-Hey everybody! Almost happy Halloween!
I have Joselyn Hughes here, she's gonna teach us a Halloween craft, so stay tuned!
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-So like I said, I have Joselyn Hughes here. Tell my viewers a little bit about what you do on your channel.
-I am a DIYer, which - Sounded weird. Sounded like I'm a DI-wire.
-Like wire. -Like a wire.
-Yeah. That could work. -Yeah, I make stuff.
-And I try to be honest about it, so I add a "DAMMIT" on the end. So I do DIY DAMMIT!
-And it's really funny and it's really good, and a lot of it I like because sometimes it doesn't work out,
And then I don't feel so bad about myself, because I don't craft. So she's gonna teach me some things.
And if you didn't notice, we're dressed up for Halloween.
Do you know what we can do? - Oh, no, I have to go this way.
-So today, what are we gonna do? -We are going to make little mummies.
-Little mummy decorations, which - I think I told you this before I came over, but this is a children's craft,
Because I kinda like kids' stuff. It's easy.
-And that's kind of why I picked it, too, she gave me a bunch of options, and I was like, "That one sounds right up my alley, at my level."
-Yeah. -Meet me at my level. -Great.
-So let's get started.
-All right, supplies you'll need for this craft are:
Crafting foam.
-Ding! -Black crafting foam.
-Okay, great, we got that. Scissors.
An outline of a gingerbread man slash mummy. You can Google it, it'll pop up.
-Yeah, I'm surprised all the outlines of things you can Google.
-Google "mummy outline". -You've got it, yeah.
-My favorite thing... -Googly eyes.
-And adhesive dots. -These are like magic. -Yeah.
-And then the last thing... -Oh, yarn.
-We have to make it into a mummy. -Yeah. Mummify.
-Yep, completely mummify.
-So the first thing we're gonna do is cut out our little figurines out of the black crafting foam.
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-Okay, so we've got our guy. Or girl.
-Or agender. -These are genderless. -They are genderless.
-Okay, so now we're gonna take our adhesive dots and start stringing the yarn around our little figure.
-To mummify them. -Yes. -Okay.
-So you can go totally haywire around this, because... Mummies are crazy. You know.
With the stringing of strings.
-It's very willy-nilly. -I make no sense. -It's all over the place.
-They're all just like, weird buzz words, like - "Zippity doops! Mummies are all rippity rops!"
-"Zinga ding ding!"
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-Okay.
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-We should note, we're using these adhesive dots to kind of help stick on the yarn where we need it.
Like, kind of the curved parts need a little bit of that adhesive, because otherwise it won't stick.
-It's like he's wearing overalls. -It does - Mine too.
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-So normally, when I have people on my channel, we do a segment called On The Couch With Kati.
-Okay. -Which you all are very familiar with. [kids saying "Aaah" in the background]
-But since we're kinda crafting, I thought that I would just ask you two questions.
-Okay. -And the first is...
-What I always start with is, when were you made aware of mental health?
Was it something that was ever talked about at home, or something that maybe you came to find later?
-I definitely found it later. I think growing up, my parents had a very, like, "shake it off" Midwestern attitude.
You know, and I think it's - It was nice to find mental health later on in life,
To kind of go, "Oh, it's okay to be upset, or it's okay to be reactionary when you don't know why you're feeling the way you're feeling sometimes."
So... Yeah, I'm a big fan of therapy. I've been in therapy myself. I really, really like it.
-At the moment, I'm not in therapy. -Taking a break.
-Taking a break... But it's nice because it's taught me a bunch of ways to deal with problems that come up.
So now when a problem comes up and I have like, a... Kneejerk reaction, I can kind of analyze that before acting on it.
-Which is a big problem I had before. -Well, and I think everybody has -
-I'm a DBT therapist, and - To put that in layman terms, what that means is it's like -
Helps you notice your own emotional volatility, because we all have emotional volatility.
And then it helps you slow down that process so that then you're more in control.
And that's something that everybody can use, because I definitely - You know, there's the fight, flight, or freeze,
Those are the natural human responses to crazy situations or scary situations,
And I'm definitely a fighter. I'm like,
-Great how your voice changes when you fight. -It totally does.
-I think it's important to know that, like... You can slow it down? And it's okay to be upset?
-Right. -And I think that...
-For me, even just learning to be a therapist helped me recognize that, not to mention my own therapy.
And getting - I don't know, there's something powerful about understanding where you're coming from,
-And knowing that you're not weird or crazy. -Yeah.
-I think it can be really beneficial to learn all those things that you're saying.
-And it's hard to remember that - You know, it's hard - I feel like nobody gives themselves a break.
-No, exactly. -And you've gotta give yourself a break.
-You gotta... People mess up, people make mistakes.
People... Pass on their hurt, that happens a lot. Like, "Oh, that person, you know -"
Even if someone's rude to you at the store, it's like, "Oh, you're passing your hurt on to me."
And it might sound really stupid, but if somebody really hurts your feelings, you have to remember,
-It's really not about you. -Yeah.
-It's usually something that's happened before -
It's about them and their process, and something that they're going through.
-Totally. -Yeah, and that is interesting,
-I like the passing it on kind of thought, because that's something that I struggle with as -
-Even, as silly as it sounds, to driving. Like road rage. -Yeah.
-And if people are really rude, I'll be pissed off. I can let myself be pissed off for like, hours.
-I mean, really - And then what happens is once you get pissed off, then you go into a spiral of all these other negative things
And if you can just be aware, "Oh my god, I'm so mad right now" - It's okay to be mad, but let's be aware of it.
So that it doesn't pass on. That's so powerful, just that simple thing.
-Totally. Otherwise, it's like you get caught in the negative cycle, and like...
-And if you mean negative - You know, road rage cycle for me, that would be road raging at a nun.
'Cause I've done that.
That's where I really took a seat and really was like, "What are you doing with your life?"
-"What's happening, Joselyn?" -"Joselyn, get it together."
-"You said 'Jesus Christ' to a nun."
-And you gave her the dirty look - -Hopefully she didn't hear me, but yeah -
-Gave her stink-eye? -I gave her a bad ol' stink-eye.
-That's like one of my favorite stories. -It's so ridiculous.
-And I actually find, just as a sidenote, it's fun to craft and talk, because it keeps your hands busy and you're actually doing something,
And then it's not rude to not make eye contact. It makes it easier.
So if you're having trouble opening up in therapy, or maybe talking to a friend or a parent if there's something you wanna bring up,
-Maybe try this craft out. -That's a great point.
-Who knows? -Any craft, really.
-I've found that it completely calms me down. -Yes.
-That's like coloring, I like to color. -Oo, yeah.
-You may have noticed I smelled the yarn, it smells so good. It smells like Michael's.
-It does. -I love the way Michael's smells.
-It smells like Christmas meets... potpourri.
-Okay, and the last question that I will ask while we mummify is...
What advice would you give to a younger Joselyn?
-I would tell younger Joselyn, you know, everything's gonna be fine.
You know, there's... There's enough good stuff out there for everyone. You know?
I think sometimes you forget that you've got a whole lot of good things to be happy for.
And you should be happy.
Don't waste your time being upset, don't waste your time road raging at somebody,
Don't waste your time, you know, holding a grudge.
If somebody doesn't like you after you tell them how you feel, then they shouldn't be in your life. But...
You should tell people how you feel after you've gathered your thoughts.
I don't know if this is terrible advice now, this is where you take over and go...
But I would say, you know, express yourself and be who you are and don't be afraid of it, and then...
Keep the people around you that are nice and support you.
Don't be around people that suck.
-And I think that's something that took me a while to learn.
-Definitely took me a while to learn. -Because...
-Negativity feeds negativity.
-Yeah, a lot of people bond through negativity,
They go, "Man, I hate this," another person goes "Me too, I hate this," and then you're like, "Let's be best friends!"
-And sometimes you're hating - -Don't do that.
-Another person, which is so ridiculous, but it's easy.
-Yeah, and if we're feeling bad about ourselves - This is just me, now I'm speaking completely from personal experience,
Is that if I'm feeling bad about myself, then I - I don't know if it's - The human condition, or
If it's a Western thing, or where the hell it comes from,
But if I'm feeling really shitty, I'm gonna want to put other people down, because then I don't feel like my experience is so bad or weird, or -
I don't know where that comes from. But it's not cute, and I don't like it, and I end up feeling worse.
And it took me until my late 20's, I guess, maybe like 27, and then even still currently,
Is like weeding out people who aren't really supportive, and aren't actually positive.
-Right, and you have to - The same way you have to be aware that you're road raging at a nun,
You have to kind of be aware that someone's making you feel bad, and -
You might not know, 'cause you might love them, or - You know,
Think they're your best friend and they're there for you and they do something that's hurtful,
It's just something you've kinda gotta keep your eye out for, 'cause it's really important.
-Yeah, and also I wanna point out, like - Something I've recognized and I'm trying to constantly remind myself
Is that it's not just them, it's me with them.
And I'm just as active of a participant sometimes in the negativity, and so
It's just being aware of that so that I don't bring that into any new relationships, or...
You know, I'm just being aware of the fact that it's sometimes just a bad recipe.
-Yeah, right. -It's not one person.
-It's like - You know, together it doesn't work out. -Yeah.
-I have a good friend that - we kind of met when we started doing stand-up, and -
We kind of got along because we were able to kind of vent to each other about what we were upset about
In the comedy scene... And when you take that away, it's not the same friendship.
And we needed each other and it was supportive, at the same time we were kind of - dragging each other into negative spots with it.
Yeah, we kind of rebuilt our friendship knowing that like, "Okay, hey, we're not in this thing anymore."
-Maybe we don't have to talk about that anymore. -Yeah, there's no reason. So yeah.
-Real quick, I'm putting an adhesive dot on the back of each eye,
And I'm just gonna kinda shove it in the yarn to where I think his eyes should be. Or hers.
-Oh, he's so cute. -Kati had a really cute idea to make a little garland of these, and kind of hang them, you could just -
-Cut a hole in the top of his little foam head and string 'em on some more of this yarn and make a little door decoration, or a mantle, something like that -
-'Cause they're super cute. And you could even hang it from the back if you wanted it to be like -
-Well, thank you so much for teaching us! -You're welcome, thanks for having me!
-And so try to make these at home. I actually think these are a really good distraction tool,
And something that's also really cute, and then you can hang it up.
And happy Halloween! I hope you get out, have a good time.
And we also did a video over on Joselyn's channel, click over here on her face, and also the link is in the description,
And if you like these kind of different types of video give it a thumbs up!
-We can craft, we can craft all day. -I'll come over any time and craft.
-It makes me happy. -It does, it's very good.
-And we will see you next time!
-Bye! -Bye!