Hi, I'm sex and relationship coach Caitlin V
and today I'm gonna ask,
does penis size matter?
Okay, so, the truth is that penis size does matter,
but you know what else matters.
Taking a shower, how you speak to a woman,
how you approach, how you use your tongue,
how you do cuddle afterward,
what's your post sex routine.
Like a lot of stuff matters when it comes to sex, okay.
Men think that penis size matters
way more than most women ever think so
and that makes sense
because most of you are comparing
yourself to porn stars
and when you compare an average size penis
to the average size penis in porn,
well there's no real comparison, right.
I mean anyone is gonna think that they're small
when they're comparing themselves to
some of the most like gargantuan
penises known to man, okay.
So, stop comparing yourself to porn stars
and start working with what you've got
because when you ask yourself the question,
does penis size matter?
What you're actually asking is
how can I be a great lover for women? Right.
I mean, how do women respond
to me and my particular penis?
How can I use what I've got to make the best
and to give myself the
greatest advantage in the sack?
Like, that's the core of the question, right.
So, let's answer that question
and let's answer the question of
what do I do if a have
a smaller than average penis? Great.
So, the truth is that large penises
are not automatically better, okay.
If you have a large penis, you're going to
potentially cause more harm than good.
You gonna have to do a ton of foreplay,
really get women warmed up,
I mean it's way more advantageous
to have an average size penis.
In fact, when they study
women's penis size preferences
they find that women would choose
when given a variety of
different sizes to choose from,
they normally choose something that's
just around average.
So, actually if you're rocking
an average size penis,
you are what most women will prefer.
So, the truth is no matter what
size you're rocking,
you can be an amazing lover.
I'm gonna teach you a couple techniques
that will use no matter how big or small your penis is,
but these techniques are specifically focused on men
that are rocking a slightly smaller than average penis.
So, it's not really about how much your size matters,
but how are you making the most with what you've got,
and all of these techniques work because they target
the first two inches of the vaginal canal.
Which is where almost all of the nerve endings
that are inside of a woman are located,
and the rest of the nerve endings are outside, right.
They're all in the clit, and the labia,
in the area of the vulva, right.
That's actually the most nerve, sensitive,
stimulation rich area of a woman's body
and so actually, the first step to any of this
is to use your hands and your mouth
on the outside of her body
and on the first two inches of the vaginal canal
coz that's where almost all of the nerve stimulation is.
Now, all men should
get good at using their hands and mouth
and not relying on their penis.
But if you're worried that you
have a smaller than average penis,
making up for that difference
by being awesome at oral sex,
awesome at manual stimulation,
that's gonna make you an incredible lover.
Remember that most women don't orgasm
through vaginal penetration.
Some studies suggest that it's as low as 30%
of women report regularly
being able to reach orgasm
through penis and vagina sex.
So, that's already a super low number
you already need to be able to use your hands and mouth
and to get creative
in order to give her an orgasm.
So, this is a great step one.
Step two is to utilize sex positions
that allow her to keep her legs together.
So, the closer that her legs,
her thighs are together,
the more friction and the more
stimulation that she will feel
on those first two inches of her vaginal canal.
So, positions like
a woman laying down on her stomach
with her legs together
and you entering her from behind,
or position where she throws both
legs over one of your shoulders
and kind of lays down on her
back with her legs back over the side.
Those are gonna be the position that allow you
to create the most sensation and the most friction.
If you're with a woman who is particularly wet.
If she produces a lot of fluids,
then one technique that you can do is to use
a soft cloth or a towel
and gently wipe away some of the liquid,
some of the fluids on the outside of her vulva.
By decreasing the amount of liquid, not so much that she is "dry,"
but enough that you introduce more friction
you'll actually create more stimulation.
Also, get really clear
on when you can let her take the reins.
So, most men think that it's their pumping
that is what creates a really
pleasurable sensation for women,
it's like the thrust
or the pump that you are actually
doing with your own body and your own hips.
The truth is that study show
that when women are totally in charge of the thrust,
the speed, the depth, the position
of penetrative sex
they reach orgasm more often
So, this is super great news.
Like the truth is, that the onus
of her reaching orgasm through penetrative sex
is not entirely on you and your motion
and your ability to thrust hard and fast and deep.
Actually, you hand control over to her.
Give her the reins to her own pleasure
and let her ride you or experience you,
and get herself off using you
as the tool to reach orgasm.
So, utilize these tips together.
Focus on the first two inches of her vulva
and on the outside using your hands and mouth.
That's where the majority of
the nerve endings are anyway.
Second, use techniques that increase friction.
Like keeping her legs together
or slightly drying her off
when she gets really wet.
Third, let her take control.
Give her the reins
so that she can control how hard and deep and fast
that you're actually having sex,
and she's more likely to reach orgasm to begin with,
and after all of that, if she wants to still
have even more stimulation.
Encourage her to do kegel exercises
or pelvic floor strengthening exercises
that will allow her to actually squeeze down
harder on you while you're inside of her.
This will give her more stimulation
and will also give her the best chance
of actually reaching orgasm
during penetrative sex.
This is coach Caitlin V, please leave me a comment.
Let me know if you have any other techniques that you use,
or any other questions that you have about penis size,
and women if you're watching this video,
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let me know what you think.
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