sometimes husbands choose to stay with their narcissistic spouse because of the children the
gamble of losing full custody of your kids is not worth it the fear is there and a lot of people put
their hands in the air and say how could you do that we've divorced that narcissist well there is
a good reason that some husbands stay with the narcissistic wife and it's because if the wife
is being abusive right there in the home while the husband is there what do you think is going
to happen when he divorces her and the kids are alone with her 50% of the time in a lot of ways
that might be even worse and that's why a lot of husbands today with the narcissistic spouse
while the children are young because they don't want to leave the children alone with the abuser
and a lot of people will say there are places you can go things you can do well no that's not
always the case because if let's say the husband does not have any evidence to prove that his wife
is a narcissistic abuser if there's no evidence and the children are very young and cannot tell
the judge or anyone else what's happening that limits the husband's options it's even riskier
for a man who's married to a narcissistic woman because in a lot of countries and a lot of states
there's a higher probability of a narcissistic wife not just getting 50/50 custody of the kids
but full custody and there's something else to take into consideration when you see this
happening as you're thinking I'm so confused like what's what's wrong with this person why
aren't they getting divorced if you are divorcing a sociopath or a narcissistic wife well chances
are they're not going to have a problem breaking the law and making stuff up about the spouse who's
about to divorce them meaning that there's a chance that a husband could start the divorce
process with a narcissistic wife and show up in court and find out there's all of this illegal
evidence against him and he could lose full custody of his child or children that is a big
risk to take when they're children involved this is not a black-and-white issue this is
a very complicated issue and the priority is keeping children safe and that's why a
lot of people stay married and I'm not talking about severe severe cases of abuse I'm talking
about narcissistic of users who are the covert passive-aggressive emotional verbal abusers I'm
talking about situations like that if you're married to a narcissistic wife who is punching
your children and hitting your children then my god call the police you can see in situations
where someone would stay in the marriage while the children are young or at least until they
have some evidence against the abuser and the next time someone is playing the judgment card
with you or someone you know about why are they still married to that narcissistic wife ask them
if they'd like to help the spouse hire the best attorney in town so a lot of people have a lot
to say about how other people are dealing with a narcissistic abuser but they're not
really willing to offer that person money or any sort of help so just be aware of people who try
to throw a lot of guilt out towards targets of narcissistic abuse because frankly I think that
they should put their wallet where their mouth is hopefully you get what I'm saying I am NOT saying
that people should stay with narcissistic abusers when kids are involved I'm just saying that it is
a complicated issue and instead of throwing out guilt and judgment I think that empathy
compassion understanding and taking action to help is where the focus needs to be talk is
cheap think twice about taking advice from people who spout a lot of words but provide zero action
you