As soon as you kiss me you're my boyfriend this is it. Here (In Canada) I did that and then I ran into him
in the movie with another girl and just give me a hug and I'll see you next week
like what do you mean you'll see me next week? There's not seeing me next week like -No!
Hi, I'm Benjamin and I'm from Lille, northern Fance. Hi I'm Jane I'm from Perpignon, South of
France. Hi I'm Theo, I'm from Bordeaux. Hi my name is Morgan and I'm from Paris. Hello, my name is
Ranjid my background is from France Guyanese. Hey I'm Amanda
I think what I like about the French way - I want to call it the French way- but I like
the eye contact. When you go to your party we always thought that the long staring and the
smiling and is he going to come in friends. The man has to have fortunately you're just listening yeah
you have to like make him like yeah yeah. They come on really strong. They're like I'm into you I will
let you know sometimes we are too much like I need to agree. Like it's just like I'm men i'm the
strongest and everything else and sometimes it's not true we need to agree it's a latin background
if you want to be respected you have to act like a man french people usually we like to flirt. It's
yeah it's just a game of seduction. You need to impress us just enough that you say yes. He's
a potential or he's a good candidate. Just being seductive, like we like to - I don't even control like
a floor with everybody like woman, men, dogs. I like when it's complicated with a girl when you say we
Yes we walked about this - you like a chase!
When it's simple like it's just - like no challenge. Yeah no challenges as you said exactly and it
takes you three days? Yeah three - four days. I guess. I think like we go way faster. It takes 10 minutes
for me to see if someone is interested in me. First, I think gay people we have less filters.
On the intention behind like your mind you know why you're going on those apps and you know why
you're going to date someone. It's all about the game like we don't want to be too -obvious.
Soulmates!
When we date a girl and you know we want to be boyfriend/girlfriend we need to put you know some
formalities. If we are just being together it's how I will treat you. I love to be with the French wine
like on the sand like in front of the sunset. I'm really a romantic guy so - with sand? The -why yeah sure why
not? We start at maybe okay - 5 pm. The date is going well you could end up at midnight. Here (in Canada)
they have two hours for you. I usually like the bar restaurant because usually what happens if
you don't know if you like the guy enough to want to spend the whole night with him so you go to the
bar first you have that drink and if everything goes well he's like are you hungry and that
depends on how you feel. So if you like him maybe like - Yes I am! If i see that just work with with the
other girl they say oh if you want you can go like to my place we're gonna have like a last drink.
This is the first date? I thought you liked the chase? like the nice - it's the question of energy. Oh - intimacy
in that way, on the first date, doesn't mean that the challenge is won. You can have sex
for example for on the first date yeah and do not still consider that like you won the game or if
a game there is? Yeah. I really separate both I'm glad you hear that from French people because-
okay cool. That's the thing about French guys! It's like they put the effort in it, like they put a
far, they organize it - they're very romantic and they listen to you and they make sure that
you feel special - even when you're not - but they're just good at it. Like they're gonna sell your dream
and you're gonna be like have stars in your eyes and be like oh my god this guy's perfect
and then sometimes you're lucky enough they stay around. Some of the time, it's
just another douchebag but the whole thing is they show you - they make you feel special.
I prefer you know like the moments before sex. I mean like um obviously yeah the fore- play as we
say. It's more a game we play with each other like "Oh I don't want, - no oh yeah no or maybe" you know?
maybe yes. Finally just kind of explosion. I feel like we yeah we tend to put a lot more context
into it that leads to it. You have someone, you talk that's leading. Whereas if you try to do that here (in Canada)
they'll probably just kiss you right away and be like Im done with this conversation. Oh I will put
some music okay. Oh I put off these jeans like oh no I don't want that. Like I want to create something
before. Sex can be so many different things like especially for gay people like there's sometimes
people imagine that there's like just one way to do things and there's no imagination. Which
I love about French people is that I think we're more like creative. yeah definitely, yeah I would
say that one thing that I like about French men uh in bed - they're more considerate like they really
prioritize the woman pleasure which I really love and respect and also they're usually more
prepared in terms of protection. Are they good in bed? Yeah! We have the same translation we say
yeah so do you want to take your time, make it passionate, make it slow
have it all the foreplay make it last or do you want just give it a go - go?
I love to be social and after like more animals. If we can decide it in this way yeah it's more
savage something like that? If we can say that in this way - Stop it!
savage like-
Lesbians are more uh straightforward. As in general
because we don't have the stigma of not being a [ __ ] like when you're dating a man
you're like oh if I just like have sex with him straight away he's just gonna move on to
someone else. When it's a woman with a woman it's just like do I want to do it or not you know?
Here they call that PDA whereas in France just everyone kisses the streets. In France as soon
as you kiss someone you're in a relationship with this person. When here you have to have a
conversation about it - which is so strange to us! Like why would you ask someone if they want to
date you if you're already dating them you know? When I kissed this girl and I was like yeah since
we're dating blah blah and she's like, wait a minute - we're not dating! What? wh-what?? What
have we been doing then? The way they do things here like you can date multiple until you have the
'the talk' and then determine that you guys are exclusive. We don't do that in France like
as soon as you kiss me you're my boyfriend this is it. Here (in Canada) I did that and then I went into him in the
movie with another girl and just give me a hug and I'll see you next week like what do you mean next
week? There's not seeing me next week - no! One of the weirdest thing is like exclusivity. So like at the
beginning you're dating someone but they are not exclusive with you. They can be dating other people
and like at some point they can come to you and be like I want to be exclusive so like what is that? I
don't have the energy to go on date with several people and entertain them and have the same
conversation over and over again yeah focus on one and if it doesn't work but you know try something
somebody else I think that was the shocking part of my first experience getting there it was like
I didn't really understand where this mentality of comes from refusing to commit to really anything
that this was coming it's not genuine it's really like it's all about interest if you do that that
will give me something i will get something out of it if you date someone and they date someone else
they are cheating on you. So it's like a process to be like they are not cheating on me it's normal
for them but like imagine that gay people in North America are more direct I would say. Than in France
or in France we still like to keep a little bit of romance somewhere uh somewhere but on the date
no arguing with the Canadian it will not work in France yes it could work in Canada not a in France.
I tried to argue nice to meet you bye-bye. I think we're more intellectual sometimes in the approach
contrary to here for example in Canada where it's more Ivwould say more superficial French
people love to disagree. We love to debate and give give our opinion and sometimes even though
their opinion is not requested. Sometimes we might say things that can sound rude for Canadian which
are not but it's just like we like to know who we're talking to we like to know what people think.
If you know you're dating a French person tell them right away if you're going to see other
people or not because for us we might just be like really into you and if you're just not into that
you should say so because like we said we'll go the extra mile. If you just want
to see other people and text us twice a week maybe we're not into that. Once a week.
don't be scared to say what you think
even though you you feel like it could be like an issue. There's no such thing as that
issue as long as you can you know speak your mind justify explain uh we like to keep it interesting