when you're really worried about running out of things to say or drying up in a
conversation with a girl it can be really hard to actually focus on the
stuff that you want to focus on like attracting her
flirting with her having fun and all that good stuff so in this video I want
to share with you some tools that will help you to just get that basic thing of
being comfortable in the conversation never run out of things to say having a
good time being able to talk forever out of the way so that you can then build
the rest on top so basically how to become an effortless conversationalist
that's what this video is all about my name is Stephan Erdman if you're here for
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to attract beautiful women in a natural authentic way that feels good for you
and for her running out of things to say or drying up in conversation whatever
you want to call it is one of those big fears that guys have and it's one of
those fears with the fear of running out of things to say is a lot worse than
actually running out of things to say now a lot of guys are really excited
about trying out new techniques to attract women flirt with women and all
that good stuff but the problem is if you try these things out but you are not
generally just comfortable having a conversation underneath it all and being
effortless and free in the process you're going to struggle to implement
those things because you are going to be more focused on oh what am I going to
say next so in order to actually be able to learn any of the attraction
techniques flirting and and some of the really cool
stuff that you can do with women and that make it fun for her and for you and
get you guys having amazing sexual chemistry in the process you need to get
the basics first need to feel effortlessly able to hold a conversation
now a little while ago I read a really interesting book and it's the inner game
of tennis by Timothy Galway it's a bit of a classic from the past of sports
psychology and you know self-help I guess as well one of the main ideas in
the book is that you are going to play better if you stop talking to yourself
with your conscious mind and let your unconscious
mine take over and to me it's a lot about emptying your mind and I've tried
it out on the tennis court it helps I tried it out in life it helps
but this idea of basically emptying your mind to let your instincts take over is
crucial to be good at sports but also to be good in conversations and dealing
with social situations especially talking to women for example is all
about emptying your mind in a weird kind of way now you might say well I have to
cram my mind full of ideas and thoughts and topics that I can talk about well
that's funny because actually the opposite is true
your subconscious knows how to handle the situation how to respond how to talk
how to bring things up how to have fun it's your conscious mind in most cases
that tends to interfere in the process and you start censoring yourself
stopping yourself from saying what actually is the intuitive thing you want
to say and you turn into this kind of bad version of yourself that we all know
of ourselves when we get all tongue-tied we're tense and just generally just
unpleasant to be around now here a couple of tips that I want to
give you in order to train yourself to empty your mind because hey it's just an
idea right and to your mind how do you do that so these are three steps I want
you to try okay number one step is the following I want you to get your timer
on your phone everybody has a smartphone these days put it for five minutes and
then record yourself once a day in the morning ideally to talk for five minutes
out loud whatever comes into your mind so you don't censor yourself okay it's
basically imagine you switch off your mind and you just talk out loud and
react to the stimuli around you okay so I've talked about this in the past
and one or two videos I believe over the last couple of years it's a great way to
get started to actually just talk out loud without thinking and after a while
usually you learn that you can just carry on talking and sentences come out
don't just make gibberish noises here okay but just you know react to what you
see look and who there's something on the wall
that's interesting okay well the light and there's a bit of a light ring when I
look away from this light okay and so you just talk out loud for five minutes
and just keep going don't stop yourself keep going
you want to prove to yourself that you can talk without censoring yourself once
you have got some comfort with that and some you're good at it and you're doing
it and then you want to use that in social situations that doesn't mean you
have to keep talking all the time but basically maintain the same mindset of
emptying your mind not thinking ahead not thinking about what you just said
but just be in the moment that's where this puts you okay and speak from that
same mindset and then when you get comfortable with that you go to step
number three and you have that sensation in your mind and you're focusing on that
same thing when you're with women that you're interested in and then for a
while just forget about the outcome just focus on the ability to maintain that
state when you're just not censoring yourself
when you are just talking out loud whatever comes into your mind and I know
a lot of guys are worried about just profanities coming out or just them
saying outrageous things which is hilarious I don't know why we always
think that that's happening no you're gonna adjust to what's happening a
little bit and it doesn't mean that you have to keep talking all the time but
you want to maintain that state where you could keep talking all the time yeah
and you are completely in flow because that's where this puts you in and right
now don't skip the first two steps here because I know what guys always want to
do they want to go to the last step quickly where they get the girl and
stuff yeah but honestly if you don't do the basics if this is an issue if you're
honest and you feel anxiety sometimes in a conversation then this is an issue for
you and so you need to get the basics right and when you've got the basics
right and you have that general ability to just feel comfortable in conversation
and keep going and just effortlessly add or not add just according to what feels
right at the point then it's time to go to the next step and learn more about
attracting women flirting with women conversation techniques that seduce
women and for that of course you can go get my opinion
2.0 the art of verbal foreplay program that's when things get really exciting
because then you have a system that you can use effortlessly to basically seduce
women whenever you want to that's it so there's a link here if you want more
good to talk to you today I hope this video was useful and I'm really looking
forward to hearing your thoughts here below all right I see you guys later