The day that my financial life changed it came in two parts.
I was driving – I’d been working really hard.
I was a young man working on this business that I was in at the time and, you know, I
was working 18 hour days and I was totally broke.
I mean like trying to make sure I had enough gas to get from one location to the next.
And I had just finished like 11:30 at night.
I was driving down the 57 freeway in a place called Pomona, California.
Not a great part of town at that stage, almost midnight, and I was emotional.
I just kept thinking to myself why is it I’m working so hard and I’m still not succeeding.
And I was mad about it.
And I hit this tipping point inside and I don’t even know what triggered it but I
got really emotional.
I literally pulled off the side of the freeway and I’ve always had these written journals
and I still have the journal to this day and I wrote in giant letters the secret to living
is giving.
And then I started crying.
And it was one of those beautiful moments and it just like I realized I was so focused
on what I was getting I was not focused on what I was giving enough.
And so for about six months that really emboldened me and I did really well.
And then I had some frustrations, some failures and then I got mad because the people I counted
on had not followed through.
And I found myself totally broke again.
I mean like nothing, down to like twenty something dollars not knowing how I’m going to feed
myself.
And I reached out to a friend I loaned $1000 to and he kept avoiding my calls.
I was madder and madder.
Like I helped him when he was in need and he won’t even give me my money back.
And in the midst of all this anger I had to figure out what to do so I’ve always been
a pragmatist.
So when I was just 17 I was on my own I used to save the money, go to the smorgasbord on
my bike, load up for the winter, eat everything I could and so it would last me a day or two.
And, you know, pay the least amount of money for the most food.
So I thought there’s a smorgasbord but I lived in Venice, California, and there’s
a place called Marina del Rey just three miles away and it’s a very wealthy environment.
And on the water there’s a place there called El Torito.
It’s a restaurant, it’s still there.
And it’s very nice, it’s on the water, boats going by.
And they had an all you can eat salad bar, taco bar.
So I said I’m going to go there.
So I didn’t spend the money on my car for the gas for the three miles.
I’ll walk there.
I’m not going to pay for parking.
I was monitoring every dime.
Total scarcity.
And I got there and I loaded up.
I ate everything I could possibly eat and while I was sitting there eating the door
opened and a very attractive woman came in and I was waiting to see who her boyfriend
or her husband was going to be.
And there was no boyfriend or a husband.
There was a kid about this tall and he was dressed in a suit and a little vest.
And he came – he held the door open for his mom.
He pulled out the chair and sat her down.
He was just such a gentleman.
And then he stared in his mom’s eyes and he was just so – I don’t know it was just
so loving, so there, so present.
And it moved me.
Even my selfish little stupid place I’m just moved by the love he had for his mom,
the respect he had for his mom.
I don’t know what it was but I went and paid the bill and I had $17, $18, $19 dollars
left, whatever it was I put it in my pocket, you know.
Hang on to what little money I had left.
I think it was like $5.95 for all you can eat in those days or something like that.
And I walked up to this little boy and I said hi and I shook his hand and said what’s
your name and – I don’t really remember his name.
I think it was Ronnie.
He says I’m Ronnie I think it was.
I said Ronnie, you are such a gentleman.
I said I saw you open the door for your lady.
I saw you pulled out the chair.
I said you are a class act.
And he looked at me and he goes ah, she’s my mom.
And I said well that’s even better.
I said it’s so cool you’re taking her to lunch like this.
And he goes oh, well I can’t really take her to lunch.
I don’t have a job yet.
I’m just 11, right.
And I said well, I think he was 11.
I said to him I said well yes you are, you are taking her to lunch.
He said what do you mean?
And I just reached in my pocket.
I had no plan.
There was no strategy.
I just grabbed out my money in my pocket and I put it right down on the table in front
of him change and all, dollar bills and all.
And he looked at me and his eyes got really big.
I said you are taking her to lunch.
And he said I can’t take that.
I said sure you can.
He said why?
I said because I’m bigger than you are.
And his eyes got this big and he smiled really big and I didn’t even look at the lady.
I just shook his hand and I walked out.
And I didn’t walk out, I flew out.
I had no car.
I was like – I must have looked like an idiot.
I’m sure I was skipping to some extent.
I was just like purely euphoric at the moment when I should have been the most freaked out.
I mean I just gave away my last dollar.
I don’t know where my next dollar – I don’t have any money.
Where’s my next meal going to come from?
Zero fear.
It was like I went home that night.
I laid out this plan.
I was going to turn things around but, you know, I wasn’t going to turn it around in
a day or two.
It might turn around in a week or two and I thought well, people fast all the time.
I’ll go on a fast for a week.
And I was positive about it, right.
And I woke up the next day and I got my little normal snail mail in those days and sure enough
there’s this handwritten note.
I open it up and there’s a check inside and it’s from the man who owed me a $1000
who did not return my phone calls for $1000 plus some additional money saying I’m really
sorry and you were there for me and I feel bad about it and here it is.
What was beautiful about the moment was, you know, I cried honestly and I sat there and
I looked at this thing and thought to myself, you know, what does this mean.
You know why did this happen.
I don’t know if it’s true but I chose it to mean that money came because I did the
right thing.
Because I didn’t operate from scarcity.
Because I didn’t – a little soul was in front of me, my heart knew what was right
and I didn’t hesitate.
I just did what was right.
And I can remember to this day so vividly like it was yesterday because that’s the
day I became a wealthy man.
That’s the day that scarcity ended in me.
And that didn’t mean I didn’t have more ups and downs financially.
I had plenty of those but I never ever went back to that place of being angry at somebody
else who had more or blaming other people.
Whether they got what they did fairly or unfairly, who the hell am I to say.
What I want to do is focus instead on being a blessing in people’s lives.
That if I can find a way every day to do something to add more value for other people then I
wouldn’t have to worry about anything.
Just like you don’t worry about taking a breath whether oxygen is going to be there.
You don’t ask the question, you know it’s going to be there.
I figured if I left my life that way where I spontaneously did what was right consistently
I wouldn’t have to worry and I haven’t another day since.
That doesn’t mean I didn’t have stressful times but I haven’t gone back to that place
of scarcity and I really think that’s what this book is ultimately about.
It gives you all the tools, all the strategies of the richest people on Earth but it’s
also about making that psychological emotional if you want to call it spiritual shift that
really changes the quality of life forever which makes you wealthy the day you stop being
scarce and the way that you give of your heart, your body, your soul, your mind and your money.