Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is titled
this makes a woman think about you non stop.
If you are sick of feeling rejected and being ghosted and feeling
embarrassed then you really need to have a good
understanding of this one thing. When you do it wrong you're going
to be rejected every single time and it's not going to lead you to that ideal
girl you are looking for. But when you do it right it is insanely effective.
This is what really turns a girl's head, this is what makes her think about you
non-stop, and this is ultimately what makes her
fall in love with you and stay in love with you. Most people have
actually been told a whole bunch of lies about this thing so I really I get
so many questions and comments from you guys
and this is the main problem. So I really wanted to devote a video to it today
and the truth is it's crazy effective in making her think about you
all the time. Now before we get started if this is your first time watching be
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bell. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men.
I teach you how to stop wasting time and stop wasting money
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which is This is What Makes a Woman Think About You Constantly.
If you haven't seen it yet there's a link in the description below. Make sure
you give it a watch. It's crazy good. But if you have seen it
you know that the number one thing I mention,
the top thing, is that women want you to pursue them
and that this increases the attraction like you would not believe.
And if you are trying to figure out how to get a girl to think about you
then this is one of the main things you need to know how to do. In addition to
that if you follow me on social media and if
you're checking out my community posts here on YouTube you know that I've been
talking about pursuing lately and how crazy effective it is in getting
your ideal girlfriend. Now so many of you have been asking me
"okay so how exactly like how do I pursue? What does it even
mean to pursue and why do I even need to do that?" So
that's why I decided to make this video for you today.
I'm going to give you a really good understanding of why it's important
and help you know like how to do it the right way. Because the truth is when
you're doing it the wrong way it's going to fail
every single time, you are going to be rejected,
and it is going to feel awkward. When you do it the right way
yeah she's going to think about you constantly, she's going to crush on you,
and ultimately that's as I mentioned that's part of what makes her
fall crazy in love with you. Does that sound good so far?
Let's dive in and get started with why pursuing is effective and why pursuing
is important. Here's how, if you've been following my channel for a while guys
you know that I come from a Christian perspective
always and I come back by science. Because the
truth is God made science. This is the way He just designed things.
And the way he designed women is to need to be
pursued. That is just what she needs. As a matter of fact research
shows that being pursued is what makes a woman feel safe and
protected. At the end of the day, I don't care
what century you're living in, women still want that knight in shining
armor. She wants you to be her superhero. Not because she's a damsel in distress
and because she wants you to do everything but she wants you to be her
prince and she wants to be your princess. That is what she is wanting. And so if a
woman actually does the pursuing research
shows she actually does not feel safe guys. And
when she doesn't feel safe guess what she has to do in order to
feel safe. She tends to take on more masculine roles in order to feel safe.
Masculinity is what makes her feel safe. And if she's not getting that from
her man she's going to take on those more
masculine roles. Now the truth is that does not benefit her
in any way. It does not make her feel good and
it doesn't benefit you in any way. Because now you don't have a feminine
woman, you have a masculine woman. What this does is this
completely throws off the relationship. This is not going to lead you
to a fulfilling relationship. I get comments all the time
saying "hey we live in a modern world. Women do
the chasing now." And the truth is yeah women do a lot of the chasing now and
the divorce rate has never been higher. Is that a coincidence? No. That is
definitely not a coincidence. Here's the other thing:
it's really easy to feel like "well women just are unreasonable and expect us to
pursue and expect us to do all the work." The truth is there's actually a lot of
behind the scenes things women are actually doing in order to get you
to pursue and to encourage that. But that's a whole other story.
Realistically you need to pursue her for you,
not for her. Yes obviously that helps her and it helps her think about you all the
time and it helps her fall crazy in love with you. But
realistically you need to pursue her for you. Because when a man pursues a man
feels more masculine. Go figure, right? Crazy. When you do not pursue, when you
instead force her to pursue you, you are
literally giving away your masculinity. You just are. You're not even like having
someone take it from you you are handing it over, you are giving
it away. That is not going to lead to a fulfilling,
happy relationship. The truth is you deserve to feel like a
man. You deserve the confidence that comes from that.
And that is what is going to build a healthy and a
happy, long-lasting relationship. Does that make sense?
In addition to that wouldn't you just feel better if you could just pursue?
If it wasn't holding you back? Because the truth is
the only thing that stops guys from pursuing
is one of two things. One, fear, which is totally normal.
But when you know how to do it the right way, when you have that step-by-step
process, it's not scary anymore because you just know what to do.
Or two, he has tried to pursue in the past
and it has failed miserably and so he's like "hey this doesn't work. Why in the
world would I continue to put myself out there to be rejected,
right?" And again that comes down to the same problem which is not
knowing how to pursue the right way. So is this making sense so
far? The truth is pursuing is important on both sides. God
made men and women to need men to pursue. Women need it in
order to feel safe with you, in order to see
you as a man, and you need it in order to be a man and
to feel masculine and to feel that confidence. The point is you
have to just learn how to pursue the right way.
So I'm actually going to spend a minute now to just touch on some of my best
tips and biggest mistakes to avoid when pursuing women.
This right here is a game changer and this right here is what's going to help
you understand how to pursue and be able to like make her think about
you all the time and be very attracted to you.
Sound good? Okay tip number one is actually kind of
a tip that you need to avoid. You guys have been done a disservice. I'm
gonna be completely honest with you. You have been done a disservice. So many
coaches, so many other people out there, are telling you
to just "alpha up" just "man up and ask her." And the truth is
that is a terrible strategy. It is not an effective strategy.
And I'm sure if you've tried it you know that often that can lead you to be
ghosted and it can lead you to being rejected. Here is why: you can approach
10 women, 100 women, a million women, the wrong way and still get turned down
every single time. And so being told "well just alpha up
and do it. Just man up and do it" with no instruction as to how is going
to cause you to fail every single time. It's kind of like a
job interview. If you approach a job interview the wrong way a million times
you're never going to get the job, right? If you try to put a round peg in a
square hole you're never going to be able to make it
work. It's not about just "manning up and doing it." Yeah you do
need to man up and do it but unless you know the
right way to do it it's not going to work. And so you've
really been done a disservice by being told "just man up and do it" and
it's leading you to rejection having absolutely no idea how to do it
the right way, how to do it effectively so instead of
being rejected and ghosted you instead get that ideal girl. You
can't just force your way through it you have to do
it the right way. This is actually why I teach about this in my program How to
Get a Girlfriend because the truth is you just deserve
to stop being rejected, stop being ghosted, and instead
just know how to get the girl the effective way. This makes pursuing fun
and exciting and a really really positive experience instead of
like terribly embarrassing and hurtful. So as I mentioned this is something I
teach in my program How to Get a Girlfriend.
Check out the link in the description below and you can actually get three
paid lessons totally for free. No credit card required. So take it for a test
drive today. There's a link in the description below
and I will also pin a link in the comments. And
seriously if you are sick of being rejected, if you are sick of being
ghosted, then you just need to learn how to do it
the right way. So be sure to check out those links,
I am so thrilled for what you are going to learn over there. Okay tip number two
is don't just keep asking her until she says
yes. Some other really bad advice that you have been given
is to "well just keep asking her. Well she said no this time but
just keep asking her. She's probably playing hard to get,
just keep asking her." No. Stop. The truth is that's not fair to you. If
she said no it is usually for one of two reasons. One,
she's not interested for whatever reason. Either she's not interested or
something's going on in her personal life or she's interested in someone else
or whatever it is. Or two, she's playing games with you. And
if she's playing games with you why waste your time on her? Honestly guys
why waste your time on her? So either way if she says no
take her at her word. Do not pursue her anymore.
That in and of itself is setting you up for rejection and embarrassment.
And it's hurtful to be rejected time after time after time.
So have more respect for her than to keep asking her
and honestly more respect for yourself. You do not deserve
to be rejected all the time and to be turned down all the time.
So if she says no leave it at that. You deserve someone
who is excited to get to know you and really really
wants you to ask her out not someone who barely tolerates it and "okay
fine. I guess I'll go out with you." Don't waste your time on that girl.
Find instead the girl who's like "yes I have been waiting forever for you to
ask me out. I'm so excited." So is this making sense so far? I'd love to hear
from you in the comments. If you would like more videos just
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ideas in the comments as well. Now tip number three when it comes to
pursuing is make sure that you actually do
make a move. Like I mentioned before you do need to make sure you're making a
move the right way. Asking her out the right way, getting
her number the right way, approaching her the right way.
And those are things I do teach in my program so make sure you check out those
links and try out your free preview.
But you do have to make a move. So many guys, so many comments I get from you
guys, are like "well I don't know what to do" or "why
did she reject me?" or "what's wrong?" And the answer is simply you need to
make a move. As I mentioned before women need to be
pursued. And so if you never make a move she will
move on. That is reality. She is going to think you are not
interested and so she's going to move on, she's going to go
find someone who will pursue her. So you have to know how to do it the
right way otherwise as I mentioned earlier it
it won't go well. But you do need to make sure you are actually making a move, you
are actually asking her out, you are actually approaching her, you
are actually purposefully talking to her and showing
her you are interested in her. And we are to
tip number four and guys this one is huge. Make sure you do not tell her
you like her until later,
until you have been on many dates with her.
This kind of started like in school. Back when we were like kids and teenagers it
was always "oh you like her. Go tell her you like her."
"Oh my goodness he's crushing her. You gotta go tell her you like her."
And it's just kind of what you do in school and it's what we do
as kids and teenagers. But it's what you do as kids and teenagers.
She is a woman now. And she's looking for a man. So one
mistake that a lot of guys make, thinking this is the right way to pursue,
is that right away like before they've been out
much or before they've been out at all they tell her that they like her or ask
her if she likes them. Don't do that. What that is going to
do is that's going to freak her out. She's either one going to
say "whoa. He's moving really fast. He probably
wants something from me." And it kind of sets off a little alarm.
As women we have alarms, like internal alarms, that say "whoa. This
may not be a safe situation. He probably just wants
something from me." So it's going to set off that alarm and
make her go "okay I'm done. I can't handle this."
And that is going to cause her to reject you. that is going to cause her to
ghost you. Or she's going to just see you as a
schoolboy. And again you don't want her to see you as a schoolboy you want her
to see you as a man. So what you need to do instead is
you need to tell her you like her at the appropriate time. Because yes
she does want you to tell her first. She does. And that like
that gives her butterflies and makes her care about you even more
but it has to be done at the right time. Otherwise it pushes her away and it does
cause her to reject you because she feels awkward or she feels
nervous. This is also something I cover in my program How to Get a Girlfriend
guys. Seriously everything you need to know
to stop wasting time and money on bad relationships and dead-end relationships
and instead just get your ideal girlfriend is in that program guys.
So whether you have been in several bad relationships
or even if you have never had a girlfriend what you need to know is in
that course. So seriously you get a free preview, a free
test drive, so take advantage of it right now.
There's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment.
And as always if you have any questions about it leave me a comment about it and
I would love to answer those questions for you. Okay
guys so to sum up real fast one of the best ways to make a girl think about you
non-stop and to get her to think about you constantly
is to pursue her. However if you do it the wrong way it's going to lead to
rejection and embarrassment and ghosting. So as
women we need to be pursued and as a man you really need
to pursue. And once you know how to do it the right way you are going to be amazed
at just how amazing you feel when you do pursue
women and when you are successful at it.
So let's go over real fast just to sum up
our four tips. Number one: do not just "alpha up" and "just make it work" without
having the strategy that works. If you just
"man up" and "alpha up" and try and force it it's not going to work unless you're
doing it the right way which is something again I teach in my paid
program. Tip number two is to make sure you don't
just keep asking and asking and asking and asking.
That labels you as needy and creepy and frankly it's hurtful to you.
You deserve to just have someone who is excited to spend time with you.
Tip number three is do not wait around. Yes you don't want to just "alpha up" and
force your way through and try and force it to work
but you also have to make sure you are making a move. Otherwise
she will move on. And tip number four is wait to tell her you like her or you
have feelings for her until the appropriate time. Otherwise
you're pushing her away. When she shows signs that she's
interested in you or shows that she would like to get to
know you better that's all she's interested in is getting to know you
better. She's not asking you for a lifetime
commitment right now. As a matter of fact that is going to freak her out.
Instead she just wants to get to know you better hoping that it can move into
a lifetime commitment. Does that make sense?
And there you have it my friend. This makes women think about you non-stop:
pursuing her the right way. Again if this is your first time watching be sure to
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