that okay clap for holding the drink snap not well hey guys it's jen i have a little matcha with me
today i don't know about you guys but lately i've been really into like going through my closet and
just wanting to clear out some of my old things especially every time when the weather sort of
heats up i'm like oh i just can't wait to sort of refresh my closet do a little con marrying and i
kind of find it's always really helpful if you're trying to declutter to be refreshed on some things
that you should keep in mind before going into the process i thought i would just put it in a video
so it would be a nice reminder for you guys if you plan on decluttering and organizing your spaces
soon in case you guys haven't read marie kondo's book the life-changing magic of tidying up which
i am a huge evangelist of i read it years ago i still find that for myself it's like the best
method of going through my things because i am such a sentimental person the basic idea
is to keep what sparks joy and to think what you're ready to let go so you you know you have
an object you hold it in your hand if it sparks joy then you keep it if you hold it
in your hand and it does not spark joy you can thank it for its role it's played in your life
whether that's like the joy you got from receiving it if it was from a family member or a friend
or the joy you felt the times you wore it but now you've moved on from that stage in your life
you can experience that closure i guess and then let it go and for me i think that that really was
like a life-changing way of looking at the things in my life and it's also helped me keep things
around me that i really care about remember those rules keep what sparks joy uh be thankful for what
you're letting go my second tip is don't get rid of something before you find a replacement i know
sometimes when you're like in decluttering mode you're like oh i just don't love it anymore
getting rid of it getting rid of it but i found that sometimes when i venture down that path
and there's something like a basic that i actually wear all the time even if i feel
like it's not quite what i want anymore once i got rid of it because i was in a
decluttering frenzy i found myself feeling like i had a hole that needed to be filled because
i always need a white tank top and now i don't have a white tank top and i don't want to just go
searching for a white tank top out of desperation and then have it again be something that's not
quite right sometimes i wait until i actually find the replacement to let it go if it's something
that i wear or use on a really regular basis where if that was missing i would need to fill it
my third tip is to ask yourself how are you are you in a good mental state where you're
prepared to declutter where you're feeling good about yourself and your life and your state of
mind sometimes i turn toward decluttering because i want to fix something in my life but i actually
find that if i'm not in a healthy mental state of mind before i go into the process it becomes very
very overwhelming to like go through your stuff and be faced with all of these things that are
you know imperfect in your life that you want to change and if i'm already like in a good state of
mind where my mental health is good where i feel good about myself i can actually make a lot wiser
decisions especially these sort of long-term impacting decisions with my material things
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last year and it's just been such a night and day difference because i feel like we spend so much
time and attention focusing on making sure our bodies are really healthy or that we're looking
nice and put together and happy on the outside but for some reason i feel like sometimes we forget
how important our mental health is in our regular human maintenance to be like a healthy good
functioning person so i just found that when i started going to therapy myself it really changed
my outlook on life on really an everyday basis and how i interact with my friends and my family
and most of all how i interact with myself i just feel like it's such an important part in sort of
like decluttering you know we're talking about decluttering your things this is like decluttering
your heart and your mind and being able to just process the things that stack up which i will say
after having children i just sometimes don't have the time and capacity to like take that
time for myself to process my feelings like i did before i had children so i i absolutely recommend
it if you have ever been on the fence about going to therapy or not the way i like to think
about therapy isn't trying to fix something that's wrong with you it's really putting that investment
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the link here and in the info box down below my next tip don't get rid of something just because
it's from a store you don't love anymore because the best most environmentally conscious thing
you can do is to keep using and holding on to what you already own i have to admit uh i'm definitely
guilty of doing this in the past where i'm like oh i've grown out of that store it just doesn't
reflect who i am anymore i'm just gonna get rid of it it's also a little bit admittedly like a little
bit shallow to be like oh i loved it but the only thing i don't love is the tag inside of it you
know that's a little bit silly so i'm trying to be better about just deciding that i like
what i like no matter what the brand is no matter what it sort of like represents if i like it
that's all that matters and i should keep loving it and holding on to it my next tip is to make a
list of items that you think are missing before going through the actual decluttering process i
find that there are certain things in my clothing wardrobe but also just in life i guess where
i'm always searching for it like somehow when i'm shopping i always gravitate toward cardigans
and jeans like i i have so many pairs of jeans but for some reason i feel like i'm always hunting for
the perfect pair of like light washed jeans but if i think about what i really love and what i
always look for and i write it down sometimes as i'm going through my things i rediscover pieces
i already own and i fall in love with them again it's almost as if i am just shopping from my own
closet because i already kept in mind like this is what i'm looking for so even when i see it in my
own closet i still have that feeling of like wow like this is new again you know oh i really love
this i forgot how much i loved this thing that i'm looking for that i already own and so that helps
curb my desire to like find again what i already have the next tip is to ask yourself what is your
personal style what makes you feel the most you what makes you feel like really yourself
whether that's like things that you're wearing or maybe it's like certain makeup items or skincare
clothing whatever it is what makes you feel the most you i like more neutral colors i want to
look elevated i want to look put together then as i'm going through my wardrobe and i'm finding
something that's like sequin and polka dots and i'm like oh you know like that's not the vibe
i want to move forward in it helps me to separate who i am and who i want to be and
does my wardrobe serve me in that process or if it's something where maybe it used to be
me but it's not quite who i am now i think in those instances unless it's something that you
really are honest about seeing yourself in and being like this makes me feel the most
me it's okay to think those items and let them go okay seven might be one of my favorite tips
that i think people like straight up do not talk about good lighting i mean like i know for myself
i absolutely appreciate good light whether it's like taking pictures or doing video or whatever it
is but it actually has such a huge impact on how you visually see yourself and that's especially
true if you're going through your closet trying to decide if something like looks good on you you
will have such a different perspective if it's like a dark gloomy day where everything you're
looking at in the mirror like looks unattractive versus if it's a nice bright sunny warm day
the colors are looking flattering on your skin and you get kind of more of a better
idea of realistically what other people will see when they're looking at you as well my next tip
is to just prepare yourself for it to potentially be a multi-day experience i know that again like
when i declutter my things sometimes i get very overwhelmed when i see a large mass of clutter
it just seems like oh i don't know if i can get through all of this but if i go into it with the
idea of knowing and understanding and accepting that it might take longer than a single day to do
i can either just go by category and break it into smaller chunks that i know i can sort of
emotionally deal with all of that decision making or i can just expect ahead of time in my head
knowing that it's going to be a multi-day process and just having that expectation from the get-go
which helps me to sort of like temper my expectations and just have a more pleasant
experience the whole time i kind of just already mentioned this tip but i'll say it once again
sometimes it's easier to attack one category at a time versus looking at everything you
need to declutter from your whole house and trying to do it all at once it's okay to
go category by category or even if it's like your closety things you can say okay well tonight i
just have a little bit of time i'm just going to go through like my socks and underwear and
declutter there and then the next day i'm going to work on my pants you know it's it's okay to take
it in segments that make sense for you and just because somebody else is decluttering a certain
way it doesn't mean that that has to be the exact same way you do it i think people just have tips
so that they can try to help each other go through something that's honestly like a very
difficult process but it's okay to recognize what works the best for you when you're decluttering
the final tip i wanted to talk about is to let go of the idea of buying and holding onto things
for the person you idealize yourself to be instead of the person that you really are what things do
you actually wear a lot day to day and what things do you buy because you hope to be that
person like for me i have way more workout clothes than i actually use okay these are the leggings
that i wear all the time so it's okay for me to have it in several colors but these other ones are
not as comfortable do i really need to have that many sets being really realistic about if that
needs to take up space in my drawers when it's for that like hyper workout person that i am not
necessarily living day to day in my real true life i feel like i also do that a lot with skin care
there's a lot of things where i'm like oh i like exfoliating sometimes so like maybe i could have
like 10 different kinds of exfoliators and just try them all but realistically at the
end of the night i have a limited amount of time because i am a mom and even when i want to do
all of this skincare and spend a lot of time on it realistically i'm just gonna grab my favorite
one over and over so it doesn't really make sense for me to hold on to all of these things
that are for the me i wish i was and not who i really am so that is it for all of my tips
i hope this was really helpful for you or maybe inspires you to do a little decluttering yourself
if you guys have some tips that you recommend or like other like books or advice for decluttering
or even like youtube videos or channels that you like in terms of like minimalism or decluttering
and organizing let me know in the comments down below if you found this helpful please hit thumbs
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