a teenager and then you imagine all
kinds of things you are not first of all
straight with yourself your hormones are
working up shouldn't you look at
somebody Wow can't believe she's so
beautiful he's so fantastic he's so
handsome is so wonderful everything he
does
you bullshitting yourself no no whatever
they do you make yourself beautiful now
even if they're doing nasty things you
are still wonderful this is different
you know they're doing nasty things and
you're still wonderful this is fantastic
they are doing nasty things but you
think they're doing beautiful things
this is a stupid nonsense I'll tell you
somebody who was serving an Indian Army
had told me this story because we went
through a similar situation somewhere
else so at that time he was narrating
this they were posted in the
northeastern region where there's a
certain amount of elephant population so
he is a battalion leader he's heading
about a group of 18 to 20 people I think
they are marching in the forests and
they see a huge disc our everybody backs
off all of them have weapons ok powerful
weapons this is an anti insurgency group
that means they're fully armed and
equipped they can shoot down at Eska
from 100 meters 200 meters whatever they
want but they all back off because
that's not the reason why they are there
but he was telling me this because this
some situation happened like this with
one South Indian person so suddenly
there was one Tamil man in the thing who
was a sergeant how well that he put his
weapons down and he said Ganapati has
come Ganesha Ganesha and he started
chanting a mantra he knew some Ganapati
mantra he started chanting he ran in
front and he went close to the elephant
just 50 feet away and went down on his
knees and started loudly saying the
chant
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the elephant looked at him
what is this bloody fool you know
calling him all kinds of names that he
doesn't like and these people were
watching this is some kind of a miracle
happening the elephant is just standing
there and this guy's on his knees
chanting the elephant moved so quickly
and within less than two seconds or
within probably five seconds he was upon
him he just crushed him turned back and
went these people were just aghast and
they just watching him being crushed
then some people pulled out the weapons
when the person whom I knew was in
charge of it he calmed them down because
it's already dead the man is dead in one
shot one saying this to you is elephant
will not do wild elephant is not going
to do Pleasant things to you because you
call him a God you call him Ganapati and
try to worship Him he is not going to do
he will do what he has to do
similarly the creature in your house
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he will do what he has to do whatever
his his characteristic it is just about
you I am talking you are always thinking
of life as a relationship no no I want
you to understand before you were born
or even when you were being born you did
not have a relationship even with your
mother this is going to be very
unpopular peers people are going to pick
on me but please look at it you don't
have a relationship you just have an
existence the relationship happened
because of your needs
you saw her as your food you went for
her you saw her as the basis of your
survival you recognized that quickly you
know the moment a child is born handed
over to another man or another woman and
let them take care of all the child's
needs child will immediately go to them
this whole idea that you think it's
coming to you because you are the mother
and you delivered no heat is because of
the needs you form relationships
otherwise there is just existence this
existence can either become conscious
and live in a phenomenal presence and
become available to it or just do all go
on doing the circus initially your
mother was everything she was the most
fantastic creature and then you grew up
you became an adult and you saw a boy he
was the most fantastic man in the world
then your mother came in between
suddenly you started hitting her
hello then the man came he was most
beautiful there
now he became a nasty creature or so you
thought
now you think he is the worst human
being this goes on I want you to
understand you're making up both beauty
and nasty I am NOT asking you to make up
I am NOT asking you to think whatever
this person is doing is fantastic that's
a stupid way to exist it's just that if
you see everything whatever is the peak
experience you've had make that the
baseline this is growth
you played the snake on the ladder game
train train you played that game snake
on the ladder game so when you play this
game your intent is once you climb a
ladder you don't want to come back you
don't want to hit a snake you want to
find another ladder another ladder go up
that's a natural expression of life so
once you know a certain level of
sweetness within you don't bring it down
that should be the basis the next thing
should be better and better so when I
said every right now you were sitting
here with tears of ecstasy and love like
this with me then I said let this be the
basis don't go down from this see
everything as this at least let this
much happen if this is continuously
happening constantly happening then of
course you will hit another ladder just
a little bit of time don't come down
that's all I said
and please don't describe him as a nasty
creature poor man
this happened I think I told you maybe
one of these days only I told you I
don't remember but let me repeat this
Shankaran Pillai thought his wife is
having an affair hired a detective and
saying it loudly because just to remind
you said I want proof against her so
detective just waited outside the house
thus he left the house he followed her
then she went to parked and the other
part went inside a man was sitting on
the bench the moment he saw her he came
running she went running they hugged
each of their held hands and sat down on
the bench and chatting away joyfully
laughing he took the whole video and
within a few hours he came to Shankaran
Pillai in his office and said I got all
the proof that you wanted just in one
day I did my job I have the proof he
here watch the video
Shankaran Pillai started watching the
video and said no I can't believe this
no no this can't be I can't believe this
no I can't believe this said what you
can't believe it's a video it's not
doctored it's just a video that I took
just now he said that's not the point
fool I can't believe she's so much fun
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so after 15 days is over when the man
goes away somewhere then you will see
how much fun he wants don't do this to
yourself
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you