Hey there, this is Clay and today I'm answering another question that one of you sent in and
this question is basically how do I even get my ex to respond to me at all?
You know, they just keep putting up this, this stone wall where they won't even respond
to any emails or text messages or phone calls or anything like that.
How do you get your ex to even respond to you at all?
All right, well first of all there I, I know that this is maybe a little bit tongue in
cheek but, but there are two types of responses and you know, there's any sort of response
and then there's the positive kind of response to that.
I know that you want, if you want to get any kind of response at all, just text them something
like 9/11, call me back right away or emergency or I have nude photos of you.
I'm going to post them on the internet or something like that.
You know, you will get a response, but it's going to be extremely furious.
They're not going to ever want to talk to you again and you're going to be out of their
life forever.
There you go.
That's how you get them to have any sort of response in any capacity.
Done.
Okay.
If you want a positive response from your ex, here's what you need to do.
You have to really understand the problem is a whole lot freaking deeper than, hey,
my ex won't pick up the phone when I call them.
There's so much more going on here.
Like I was recently a reading up on, on different kinds of, you know, endemic diseases of our
time and age, like diabetes and such.
And you know, when someone gets type two diabetes is the problem that they just need to inject
more insulin into them.
And that's the solution.
No, the problem is a certain lifestyle, a certain dietary choice, a certain, you know,
exercise, choice or lack thereof.
That has led to the point where their body is no longer a understanding and receptive
of insulin in their bodies.
And that is what causes type two diabetes.
And so the solution then is not to just inject more insulin into your body, it's to correct
the underlying problem that led to that in the first place.
It's to eat better, it's to exercise more, it's to have a better lifestyle so that you
can really embody that kind of way of being that's not, that's going to really lead you
out of diabetic, a livelihood, and into more of a healthy lifestyle.
So kind of how that works, the foil of that in this situation is that you really have
to take a step back, okay?
If you really need your ex to contact you, if you really like the most pressing thing
right now is that you need your ex to pick up the phone and talk to you.
I need to kind of shake you a little bit and then kind of wake you up here to the idea
that there is much deeper shit going on here.
Okay?
And that's number one, you feel this sense of urgent neediness to get your ex took to
respond to you.
That starts you, that starts within yourself.
And first of all, you should already know by now from, from probably failed attempts
when you first broke up or from doing some reading online, or hopefully from a trusted
person like me or some friend of yours who maybe has it together, that that's being needy
is not a great place to start.
When you're contacting your ex, when you're trying to do anything to save your relationship,
you do, you do not want to be coming at it from a needy place.
Otherwise you are going to fail no matter what you do, no matter if you know the right
lines, no matter if you know the secret magic script to follow or anything like that, you
are going to fail.
You're going to crash and burn and you need to start by addressing the neediness within
yourself first.
You know, that's something that we directly address inside of module three of the course.
You know, we, we really support our people and help them through this, making sure that
they actually can work through all of these emotions, before they reach out and contact
their ex.
So anyway, you know, you have to first address that sense of needing this within yourself
and you have to cultivate a deeper sense of connection and these are kind of two sides
of the same coin here.
Okay?
So when you can sort of stop being needy, you can start having this more calmer, grounded,
I'm open and accepting a presence that you can bring to any interaction with your ex
or other people in your life for that matter.
And when you can do this, your initial instinctive reaction isn't going to be the wall you off
because again, you know, you're not going to be this needy, desperate clinging first
and you're going to have much more space available to.
You're going to project much more empathy, more understanding and instead they won't
walled themselves off from you, you know, acting like a close, tight fist or anything
like that.
They'll actually feel more open and, and accepted by you so that they can really feel more of
who they are and be more of who they are around you.
And when this happens, that's really the root for deeper connection.
And that's really the root for, for rebuilding that relationship and bringing the two of
you back together.
Now, you know, this is just like one little nugget of, of what we talk about in the course,
obviously.
But again, I want you to understand that your problems are deeper than my ex won't pick
up the phone when I call.
I mean you have to ask yourself, why is my ex not picking up the phone when I call?
What can you do to correct that problem?
What can you do?
Fix that problem so that, you know, when you do call in the future, you're actually much
more likely to pick up the phone.
They'll be much more likely to respond to you.
Okay.
You know, this is not like a quick fix thing where it's just like, you know, if you know
the magical scripts, except for the whole 9/11 thing, if you know the magical script,
then they're going to pick up the phone and call.
I mean, you know, obviously you don't want to be texting your ex fake 9/11 messages or
anything like that.
That's just gonna lead to devastation and heartbreak, continued heartbreak down the
road.
So don't do that unless you're just a total masochist.
But anyway, so I hope this helps you out.
I hope you understand that this, this, this problem that you're going through is so much
deeper than my ex won't pick up the phone, then that's just a mere symptom of the underlying
issue.
You know, neediness, desperation, feelings of insecurity, all kinds of deep inner game
stuff.
That's why this channel on Youtube, it's called relationshipinnergame.com.
That's why the website is relationshipinnergame.com, because you have to nail your inner game first
before you're able to succeed and get back together with your ex.
You have to really handle that inner transformation first before you'll really see and, and reap
the long lasting results that I know you want.
It's not just about the bandaid solution.
It's not just about the quick fix.
It's not just about the secret covert scripts developed by a CIA.
Interrogators finally revealed to the public for the first time ever in this shocking tell
all ebook.
It's about looking deeper beyond the surface and really healing yourself from the inside
out so that you can naturally an intrinsically be the kind of person that your ex cannot
resist and if you want to learn how to do that and you're new to all this, head on over
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