Are Chinese men good in the bedroom?
I'm Veronica, I'm from China, Xiangshui, which is a small city in the South. Hi I'm Sophie and I'm from
northern China, Harbin. I'm Cami, my Chinese name is Ushun - I'm also from Jiangsu. Yo what's up this is
Derek and I'm from Hong Kong. My name is Winshi I'm from China and I'm Cantonese. Hello! My name is
I'm from like the north China boundary between China and Russia so that's why I'm kind of tall.
It's still like men have to you know be you know the one to take the action first you know to try
to impress the girl first. I don't agree - You're so popular maybe! They'll set up like this scene for
you to be there and like make it kind of dramatic. Yeah a bunch of flowers yeah. There's a boy
yeah every week he will give me take out food for my whole dorm! They're gonna rent
a bikini or like some luxury cars or something to show off that I have a lot of money! I feel like
the culture is a little bit too materialistic. Most girls um because we're more like cautious
or like traditional like we do want to talk a lot with them before actually going out to meet them
yeah we'll look for hints kind of thing - it's a long process. That's the part I hate the most
you know before you get your girl, you have to talk a lot. Girls love to test their
boyfriends in real time not boyfriends that like someone who was going to check what are you doing
this is real-time! So if you're a guy and you're trying to go for the girl I would say don't rush
her yeah I agree with you. Don't I guess, don't give up too easily if she's not like too forward
Chinese guys tend to want the girl to be like cuter, ladylike - yeah yeah - and I'm the opposite.
Personally I was like - I'm not the cute type at all. Can you show us what cute is? It's like
maybe buy something for me!
They kind of like being very dependent on their boyfriend and they will
ask you to do this and that like yeah if you have a car and it's gonna oh drive me to somewhere and -
Some girls can be pretty needy I think. Most women want a lot of attention from guys like texting the
whole time talking. They're pampered, they want boyfriends to pamper them. Let me ask you guys
would you tie the shoestring for your girlfriend or carry the handbag for your girlfriend. Would you?
Oh I think I will. See! Like the Chinese girl will ask you to do that but I don't think a white girl
would ask you to do that. For Western dating culture like it's about like equality right yeah like
in for Chinese even though like guys are caring and like what now like girls also
care for the guys as well a lot of things from the guys as well
What's the worst thing about dating a Chinese man?
Okay I feel like you want to say something some of them are a little bit shy and they
don't really approach girls that aggressively. There are definitely like stereotypes for like northern
China and like south of China yeah - I think that northern China men's are known to be more like
manly like more grounded, more straightforward yeah yeah and then like southern part like yeah yeah
caring, like cuter even sometimes. Yeah the benefits would be Chinese guys are typically
more I guess like sensitive to you like they let you win, even if you're not right sometimes.
I think in China, the typical first day just go for dinner yeah- but the choice of dinner is
important. So if you say someone's trying like do I want to go for a drink or go for food
I would pick food. Food yeah definitely. I don't feel comfortable in the first day
that you have to go to a fancy dinner and then you have to sit there for two hours
but what if it doesn't go well right? Do you guys split the bill? I never split the
bill. I was taught that this is my responsibility. In north in China yeah they they wanted - hey
don't (pay), don't, don't dont' (pay)! I pay, I pay.
For Westerners it would take a long time to commit to a relationship. When they come into
a relationship they will be getting very serious but for Chinese people maybe they just go on a few
dates and then just they would call each other boyfriend and girlfriend. I feel like Western
people tend to bring you into the family earlier. They don't think of seeing their parents as such
like a big deal like yeah we're gonna get married so they'll see my parents kind of thing it's just
like oh me my parents because we're dating like oh it's a normal thing. They like to take the risk to
come out to know someone they they don't know on the internet but like in china we test a lot first
you have to know about all the hobbies, how many family members they have, how much money you earn.
Canada they care about the movement the time they catch up with each other but in china they
cares about all that things like yeah do you have a house do you have a car? yeah
I know a lot of people who don't want to ever have kids here (in Canada) yeah but in China if
you say that like if I say that to my parents they were like like what are you talking about?
You're crazy! It's kind of like a sin too yeah not have kids, not get married in China.
In China like where people are really really traditional like it could take months before they
move into the having sex phase i would maybe like after the first day like after the first or second
day I'd be okay with it but not on the first . also I feel like in China you have to become girlfriend
boyfriend to have sex. There's like a whole process there's like different steps you do before like -
First just like talking and meeting each other Like the second step is like holding hands and
then yeah like hugging and then to like kissing like kissin,g and then making out. That's different
too. I have a friend she had three or four boyfriend before. No! - I'm sorry she's never kiss any
of them never kiss yeah. So there's no real hook-up culture in China? Probably now now there it is
It's changed a lot.
It does, like in Big Cities like Shanghai.Yeah some metropolitan - There is too much people there. Like we need sex.
There's basically yeah, there are dating apps for going out just for sex - that happens too.
Are Chinese men good in the bedroom?
Sex ability doesn't really depend on your
background. It depends on your experience your - just respond to your question! So -
I haven't had that much experience but I've heard a lot I guess it does depend like like
size wise, yes like Western people tend to be bigger but that's not everyone's preference. But
those guys who work out more they do much better than the others but you know but for Chinese guys
some of them are not going to gym that often so - oh yeah. Do you think so like for working out
the Chinese guys they do less than the Westerners? Yeah. Honestly Chinese women a re great at sex.
one of my ex he dated girls from different ethnicities and I asked,
Do you think asian girls are more tight - and she said no like it's a myth.
They are kind of contradictory like when we are studying they tell us not to have any relationship.
it borders your academic performance your future blah blah blah - but then when you get into society
you work and then if you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend they'll ask you hey hey how are you - dating?
I'm getting ready. I feel like Chinese care more about how parents think of their boyfriend
girlfriend. I think only a small group people their marriage because of- due to the love.
Like most of people they get married because the family to the family
like level to the level. Would your parents be upset if you brought home like a white person
or like someone who isn't asian? My parents told me like never bring home like anyone that's not
asian. So my mom wants me to date a white girl yeah have a grandson who is like a foreigner
looks dfferent and she can show off like Oh see my grandson? Maybe from different areas they will
think differently like if you're from Shanghai I think it's okay. There are markets in China where
parents will go to advertise their children? Oh yeah yeah so yeah
Parents they hold up like a big card and they said oh 28 years old male and which university
or which college and how much salary they can get - how tall is he etc. Once you get to that age yeah
like maybe like I was like 27 oh yeah yeah like before 30 like close to 30 in that time. If you are
still single yeah your parents are like they will freak out for sure. This tip like for like
single girls in China that wants to find boyfriend get married is to join like groups
with a lot of like older moms because those moms will talk to you and want to like introduce you
to their sons. So that's that's like a way of fighting guys oh my god you get married is because
love not because you are a certain age that you have to like fulfill the requirements of
the society or your family - that's not good for your life yeah. You live for yourself.
Ganbei!