hey guys how's it going my name is
Micaela and today I wanted to make one
of these like talking video things that
I haven't made in like such a long time
because for the first time in a long
time I have something I want to say the
word gaijin is a shortened form of the
word guy kokujin which translated
literally would be outside country
people so basically anyone from outside
of Japan is a guy kokujin or a gaijin
but usually the word gaijin refers to
like Westerners anyway having said that
today's video is called why you can't
get a gaijin girlfriend and this is kind
of something that I've been thinking
about for a long time because I am a I
am a gaijin woman basically it's not
uncommon to hear phrases like this or a
chick agents kid seal gaijin Accomando
Hasina minute Evo a guy gently at
the Medina gaijin docks Kathak opening
the zoo quinoa - na kanojo cocina
kikuchi no kernel Drita you go Roku
nutty so if you've ever found yourself
saying one of these things out loud you
need to stop saying that you want a
foreigner as a girlfriend and that any
foreigner will do just cast a huge
blanket over all of us women and assumes
that we're all the same and this is also
very dangerous for you considering I can
control the color of my hair
but you know what I can't control my
mood swings and I'm speaking just for
myself here but if you're dating me with
the intent of learning English you
better learn fast because the second
that there is a problem or that I am
upset I'm going to be throwing those
english words that you so fast you're
not going to know what hey
the diamond communication Onaga hostage
story mas okay all jokes aside though
here's my honest opinion the truth is a
lot of foreign women in Japan already
feel like they stand out a lot and it
can be very very very tiring and very
uncomfortable when you're sitting on the
train when you're taking the bus or
you're on the subway or you're walking
down town people stare at you people
make you feel like there is something
wrong with you when you go shopping at
stores people are afraid to talk to you
because they're afraid that they can't
speak English and you don't speak
Japanese you go to a restaurant they
give you an English menu taxis sometimes
don't even pick me up because they think
that I'm not going to be able to tell
them where I'm going basically on a
day-to-day basis we are judged for our
appearances by telling us that we're
your type based on the way that we look
you're basically just part of the
problem and the very very very very very
very very very last thing that I want
when I go home at the end of the day is
to spend my private time with someone
who also makes me feel like I stand out
and that I'm different and that I'm
weird and I don't belong the same time
this is gonna sound contradicting we
also want to feel special what women
they don't want to feel special but they
also want to feel special what I mean is
when you are saying that you're dating
someone because you like foreigners
you're overlooking the things that
actually make that person unique treat
them special because they're funny treat
them special because they have talents
they have thoughts and feelings they do
things that you like they have similar
hobbies they make you feel good about
yourself these are ways that we make
people feel special not by honing in on
their appearance when I think of a lot
of the Japanese guys that I know who are
dating foreign women they are dating
them because they are like you know
what's up
while see a movie let's chill some time
I did a guy because he makes me laugh or
he makes me feel confident about myself
or makes me feel secure about the things
that do make me different makes me feel
like yo it's okay yeah I stand out but
that's okay because of something pretty
cool and when I do find a guy like that
honestly what country they're from or
what they look like or where they were
born or you know like what their
nationality is that's the last thing on
my mind I don't care I care about being
with someone that I genuinely like and
want to spend time with but the second
that you throw the word gaijin' or
gaikokujin into like your prerequisites
for dating and when you say that to
someone you're kind of blowing your
chances all together to have a
meaningful relationship because you're
basically making them feel like they're
not being seen as who they are money
home will demo you get LBG mommy cook on
day activities then gah
if you judge someone on appearances you
know that gets old fast
focus instead on building like a
meaningful loving relationship with the
people that genuinely interest you and
the rest of the benefits should follow
yeah that's me being all like lovey
preachy on on the Internet
that's it for today but if I have an
opinion about something else I'd like to
make another video like this in the
future rule
Rajjo honey you shouldn't okay
Sarkar
did you forget the rest of the words
I don't care about the words