This is going to be a the most TREMENDOUS video you’ve ever seen in your life!
The complete opposite of a TOTAL DISASTER, folks!
Donald Trump certainly isn’t short on superlatives and exaggerations… and regardless of what
you think of him, you have to give him credit…the guy is a TOTAL sound bite machine.
It seems like almost everything he says is worthy of attention…
whether good or bad.
And there’s another thing about him that’s indisputable: Donald Trump angers the HELL
out of a lot of people… and there’s a good reason why beyond simple politics and
disagreements over policy.
It’s the way he uses his language.
And today, in this YouTube video, I’m going to explain how you can use this information
to help you with YOUR marriage and relationships.
How’s it going, YouTubers?
Brad Browning here with a marriage saving video today!
Before I get into the meat and potatoes, I first have to tell you about this amazing
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Okay… so now let’s get into the goods.
So like I said, some valuable lessons can be learned from Donald Trump on what NOT to
do when speaking to your spouse.
See, when emotions are running high, sometimes we shift the way we use our language… and
often in a very BAD way.
We say things like…
“You never clean after yourself!”
or “You always are late to my sister’s dinner!”
or “You’re the absolute worst when it comes to remembering my birthday!”
Recognize statements like these?
This is what I like to call “Imprecise Language”… and it’s Donald Trump’s specialty!
Trump clearly uses this kind of exaggerated and ‘over the top’ language to gain publicity
and provoke a strong reaction.
Regardless of what you think about the commander and chief, this sort of language is extremely
divisive.
And if you notice from the examples above, this kind of “Imprecise Language” often
comes out when we are angry at our spouses… once emotions rise, we start using superlatives
and we exaggerate reality… and this is reflected in what we say to our spouse.
Now think about it from your spouse’s perspective, for a minute… let’s say for example that
you accused your spouse of “never cleaning after themselves.”
Yes, often times, you might be right.
Maybe he or she IS really bad at cleaning after themselves…
but to say he or she never cleans after themselves is most likely an inaccurate statement.
All your spouse would have to do is come up with one example of him or her cleaning up
after themselves to prove you wrong.
From your spouse’s perspective, what you said is blatantly hyperbolic and clearly not
a true reflection of reality… and as a result, your spouse will think that you’re being
untruthful and condescending.
So how do we solve this issue?
How do we make it so that you can express your grievances to your spouse without angering
him or her?
How can we cut down on our “Imprecise Language” and make sure that we DON’T escalate our
confrontations into earth shattering arguments?
Well, you need to start using “PRECISE Language.”
That’s right – little shifts in what you say can have a massive impact on how your
spouse perceives you and I’ll explain how right now...
Let’s use the above three examples to say how we can turn IMPRECISE language into PRECISE
language… that is, language that is IMPOSSIBLE to misinterpret.
In the first example… which was, “You NEVER clean after yourself!”
– you know, we could change that to something like…
“Could you do me a favour and make sure you pick up your socks after showering?
That would be awesome.”
Notice the difference in language?
Notice how the second statement is MUCH more specific and positive?
And finally, notice how we’ve substituted the word “YOU” for “I”?
This change in language might seem subtle and ineffective at first, but believe me when
I say your spouse will notice the difference.
Let’s jump right into the second example now… which was, “You are ALWAYS late to
my sister’s dinner!”
In this example, we can apply the same rules we learned in the first example.
So instead, you can now say something like…
“I’d love it if we were on time to my sister’s dinner tomorrow night.”
Finally, let’s try and fix the last example that we used earlier… which was, “You’re
the absolute WORST when it comes to remembering my birthday!”
Using the lessons that we’ve learned so far, we can change this statement to…
“I’d appreciate it if you could make an effort to remember my birthday.”
Again, these changes seem subtle, but they are proven techniques that you can use to
help reduce the likelihood of any future argument.
And if you want to learn MORE subtle tips and tricks like this, I highly encourage you
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your marriage.
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TODAY.
Alright, folks…
so that’s all for this video today.
Hopefully these Donald Trump-inspired tips will help you make some small improvements
in your marriage today…
looking forward to hearing about your success in the comments section below.
Take care!