why do some enneagram types not fit the typical stereotype well it might be because of counter
types and that's what i will be teaching on today the counter type of the type three before
i dive in let me explain what counter type means within the enneagram every type all nine types
has a counter type and this is due to every type having subtypes you've probably heard them called
self-preservation social and sexual also known as one-to-one these are the subtypes within each type
and these also can be known as the instinctual variants okay so we have the self-preservation
the social and the sexual and within these three we have that counter type this is the one that
just doesn't appear to be like the other two subtypes something's different their behaviors
are different they act a little different and so we might get confused and try and mistype them so
to break this down even further every type has a counter type for example i'm a type 9 and i'm
actually the counter type 9 which for the 9 is the social instinct or social subtype but this doesn't
mean that every social instinct within all nine types is the counter type no it varies from type
to type so it might be the self-press it might be the social or it might be the sexual within each
type it varies so today we are going over that counter type three if you're new here welcome i'm
hillary your certified enneagram life coach and i run enneagram and coaching where i teach the
enneagram in the simplest and easiest way possible all right so let's dive in what is the counter
type of the type three it's the self-preservation instinct that's the counter type of the three
in a nutshell this self-preservation instinct helps us to take care of our safety our health
our well-being and get all the resources needed to feel protected and secure in the world so
that's a little bit about the self-preservation instinct so if you relate to the core desire of
the three the core fear of the three the core weakness of the three and the core longing of
the three then you might be a three and if you want a little bit more of an in-depth teaching of
that i'll link that video right here i've already covered it i have a great quick video that will
help you understand what's motivating the three what's driving the three and so go give that a
watch if you don't understand what the cores are of that three but you definitely need that base to
move on to this next piece and so let's go ahead and move on to that next piece which is subtypes
like i said earlier it's the self preservation instinct it's a social instinct it's the sexual
instinct when people think of the typical three they're thinking of the social instinct and the
sexual instinct because the self-press instinct doesn't always look right away like a type three
so let's break down what that self-preservation three looks like so this type 3 is very
independent and does not want to feel indebted to anyone and this is the one that could be
the workaholic because they feel like they must constantly work for security and stability that's
what's driving this piece of them and the security that they are working for is from the money assets
and a stable home that's what they're working for but real quick i just want to talk to the self
press 3s out there you need to be careful because you guys are more prone to burnout and breakdowns
and so be careful with that piece this three wants to streamline everything they are very efficient
and doing this helps them to maximize their energy to put towards achieving their goals so all three
subtypes of the type three deal with vanity but the self-preservation three hides it and this is
by being the best role model which to them means being good efficient hardworking productive those
are the things they want to be the best at and a big key to this three um if you are trying
to decide between the three is this one wants to be admired but they do not want to brag about it
they don't want to have to tell you about their accomplishments they just want you to know them
to see them and to applaud them but they never want to brag about them the threes of this subtype
are usually not extroverted they're usually more introverted and less concerned with image
the self press 3 could be a very good team player they're going gonna want to really get along and
stay as far away from conflict as possible and the last thing i have for that self-preservation three
success does not mean being the leader or center of attention that's not what it means to them they
actually are competing with themselves and can be very hard on themselves so that's a glimpse into
the counter type three if you've always tested as a three or you really relate to the cores but
don't look like that stereotypical three then you might be a self-preservation three and if you want
to learn more about the other subtypes i actually have done a whole video on the self preservation
the social and the sexual um instincts within the three i will link that video right here for you
guys to go give that a watch if you want to learn a little bit more about subtypes of the type three
but you guys know i never like to close these without letting you know that if you are still
struggling to find your type i do offer discover you typing sessions i'll link that right here
and down below in the description box um i also have coaching packages and different things like
that i do couples typing i have a lot of things that you guys can look through and see which one
fits your needs best but if you're still not sure of your type or anything like that go click
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