Welcome back to the Otter Half Course.
Where I teach you how to find your other half.
Today's lesson is for those of you that currently have a crush that you've been thinking a lot
about.
Maybe you've been worrying about how to get them to like you or maybe you've been thinking
about how to ask them out.
If this is you – pay close attention because I'm going to show you exactly what to do.
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Now - Asking out your crush is best done with a simple 3 step process.
Step #1 – Is to get their attention.
You can do this by either going up to them in real life – or by starting a conversation
using the internet.
Doing things in person is usually better, because you can look them in the eye.
But quite honestly anything can work nowadays – so messaging and even doing a video call
are all just fine.
Once you have their attention you can then move onto Step #2 – Which is to say something
along the lines of “Hey, I like you – let's go on a date.
At blank place at blank time.
(artist note: Location and time for the two blanks (location) (time) )
If you haven't known each other for that long – maybe just a couple of days, you can actually
cut out the I like you part and just say the rest of the sentence.
But - If you've liked this person for a very long time and you guys already have some sort
of relationship – then it's very important to say the “I like you part” - so you
lay out your intentions as clear as day.
This way there's no way they'll misunderstand and think you're asking them out to a friendly
hangout or whatever.
And finally Step #3 – you look them in the eye (if applicable), don't say anything, and
you simply wait for an answer.
Now I know a lot of you are thinking woah woah woah, Improvement Pill that's it?
Well yes – because there's nothing that you can say to someone that already knows
you that will make them like you all of a sudden.
You see the large majority of people make a decision about whether or not they are attracted
to someone within the first day.
So it doesn't matter what you do.
They already know what their answer is going to be.
And it's always going to be just 1 of the following 3 things.
a) They say yes.
In which case, Congratulations you've just saved yourself a bunch of time
– they like you - so go and enjoy your date!
b) they give you ANY excuse as to why they can't go.
such as oh I'm not ready for a relationship right now OR
oh I value our friendship too much.
Or even oh let me think about it, I'm very busy nowadays.
Of course it could actually be because they have something scheduled already.
In which case you simply ask to take them out another day – and wait for their answer
to that If they continue to give you anything along
the lines of the examples I just gave you It's basically just another way of them saying:
c) which is a flat out NO
Now pay close attention to what I'm about to say.
It's in your best interest to get an answer as soon as possible because this answer was
already predetermined.
Someone who likes you is going to say yes regardless of how you ask them out.
Someone who doesn't like you is almost always going to say no regardless of what you do
or how much time you wait.
The reason I'm pushing you to take action as soon as possible is because it'll save
you a bunch of time which is the most valuable thing you have in the world.
It's the only thing you will never be able to get more of, which is why you should not
waste too much of it, fantasizing about someone who doesn't even like you back.
Learning to value your time will teach you to have more self-respect for yourself – which
funny enough, is one of the most attractive traits one could have.
This advice will also help you grow as a person because it will force you to confront pain.
You see – if you get rejected – you WILL be met with a fair amount of pain.
And this pain - as sharp and unpleasant as it may be – is actually a good thing.
Pain serves as a form of information from the world.
A form of feedback that will open your eyes to the truth.
You see there's usually a reason you got rejected.
Maybe you don't take care of your body or your health,
Maybe you don't have any success under your belt, or any passions that drive you.
Maybe you don't really know how to talk to people – to make others laugh and smile.
Maybe you don't have any confidence – no faith in yourself.
Maybe you're an unhappy person and you drag down those around you.
The list goes on and on and on – there are many reasons why someone
,who knows you*, might not like you.
Pain is good because it forces you to look in the mirror and think about which areas
of your life you've been neglecting.
Pain lights a fire within you so you start taking action.
Pain is what ultimately makes you sexy.
So to sum things up - be direct and just ask them out - so you can find out the truth about
how they really feel about you – and if they reject you - embrace the pain and use
it to transform yourself.
By doing so you will drastically increase your chances of getting a yes the next time
you ask your future crush out – once you do, make sure to watch the next video in the
Otter Half Course where I go over exactly what you should do on a date.
Besides that guys, stay tuned.