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here's a picture of me I travel all
around the world I coach professional
athletes I speak all around the world I
get to tell my story I get to inspire
and instruct people like you to live
better lives are improved their business
and I got to do all of that after I got
to learn after I learned just one thing
and I want to teach you guys that one
thing today but my life hasn't always
been that way
you know growing up I grew up in a small
town called Gardena California and in
gardena it's really close to Compton
California in watts California and you
guys don't know where that is but that's
in the USA and those are rated in the
top 10 most dangerous cities in the USA
and still rated that and in the 1990s
where I grew up the statistics show that
if you grew up in that age a black male
would either be dead or go to jail by
the time they were 19 years old and
coming up in that dangerous that
dangerous life in that dangerous area I
also wasn't that smart
I didn't even learn to read till I was
in the third grade which for you guys
it's the fourth year right I didn't even
know how to read and my teachers used to
make fun of me they used to say things
like they used to set me up and make me
read in front of the whole class to try
to embarrass me I had one teacher tell
me you know you're gonna end up dead or
in jail anyway so what do you even go
into school for and you say if you don't
end up dead or in jail then you're gonna
just end up staying at home the rest of
your life and so fast forward my
teachers were right you know I play
basketball I wanted to play it was my
first dream to play in the national
basketball situation called the NBA who
knows what the NBA is so that's what the
best basketball players in the world is
and I actually work with those guys
today with their confidence and their
mental performance but it was my dream
but my coaches told me that I was too
short I'm gonna leave five ten you you
can't cut it and so fast for my teacher
was right
my coaches are right I quit basketball
and I ended up depressed and I ended up
working as a paramedic and as a
paramedic you work on the ambulance you
just help people that are sick right
and so one day I was working at this
this bad ambulance company it was just a
bad job and I was I was running late to
work and before I was running late I was
actually sleeping I had this nightmare
and the nightmare was that I was
depressed I was working a dead-end job I
could barely pay my bills and then when
I woke up that dream was actually my
reality and that day I was asleep and I
remember I got this voice in my head it
told me Roy wake up and I remember just
shaking my head off
shaking my head like huh and it was like
Roy wake up and it said it real
forcefully like today is gonna be the
day that changes your life
and I got up kind of brushed my teeth
and it was actually a cold 40 degree
morning that day which is super cold for
me especially in California were used to
70 being the lowest and sunny days every
day right and so I remember there was
ice on the windshield and I drew this
ugly 1987 Honda Civic and this one's
actually better than the one I had the
one I had was like rusted out it didn't
even have a floor in it has anybody seen
the cartoon The Flintstones so in the
Flintstones they were run because there
was no floor in there and they were run
in the car right I actually had to do
that to start my car and so I paid $200
for this car which is less than it's
like 130 pounds I believe so I was
getting up running late and I could just
hear my bosses my boss is a voice in my
head saying Roy if you're late one more
time we got to let you go we got to fire
you and I just couldn't afford my bills
anymore I couldn't afford to get fired
so I hopped in this car like The
Flintstones I ran hopped in I turned it
on and I was on my way and when I was on
my way to work I was running late so I
decided to get in the diamond lane and
in America the diamond lane is the lane
where you can pass everyone up on the
left-hand side and everybody else is
stuck in traffic on the right so I'm
passing everyone up but in able to ride
in the diamond lane you have to have two
or more people with you that's the law
over there and so there's this Lane and
there's a wall here
and then there's everyone stuck in
traffic and so I'm on my way I'm making
good time like yes I will make it to
work right I'm not gonna get fired and I
remember listening to my mother's voice
singing in my head because I didn't have
a radio in the car can't afford a radio
so I listen to her voice singing and I
was listening to her voicing and mm-hmm
and then I started to smell smoke and as
I started to smell smoke I was like
what's going on and there was nothing
between me and the engine like it was
just the engine was just right there
because it was a big rusty hole right
there right and so then the car started
to die and the car started to die and
I'm inside of the diamond lane and
there's a wall here so I can't move the
car to the side and I didn't want to get
a ticket and I was like this can't be
happening and so this car started to die
I get out of the car
and I did what I did though all the time
in my life I look behind me to see if
someone can help me and I remember when
I looked behind me it was this this
beautiful young lady in her $100,000
black Mercedes and she looked at me and
she just shrugged your shoulders like I
can't help you turn around like god I
looked up and when I looked up I had to
point seven miles to go I don't know
what that is in kilometers by a two
point seven miles to go until I can put
the car on the side of the road
and I started to push this car by myself
and the only thing that gave me the
energy to push this car was I was just
so embarrassed I was so embarrassed that
the Channel 7 News chopper was above me
because the the news will go up and down
the freeway and report accidents and
they reported me like guy in diamond
lane holding up traffic this is the
reason why traffic is held up in the
diamond lane today and so as I'm pushing
this car I just had tears in my eyes and
I say Roy why are you here why do you
self-sabotage yourself and I didn't like
the answer to that question and the
answer was it's because I created that I
created my reality and that
and as I'm pushing the car I finally
after about 20 minutes got it on the
side and then I thought this is power
this is personal power
if I ruin my life by the choices I made
then all I have to do is make better
choices and what I learned was I needed
to take responsibility and then I
started to read read read a book a week
and then I learned how to create my life
with intention and that's what I want to
teach you guys today that was that one
secret I learned I learned how to create
my life so and able to create our lives
first we have to know what reality is
right because we want to create reality
so what is reality I ask people this
question they say reality is
consciousness reality is God reality is
perception I want to ask you a simple
question if a bus was coming at you 30
miles per hour
30 km/h and you're in the road is the
bus real Yeah right if the bus hits you
you will be hurt but what is it about
that bus that makes it real the bus is
physical reality the test of reality is
physicalness the problem is we all let
our actions get dictated by what people
told us that wasn't even physical oh
you're not cute or you're this or you're
not cool all of these words that aren't
even physical but they make us fill away
right everything that was told about you
right they're not physical so they're
not real so I want you guys to make a
distinction between what's not real
words ideas concepts about you and what
is real things that are physical okay
things that are physical are measurable
things that are not real are not
physical in not measurable plus physical
ideas not physical okay we live in a
chasm between what's unreal and what's
real
ideas physicalness okay unreal things
make real things and experiences powers
than both things that aren't real that
you think you can still feel them and if
you get by hit by a bus you're gonna
feel that - right experience powers both
of those we can impact the world with
our actions but our actions are
controlled by the Unreal world and
neuroscience they proven this and
neuroscience they prove that the brain
patterns the part of your brain that
controls your actions are connected to
the part of your brain that controls
perception okay so the brain does not
know the difference between what is real
and what is imagined by knowing this we
can create our own reality by mastering
the Unreal world and the Unreal world is
created in your language in the
beginning there was the word right words
are not real but they impact and create
the physical world words describe and
create experiences but the problem is is
we agreed with all the words and ideas
that everybody gave us and we never
created the words and ideas for
ourselves and that's what I want to
teach you guys today you have to learn
to agree with yourself that's what
confidence is the truth is you're
confident now you're creating your
reality now but the internal dialogue is
what you got to learn to agree with and
learn to control it
Albert Einstein said we should not try
to be people of success but we should
try to be people of value but how do you
know something's valuable how can you
how do you what is value
you can't know something's valuable
until you agree that is valuable right
that's what value is value is just
agreement agreement is the secret to
creating your own reality there are two
skills you need to master in your life
and I promise you there
is nothing else that you need to master
to be successful I've been there I've
done that if you master these two things
you can get anything and create anything
you want one learn to get your brain to
agree with itself to learn to persuade
others and influence other to agree with
you as real but how do we do that the
secret of getting yourself and others to
agree with you and your words is you
have to become a person of high personal
power I want to teach you how to create
personal power to where you just walk
into a Roman boom they can feel your
energy
you're just vibrating that energy and
they can just tell that you're the real
one there are four foundations to
becoming a person of extreme value and
personal power first is integrity if we
look in the depth in the dictionary the
definition of integrity means to be
whole complete and undivided so we want
to make sure our word is whole complete
and undivided hey mom i'ma wash those
dishes but we don't wash them when we do
that we lose power you have to be in
line and congruent with your word and
guess what if you're not gonna wash the
dishes all you have to do is communicate
mom I'm not gonna wash the dishes but we
know that's not gonna go over well all
right to be real authenticity so many
people think that they're real but
they're really not because guess what
there's times when we're not real right
there's times when we're fake so in
order to be real we just have to admit
to ourselves that there's times that
we're not real and by being authentic
with our inauthenticity
we become real in that moment 3 take a
hundred percent responsibility like I
was forced to when I was pushed in that
car you have to take a hundred percent
responsibility for what you're creating
because guess what you are creating this
world in your own perception
and lastly find something that's bigger
than you is that mom dad brother sister
because you're gonna go through times
that are extremely hard in your life and
you need something with enough power to
pull you through when you're going
through those bad times so before you go
into creating your own world and chasing
your dreams if you are clear about
what's bigger than you then that thing
will pull you through when things get
tough thank you guys for having me
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