in this video I'm gonna be teaching you five psychological traps that are
holding you back so have you ever heard the phrase it's not you it's me a lot of
people say that when they break up with someone right well once you learn the
psychological traps that I'm going to teach you in this video you might start
saying it's not me it's just my brain your brain can trick you into believing
things that aren't real your brain can also trick you into ignoring things that
are real it's not always your brains fault there's an infinite amount of
things that your brain needs to sort through take in and remember at any
given moment sometimes the thing your brain chooses
to see or interpret aren't always so encouraging so it's got to do what it's
got to do to stay positive beware of the following psychological
traps and think about how your brain could be tricking you once you start to
see these tricks play out in life you can take a step back look at a situation
more realistically and figure out which thought patterns are more likely to help
you succeed so number one is something called the illusory correlation the
illusory correlation is a trick that tells people that two events are related
just because they happened within a similar time frame for example a person
started having a headache and received a phone call five minutes later then they
swear it happened again the next week before you know it they're telling
everyone they know that they can predict when their phone is going to ring with
their head superstitions and weird remedies and wives tales may come out of
the illusory correlation it can also convince some people that they're just
bad luck or that they bring a negative energy to situations that end up always
going wrong don't mistake causation with coincidence because of the illusory
correlation if you start to recognize yourself using the illusory correlation
take a step back think to yourself could these two things really be related if
the answer's no then they're probably not and if they are you can get ready to
start your new research project due to this effect you might have some limiting
beliefs about yourself you might not think that you're good at math you might
not think that you're capable of starting a business there's a ton of
other limiting beliefs that you might have keep watching this video to learn
how to conquer your limiting beliefs even the ones that you don't know that
you have psychological trap number two that is holding you back is the
actor-observer effect so if you're a performer there are two ways to look at
a performance that was not well-received number one you can think I'm just a bad
performer or number two you can think the audience was terrible this time and
they just didn't understand any of my art these two explanations show that I
me of the actor-observer effect when you frame yourself as causing or
contributing to a situation you are the actor when you frame external actors
then you're called the observer and it's the difference between saying I'm not
good enough or I haven't been given the chance to show that I'm good enough I'm
not telling you to stay on one side because only choosing to be the actor
can make you feel down when things go bad on the other hand only choosing to
be the observer may make you feel as though you don't have any responsibility
or control in life so rather than choosing one or the other try to explain
events using both types of statements that should allow you to see things more
truly evaluate the differences and how each explanation could direct your path
moving forwards psychological trap number three is the pressure to say yes
now this phenomenon doesn't really have a fancy name but you might be familiar
with it in the workplace or at your house you may feel the pressure to say
yes to other people and help them in any way that you can maybe your cousin needs
a babysitter for next Saturday even though that it's your night to relax and
unwind maybe your boss wants to give you an extra assignment even though you're
already swamped with work but you say yes to all of these obligations anyways
because you don't want to disappoint the person who is asking for the favor the
most likely cause of this is that you're just very agreeable if you take the big
five personality test you'll probably score above an 80 on agreeableness no
it's not necessarily a good thing and it's also not necessarily a bad thing
it's just a personality trait however when a person with this trait is put in
different situations it can be bad that was solution to this trap is by taking
more time to think about your answer get into the habit of saying can I get back
to you on that or maybe even just know instead of an automatic yes when you
have time to sit and think about your schedule ask yourself the following
questions is this truly an obligation or is it a favor am I the only or last
person available to do this task and if I say no can I recommend someone else
because in most cases you probably know someone who could help that person out
even if the answer to the last question is no don't feel pressured to say yes
it's a lot harder to backpedal and get out of an obligation then did you say
that you're unavailable in the first place psychological trap number four is
expectations based on your gender your race or even other labels girls play
with dolls boys play with trucks we feel the pressure of stereotypes from before
we are even born when stereotypes that someone might not be smart or that
another person might be stuck-up we try not to believe them but unfortunately if
we're told something enough we do start to believe it whether we want to or not
we may believe stereotypes about others or stereotypes about ourselves so
remember we are exposed to these stereotypes even before we're born these
psychological tricks can set in from an early age
a recent study revealed that gender stereotypes prevent girls from believing
that they're exceptionally smart as early as the age of six when people
don't think that they're capable of succeeding they usually won't try due to
the self-fulfilling prophecy think about it six is a young age imagine how much
you can miss out on if you stop believing in yourself at age six and I
don't mean just girls there's all kinds of limiting beliefs out there you have
probably started having doubts about yourself at a young age even if you
weren't aware of it at the time unlearning these types of stereotypes
can be very uncomfortable and a pretty scary process in some cases but it can
help you open yourself up to a whole new world and have an even greater potential
then you might have thought you had before the last psychological trap is
something called the status quo bias it can be really hard to unlearn things
that we thought to be true in the past this in itself is a psychological trick
the status quo bias is a psychological tendency to resist change and prefer the
current state of affairs it basically means we don't like change it greatly
contributes to the tension between Millennials baby boomers and other
generations who might have preferred things the way that they experienced it
whenever they grew up so why do we want to stick to the status quo well the
answer lies in with another phenomenon something called anchoring our brains
tend to use the first exposure to anything as a reference point if we're
first exposed to eating with their hands at every meal as weird as this might
seem to you someone will believe that that's the way to eat if we're first
exposed to expensive clothing and expensive cars then we will believe that
this is a standard for our material purchases if someone were to threaten
this reference point by handing you a knife or a fork we're taking your
ability to buy luxury items you might seriously want to go back to the way
that things were before as you start to unwind these psychological traps ask
yourself does this make me uncomfortable because it challenges my status quo so
here's a short little summary number one was the illusory correlation that is
causing false superstitions because of your belief number two was the
actor-observer effect it is when you change who
you blame because of your beliefs number three is the pressure to say yes which
is basically feeling guilty because of your behavior
number four is expectations based on labels so this trap can cause you to
change your behavior because of your belief about what society says about you
and number five was status quo bias basically that we don't like to unlearn
new things that we first formed beliefs about so if you take a look at these
five psychological traps that are holding you back you'll notice that
they're all changeable and they all have to do with beliefs well I want to let
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