Hi. How are you? Hello. How are you? Hi. Did you know that even the simplest of words in
English - yeah, you're learning English, you learn some words, and you know the word "hello",
you know the word "yes", you know the word "no", you know the word "really", and you
probably know the word "but". Knowing the word is not enough. What you have to do is
know how to express yourself by using a very short vocabulary that you might have right
now, and that's okay. If you don't know a lot of English vocabulary words, it's alright.
Maybe even more important than knowing the words is knowing how to express yourself by
using the simple words. Let's take the first example. When I first popped up, how did you
feel? Did you feel like, "Oh, hey, what's happened to Ronnie? Why is it... Why doesn't
she want to talk to us?" Now, if you don't want to talk to someone or you want to express
anger or you're mad, what you're going to do is you're going to say this word quickly
in a very short time. "Hello." If I'm on the street and I see someone, "Hi", and I'm very
expressive and happy, and the person says to me, "Hello", I know right away, "Hmm, something's
wrong here." Okay? Because they used a very short way to say hello... Uh-oh. They might
be having a bad day, they could be angry or mad, or they don't want to talk to me. That's
fine, I don't care, but you have to be careful the way that you say hello to people, and
you have to decide. Are you angry? Do you want to talk to the person? If not, a short
"Hi" or "Hello" is good. But if you want to be friendly or warm, what you're going to
do-very easy-is you're going to extend your word. So, you're going to make your word long,
and it's only one word, which is cool. So instead of saying "Hello", you're going to
expand and say "Hello", or you can expand the "L" part, "Hello". It doesn't matter what
part of the word you expand, you just have to expand it. So, I want you to practice.
You're angry, "Hello". You're happy and friendly to see someone, you want to warm, "Hello".
Smiling is always good. And if you're kind of like... If you're just saying it like a
word, I guess we could say it at a normal pace, like "Hello". Don't forget, it's a lot
to do with your facial expressions, too. So, when you want to seem happy, extend the word
and smile. "Hello". And you might be wondering, "Ronnie, what? Why are you teaching us this?
Why is this important?" And the reason is I found this out through my friend. When people
came to her house, she just didn't say, "Oh, hey. How's it going?" She had the most warming,
welcoming, long "Hello", and immediately people felt welcome. It's one word, but that one
word can mean so much.
Now, another example of a word, very short word, you probably already know it, is the
word "really", r-e-a-l-l-y. So, for example, if somebody tells you that you made a mistake,
you're like, "Really? Did I really spell'surprise' wrong?" Oh, I did. If you want to convey to
the person that you're kind of angry about their... What they've said to you, then you're
going to use the very short way to say, "Really?" If you're surprised about something, like,
"Oh, really? Oh, I spelled'surprise' wrong." S-u-r-p-r-i-s-e. Now, is that right? Did I
spell "surprise" right? Did I really do it right this time? If I did, then I would be
like, "Really? I got it. Yay!" So, when we say the word "really", if you make it short
and strong, it's like you're angry, like, "Really? I guess I'll have to change this."
But if you make it long and more beautiful, it makes the person more comfortable. If somebody
tells you information that you think is kind of cool or exciting, for example, "Oh, hey,
Ronnie, yesterday I went to the store and I bought you a present." "Really? Really?
Woohoo!" This makes the person feel, "Oh, Ronnie's excited. I bought her a present."
By the way, Ronnie doesn't want presents; Ronnie wants money. Hit the "donate" button
at the bottom and give me money. "That's your present to me. I will be really surprised
if you give me money. Woohoo!" Okay. Or a car. But another way you can help yourself
using this word is if you make it into a question. So, again, somebody's telling you information,
and if you go, "Really?" When it's short, you're telling the person, like, "I don't
care. Don't talk to me. Your story's boring." But exact same word in a long reply, "Really?"
as a question will make the person want to tell you more automatically. You don't have
to worry about struggling for conversation, like, "Do I talk? What do I say? Oh my god.
What if the conversation stops?" You have to say, "Really?" and then the person will
continue automatically the conversation. It's magic. Mm-hmm. Magic, ladies and gentlemen.
Now, really good example, probably the first English word that you knew and you love is
the word "fuck". Now, one of my favourite words because it can mean so many things.
You probably know we use it when we're angry, like, "Fuck!" You get... It's an angry face,
and you say it loud, and you say it in a very short way. "Fuck. Fuck, fuck, fuck. I dropped
something. Fuck." Now, sometimes it's not appropriate to say these bad words, so you're
going to substitute words. You can say "fick", you can say anything you want, really. "Fudge".
But it doesn't matter what you say; it's how you say it again. If you're angry, it's a
short word. Check this out. "Fuck!" What emotion are you getting from that? Do you think I'm
angry still? I've said the word "fuck". No, I'm not angry. I'm friendly, or I'm surprised,
or I'm excited about something. If you tell me, "Hey, Ronnie, I just sent you $10." "Fuck!"
"That's amazing. Thank you." So one little word is going to change your communication
style with people.
Always, the very, very short words that we learn in English, "yes" and "no". Now, I'm
guilty of this myself. When somebody asks me a stupid question, if my answer is short,
"yes", and I get in the face, this is communicating to the person, "Don't talk to me. I'm angry.
Your question's stupid. Don't do it." Sometimes we're not conscious that we're doing this,
but if you're in a social situation, if you're at work, yeah, people are going to ask stupid
questions, but just try and make it a nice "yes". "Yes, stupid person." You don't have
to say "stupid person" under your breath, but if someone asks you, "Oh, yes", it makes
the person happy that you're doing it like that. Short and fast, "yes", the person knows
you're irritated. It's okay to show irritation, but sometimes it's not appropriate. And of
course, the word "no". So, are you enjoying this video? No. Oh. I know by your short,
fast answer, "Don't talk to me, Ronnie. You're angry or you're mad." If you want to say "no"
in a surprise way, you're telling someone the opposite. Are you enjoying this video?
"No, I love it. Cool." So, it's not what you say, it's how you say it. Five short words
in English that can change how you communicate with people. If it's short, bye. If it's long,
bye.