We asked fellow western expats why they would encourage their friends to marry Thai women
and what is so special about Thai women
We've all heard stories of foreigners who ended up miserable and even broke after a disastrous marriage to a Thai woman
That being said, those stories are a glimpse of their relationship
I feel that every one of us has a unique quality
that makes us attractive and enticing to potential suitors
I can't argue that one race or nationality is better than the other when it comes to
women since they all have unique characteristics
These are real people based on real comments
It was a rainy night, and the escalator to the BTS station was just a few feet away
but I couldn't get there
At a stop two stations away, my wife was waiting for me
As the rain intensified, I began to worry about how long I would be forced to wait
My day was made when I saw a young lady with an umbrella grin and said,
"Come with me, mai ka"—she was an office worker at the nearby office
Is this anything you've encountered back in your home country?
But how frequently do you run across someone you don't expect?
My mobility had been severely impaired following a horrendous motorcycle accident
so I was walking with a crutch the next day on the train
A guy and a young lady sat on the two corner seats as I boarded the train
but they paid no attention to my entrance
When a lady in her 30s stepped forward, she had two bags in her hands as well as a shoulder bag
She smiled at me and offered me a seat
I have compassion and sympathy for the women I've seen here
Everywhere you look, you'll see a slew of them
It's a trait shared by all Thai women, young and old, regardless of their age or gender
When it comes to eating, they won't do it alone; rather, they'll pack their bags full of food and invite everybody who's nearby to join in
After a disastrous 12-year marriage and a few brief relationships with Thai and Filipina beauties
I met my current (Thai) wife of 7 years in Isaan
Aside from the cultural differences between Thais and Farangs
There is an age difference - I am her father's age yet appear youthful;
that appears to be significant here
I'm typically hesitant to tell people my age, yet she brags about it - strange!
She is more educated, a dedicated Buddhist, and devoted to her family
Her father had recently died, and she was two years out of a five-year abusive relationship with a Thai
He'd ask for other women's phone numbers right in front of her and end up taking a car that cost most of her life savings
We met online, and communication was tough due to her bad English and my much poorer Thai
We both worked hard to learn more, and her English has improved considerably
While my Thai hasn't improved as much, but it's still better than it was before
The first several months were difficult, with many conflicts and fights
but we persevered and began to discover many things in common
She complimented me on my efforts to respect her, her family, her government profession, and her culture
I also make sure I don't glance at other girls in front of her
Yes, she is envious, but it is also about respect
The Thai assumption is that most farang-Thai partnerships include (ex) bar girls
or impoverished, illiterate country girls
Hence they are frequently treated with disdain
Police will question why she is dating a foreigner
She is an educated woman and a government official
To combat this, we always dress nicely when we go out, and she always pays for everything
even if it means sliding her money under the table
People we know aren't an issue, and some ladies in her office have shown an interest in meeting a "nice farang."
Curiously, money appears to be one of the main issues in each marriage, regardless of culture
but curiously not in ours
I made it obvious from the start that I was poor, and she never asked me to assist her
Regardless, I try to pull my weight by taking care of costs such as the property we rent, holidays, and car maintenance
Nothing like the horrific stories I frequently read on the internet
We seem to develop together year after year, and I know I'm blessed to be with her
Her mother is also wonderful, and her younger sister is growing into a lovely young lady
She was quite bashful until she became closer to me
To sum up, if you find someone who is genuine about being with you for the long term
and there is chemistry and things in common, the Thai-farang culture difference is not an issue
I'm happily married to a Thai woman and live in Thailand
We've raised two lovely girls together
I'm not sure how it gets better, but it appears to grow better every day
When it's time for lunch, she's as proud as can be — she made handmade tortillas, then burritos (for the first time, they were fantastic)
only because I like them....
When we visit the United States, she enjoys Mexican food
I've never heard her say anything negative about another individual
She's constantly resourceful, positive, and happy
Completely down-to-earth and really loving
She makes everyone and everything better by having her in their lives
The detailed answer (all positive) would require a book-length chronicle to acquaint
a western reader to the universe of Thai-ness
She improves the lives of everyone she meets
Always upbeat....
We're together 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and we're having a great time
I figured I'd throw something out there
As far as I can tell, the good times outweigh the bad ones
However, I'm sure it's a little different in every culture
It has been a long time since I've trimmed my own nails or ironed a garment
I'm not a slave master, but if my woman tells me, "Don't do that,"
I won't argue with house chores
I can't even load the washing machine
She also fixes things, paints, and takes care of a slew of other chores
many of which are traditionally considered a man's duty
Thailand's ladies are known for pampering their husbands, or at least my lady
In order of importance to my wife, there are her mother, father, siblings, nieces and nephews, the family dog, and last, me
Although she treats me very well
I'd have to wait for her help if there was a flash flood
I'm a big fan of Thai food, and she's an excellent chef, but as soon as I sit down for my meal
She'll devour pig feet dipped in something smelly, like an infant's diaper
Even though I'm not obese, I weigh more than twice as much as she does and is twice as tall
so I still have to flee at least once a year to avoid being attacked
It's a mystery to me what causes it, but fortunately, it seldom lasts and always makes me laugh, which only bothers her.
Thai culture is based on relationships with the mother, or the female line, whereby the eldest daughter is entitled to the family's wealth
The stereotype of a Thai woman being submissive to her man, Thai or farang, as a helpless young girl is untrue
After 22 years of marriage, I can confidently declare that my wife is a wonderful person
When interacting with extended family, it's necessary to keep in mind basic cultural considerations
but they're not deal-breakers
In my opinion, everyone should realize that people's needs and desires are basically universal
What makes a wonderful husband or wife can be found in any culture, so it's important not to focus on the fact that they're Thai
and assume that it gives them any special advantages
When it comes to starting a relationship, no two people are the same
My best time is right now!
It was my first time in Thailand and I'd never been to Asia or planned to go there
Then, in the early hours of November 2011
I noticed this woman walking toward my shop
My intuition told me that my new wife was standing there, and I rushed up to her as swiftly as possible before she had a chance to vanish
This is where things stand
When two cultures first met, it was a turbulent time in our relationship
In the end, we both had the guts to stick it out, and the ashes have long since settled
After 8 years of marriage, our healthy relationship is balanced, but it's never dull
As a bonus, my Thai wife is just 10 years younger than me
She's been a true lottery ticket in my life
This person never complains about anything and is always up for a challenge
We are transparent with our money, and it is given to one of us who is less fortunate
At the beginning of our marriage, I own a house, and she received half of it if we got divorced
The idea was that we wouldn't have to argue over money, and it worked
In my opinion, it doesn't matter where you're from
As far as marriages go, a willingness to adjust and compromise is more crucial than the quality of the people involved
Moreover, they are able to communicate with one another
It just so happens to be my 20th wedding anniversary today
We are still married and are having a fancy dinner at the Marriott to celebrate
There are reasons to avoid marrying someone who is dishonest
more loyal to another cause (family, self-interest, debt payback, etc.)
addicts, gamblers, and so forth
Non-Thais are more likely to encounter and interact with a broader range of Thais than regular Thais
who are better able to identify these characteristics
It's hard to see the indications because we're so distracted by the attractiveness of the person who's putting them out there
We're a lot more forgiving when there's a chance of a good time to be had
Regardless of where you come from, Thailand has a wide variety of people
You'll run into them and not give them a second glance; ignorance is bliss, as the saying goes
A smart approach to truly getting to know an area is to ignore the socioeconomic strata,
and this is an excellent way to do that
Assumptions about one's own and others' social standing reduce one's exposure to the full picture of a particular community or culture
It takes a lot of work and dedication to be married
The best results are achieved when both sides are on the same page
Many foreign-Thai couples find it difficult to speak with one another
As a result, they have difficulty properly understanding one another
Those oversights will come to light eventually
When this happens, sometimes it is positive and strengthens the relationship
But sometimes, it may be harmful and even destructive
I recommend getting married to someone you've known for a long time
Your relationship will evolve over time, but at least you'll have a starting point in common
So, if you've just arrived and are considering marrying a local woman,
don't rush the process
As long as you've been
around and know the bride well, go for it!
Thai ladies, in my experience at work, work really hard and diligently
In Thailand, a woman's responsibilities as a mother and a career woman may be rather demanding
In my opinion, Thailand's male population has it a little easier than its female population
because there are fewer demands placed on them
I'm unable to say whether or not this is a problem due to the fact that the population appears to be more skewed towards women than men
As in many other nations in Southeast Asia
Women may not be able to pursue their jobs to the fullest because of family responsibilities
However, I've met women in the profession that work long hours as well
For them, maintaining a work-life balance is tough
Regardless, the vast majority of them are courteous and well-mannered
As a whole, my perceptions of Thai women are really favorable
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