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All right
So listen.
I say this with love.
An issue that a lot of successful women have
is thinking that their accomplishments,
and success is intimidating the men.
and there are some men who exist
who are intimidated,
however, it’s not your success,
it’s your energy,
it’s the attitude
that comes with that.
The reality is that
for a successful woman
many have bought into the idea
that you have to hold on to masculine energy
in the workplace to get ahead.
To be respected
but you don’t know how to turn it off
when you get into the relationship.
Also
What you don’t realize is that masculine energy
is your wall up.
It is a defense mechanism
and you think it’s protecting you
but the same wall that you’ve put up to protect you
are the same walls blocking your blessings.
One tip is you have to change
your energy.
You have to tap into your feminine energy.
Now,
I had a person that got upset at me
about saying that,
but let me ask you all a question.
By a show of hands,
how many women in here
desire a man who exudes feminine energy?
Two people. Two people. [laughter]. Two people.
Two people. Maybe three.
The reality is this
y’all don’t want no over feminized man.
Why would a man want to over masculinized woman?
All right. [applause]
You have to understand that.
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There’s nothing wrong with it.
We want a balance of energy in our relationships.
We have to be true to what our essence
and our real energy is,
so as a woman
tap into your feminine energy number one.
Number two.
Stop leading with your accomplishments
and lead with your character.
[applause] All right.
The man who has his stuff together
does not care about your money,
he doesn’t care about your degrees.
That’s not in a disrespectful way.
That’s not to dismiss
all the things, the great things you’ve done,
but haven’t y’all noticed
that a man could be a millionaire
and he will marry the cashier at chick-fil-a.
Yes [laughter] All right.
But when a woman is the millionaire
and she wants another CEO
because she values the house,
the accomplishments, the education.
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Do not evaluate yourself
based on the same scale you evaluate men.
Understand what men are wanting.
The type of man you want.
The man who has this stuff together
wants to be loved,
supported,
know he can open up to you.
He wants that positive feminine energy.
Any of you who don’t believe me
just try it.
Try it for one week.
Quick story. I’m not going over
but a quick story.
I had a client,
she’s in London.
She’s a runway model.
A very Christian woman.
She was like no one would ask her on a date.
Now, I do session sometime by Skype
so I saw her.
I said, “Yeah because you’re too rough you look rough.”
You look rough.
[laughter] “You’re beautiful.”
“You’re beautiful but to give up a lot of hard energy."
I'm like, "We got to change that.”
She was like, “What you want me to do?”
“You want me to walk around with a flower in my head?”
I said, “Yes."
"Yes.”
[laughter]
“For one week.”
“One week
put a flower in your head,
change the energy,
change the colors because colors emit energy.”
Be aware of the colors you are wearing
and what it’s saying and how it's presenting you.
She did what I told her.
I promise y’all on anything.
Day two she got asked on a date
but the best part about it she said,
“I never felt
so much like a woman in my life.”
“I felt good.”
Because the reality is that y'all don’t want that
masculine energy.
Y'all don’t want that burden.
Y'all have it because you thought
you have to do it to survive,
to protect yourself,
but all of y'all, most of y’all,
if not all of y’all,
with love a man that you can rely on,
who’s going to protect you,
who’s going to be there for you,
and he will carry that masculine energy
for you. [applause]
Be honest about that,
so yes, tap into your feminine energy
and don’t lead with your accomplishments,
lead with your character.
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