Wanting to bring your partner to orgasm during sex is a very common and very understandable goal. I
think that we all get that an erotic climax is an amazing experience and we all want it both
for ourselves and for our partner. But orgasm just doesn't always happen during sex and so
it's important to know what to think and what to do in such a case. So if you've ever failed to
climax or to bring your partner there during sex keep watching! My name is Helena Nista and I make
videos that help you have the best sex of your life. And today, we're discussing the important
and common experience of having sex without orgasm. I feel like this is a very charged topic
with many people having strong opinions about it. Some are completely unbothered by it. After all
there's much more to sex than just that one moment of erotic peak. Others call sex without orgasm a
failure. I even once heard someone say "why bother having sex if you're not going to come". Yeah,
I've got so many thoughts about that. So I usually hear about this topic when I talk to men about
their long-term relationships. These men often tell me that they try really hard to make their
partner orgasm. But she's not only not reaching that climax, she typically doesn't even seem to
be that interested in sex. Maybe her libido is low, maybe she treats sex like a chore and she's
not really enjoying his touch. So what to do, how to take her beyond this 'sex without orgasm'
situation? What can be done in order to make her come. To which I say "forget about orgasms!". Yes,
you heard me right. If your partner is not desiring sex or if she's not enjoying it or if she
struggles with her sexuality in any way, trying to make her climax would only put pressure on both
you and her, which won't be helpful. For anyone to be able to orgasm they need to at least desire
pleasure and arousal first. They need to be able to derive some level of satisfaction from sexual
touch and intimate connection. And if your partner doesn't seem that sexually inclined,
trying to make her orgasm is just aiming to high. It's like trying to teach a child to
run before they've learned to walk. There's a natural order of things in sex and pleasure and
sexual arousal need to come first. Sex that is pleasurable, fun, free of tension or pressure
to get anywhere - that's typically pretty good sex. And that's also a great step forward on
your sexual path together. So if your partner doesn't seem to desire or enjoy sex that much,
give her a reason to want it. Learn to touch, seduce and pleasure her in the most wonderful
ways. You need to learn what her particular body wants and needs so that you can make her feel
wonderful in bed. And you also need to advance your sexual knowledge and skill. Becoming great
in bed is not a natural skill. It's something that we all need to learn. And if you'd like some help,
I've put all my best, most ecstatic tools, tips and techniques for men in my online course How To
Pleasure Her. You'll find the link to the course in the description bar below. Because once you
know exactly where her best erogenous zones are and what are the best ways to touch her, boy,
you're on the right track! Only from that point you can start thinking about taking her all the
way to the most ecstatic and blissful orgasms. But your honey needs to enjoy sex with you first
and she needs to desire it before you can even think of making her come. Gentlemen, this is a
very sensitive point but I really need to make it. Is this about your ego? Are you seeking that badge
of honour, that pat on the shoulder that says "you made it, you made her orgasm, you're a great
lover, you deserve a praise!". Because if that's what it's all about you should take a hard look at
yourself and at your sex life. Her orgasm is not about validating you as a good lover. If it is,
you're only using her for your own ego boost and you call it "caring for her satisfaction". If she
needs to climax so that you can feel good about yourself, this is a very unhealthy situation in
your relationship. So please take a good hard look at yourself and examine what this is really about.
Is it really about her, her pleasure and her satisfaction? Or do you just want her to tickle
your ego. Because the truth is many women don't orgasm or don't orgasm regularly during sex. But
many of them are not bothered about that - at all! Sex is such a magical experience of deep
connection, blissful touch, amazing intimacy that it can provide so much satisfaction even without
orgasm. And if your partner or yourself struggle to come when you're in bed together, requiring
orgasm to happen will just ruin the fun. Don't put pressure on either one of you and instead enjoy
this beautiful erotic experience that you get to share. And yes, you can definitely address any
sexual issues - outside of having sex. You can try therapy, you can read books about having great sex
or you can enrol in my courses in order to address any problems that you have. I have a fantastic
program for women who desire stronger, better, more fulfilling orgasms and it's called Orgasmic
Empowerment. And I also have a powerful program for men who want to be better lovers called How To
Pleasure Her. And it has just come to my attention that this is video number 200 on my YouTube
channel. Plus, it is Easter so I'm offering both these courses at a discounted price to
celebrate with you. You'll find the links to both courses and the discount code in the description
bar below. And if this video was helpful please leave me a 'Like' and a comment below with your
thoughts. And now, have a very sensual, fun and orgasmic Easter. And I'll see you next time!