do you have a toddler who gives out little short bursts of high-pitched screaming
and you don't know what to do to stop it it isn't really a tantrum but it is that horribly annoying
short screen and it happens all day long what can you do in this short video i'm going to tell you
step by step exactly what you can do to stop that short high pitched screen so your child will learn
not to do it and you can keep your sanity hi i'm holly mclean the mommy answer lady i'm a
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nothing can fray on the nerves of a toddler parent much more than when your child gives
out that short little high-pitched scream that is about one to three seconds long and that drive you
absolutely nutty it's important that you watch all the way to the end of this short video so you
can get the entire message about what to do even if they do throw a fit when you're teaching them
not to do these short screens now to start off with you need to do something that will make
it very clear that this behavior is not acceptable you can do this with your voice and with an action
here's what you can do number one address them immediately immediately when you hear that scream
look them straight in the eye with your eyebrows down using as low a tone in
your voice as you can muster and say no screaming very slowly and articulately
tap them lightly on the lips with your index finger as you say this not hurting them in any way
just making clear what you mean and showing them with your finger to their lips
number two do not reward them even if they just wanted your attention for a moment do not
give it in relation to the screaming other than to correct the behavior with the unpleasantness
of the words and action i just described they should never receive what they want from screening
never reward behavior you do not want repeated look at it from the perspective of the child
if they screamed did they get you to do what they want no matter what they wanted
don't give it to them number three make them wait for example if you're sitting next to
them while they're eating and they wanted to drink so they screamed don't give them a drink
wait a few minutes later to give them a drink it's very important that they do
not associate this screen with getting what they want so you have to separate the screen
from the desired response but of course they won't need a drink right so you have to wait to give it
to them so if they screamed because they wanted to get down from the high chair don't let them
down yet wait for a while so that them getting down is completely separate from the screen
number four don't allow a tantrum if in response to these words in action they cry
that's okay they're just shocked and they feel sad for a moment that they have displeased you
that's normal and acceptable for a toddler to feel bad for a moment
just move on and be consistent but if they throw a fit that is different that is not acceptable
then apply the ctm method if you don't know what that is you can learn all about it in the
video about how to stop tantrums for good on this channel i'll put a link in the description below
but let's say you do these steps but when they throw a fit you just don't have time to do the ctm
method no problem being consistent isn't always about doing exactly the same thing in some cases
that is preferred but not always possible in the real world of parenting but it is about
always making sure they are met with something undesirable when they behave badly not to get
back at them or in anger or anything but to teach them not to do that undesired behavior
so you are at the point now where instead of just a little sad face or some reasonable crying over
this they get angry and throw a fit if ctm is impossible because you're busy at the moment
simply pick them up calmly without any other further words and take them to their crib and
place them in it look them in the eye and repeat no screaming in a low tone eyebrows down set
a timer for five minutes that they can see and walk out of the room now what will they do then
they will scream at the top of their lungs of course that's okay expect it they may scream
and cry the entire time that's up to them and it's okay continue what you are doing
whether it be cleaning up the kitchen folding laundry on the phone or whatever it may be when
the timer goes off walk into the room pick them up without coddling them and place them exactly
where they were when they screamed in the first place and continue whatever you were doing before
i say don't coddle them because you don't want anything around this scenario to reinforce the
bad behavior i hope you will be loving and hugging and kissing and encouraging them
all day long but not around bad behavior that is an opportunity to teach and train them to behave
so take advantage of it number five be consistent i know you're looking for an effective way to
stop this nerve-wracking behavior here's the thing consistency is the key to effectiveness
no matter what method or idea you try it will not work if it's not consistent be consistent and it
will be effective there are so many scenarios that can cause a child to scream in short bursts
so i can't address each one here but here are the guidelines for it address the behavior immediately
do not reward it in any way make them wait for that what they wanted don't allow a tantrum
and be consistent as this video given you a straightforward and step-by-step plan if so please
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