There’s this magical tool that can help solve a lot of problems in your life. It’s
something that can bring you inner peace and calm yourself. We often cling to many things
in life whether it’s people, ideas, careers, or relationships. This leads to approval seeking
behavior where you feel the need to give away your time and energy to others. You try to
convince others that you are someone who should be acknowledged but it oftentimes ends up
with you being their servant. In order to free yourself and tell the world you value
yourself, you have to use this magical tool called walking away.
No one wants to feel loss or pain. We all have the power to walk away from a situation
but most of us never use that power. Maybe it’s because most of us fear pain. We all
encounter a variety of people and situations in life. As life goes on, you form meaningful
relationships and connections. However, you become aware that some people do not respect
boundaries. It’s a lot easier to be naive and believe people won’t steamroll you and
use you but the truth is that they will if you allow them. In order to let people know
you value yourself you need to set boundaries and walking away is one of the best methods.
You might think walking away is rude but it is a necessary measure once the situation
calls for it. At some point, someone will cross the line with you. In that exact moment,
you have to set your boundaries and stick to them. You need to walk away and the sooner,
the better. It sends them a message that they do not own and control you. You also shouldn’t
worry too much about feeling loss when you walk away as well. Think of it like this.
If the absence of something brings you inner peace, did you truly lose it?
If you have trouble walking away from something, you might have a lack of direction in life.
If you don’t have some goal you are striving for, you are like a blank slate that will
be painted on by other people. You don’t really stand firm and you don’t have a sense
of self. Due to this, you will be caught up in the lives of other people. When someone
spots that you don’t have a strong sense of self, they will believe that your time
and energy is not as valuable. They can start getting ideas like if that person doesn’t
have any goal they are spending their time and energy on then they can use that time
and energy to help me achieve my goal. In their eyes, they think that if you are spending
time for them then you are doing something valuable with your time. If you can find a
long term goal to strive to achieve, it will help you walk away. You have a clear reason
to walk away from a person or relationship or career that has no value to you since you
can tell if it is something important to you. Once you commit to a goal, it shows the world
and those around you that you value your time and energy. Those around you will realize
you are spending your time on something more important than serving them. As you focus
on yourself, you won’t engage in approval seeking behavior.
Walking away shows the world that you are in charge of your life. Walking away shows
the people you interact with that although you love them or can work with them peacefully,
you are not fully dependent on them. It shows that once enough is enough, you are willing
to leave and find other people. The right people, relationships, or career will come
around. You will find people that respect you and you can respect them back. Walking
away also teaches you to have an abundance mindset. You start learning that there are
many opportunities out there. Once you master the power of walking away and get an abundance
mindset, it can be extremely helpful in business deals and romantic relationships. It shows
the other party that even though you are interested, the deal is not necessary for you. That kind
of power can get you deals you might not have been able to get in the past.
The willingness to walk away is one of the strongest negotiating positions because it
technically results in a win-win situation. You can use it to fix a relationship or use
it to break free from a relationship. How you use this power is up to you.
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